I don't get this

I visited my friend for New Year's Eve. As I was getting ready to leave she handed me a crumpled shirt saying it would look better on me. My friend is a good deal larger than I am, but I thought maybe someone has gotten her a way-too-small shirt for Christmas so this one would just be a little large on me. I forgot about the shirt, then last night my friend asked me if I'd tried it on. I got the shirt out of my bag and looked at the size. It was a 16! I wear either small or extra small in shirts. What's more is the shirt didn't seem like it had been washed since she last wore it because it was rumpled and smelled heavily of perfume. Then after I told my friend the shirt was way too big she asked if I was going to wear it!

I don't understand. Why would my friend give me one of her shirts when she knows we wear totally different sizes? I think she was trying to be nice, but in a way I also think it's rude because the shirt obviously wouldn't fit me (and I'm not the type of girl who likes oversized shirts as my boyfriend suggested.... for some reason he thinks women adore huge shirts) and she was trying to unload something she didn't want on me. I know one should be gracious in accepting items from someone but this is the second time she's done this and I don't know how to stop it from happening. I am almost tempted to give her one of my shirts that I don't want but I know that would just be childish and nasty.

So has this ever happened to any of you?
2C/3A -- wurly!
No, it's never happened to me.

I'm trying to understand what's bothering you. Her giving you a used item? Her giving you something that doesn't fit?

I would just say thanks and leave it at that. She's probably one of those people who cannot bring herself to throw stuff away. Yes, it's weird that she didn't even bother to wash it. Is she eccentric in some other ways?
No, that's never happened to me.

I would just accept the gift, and then either give it away, or get rid of it.

You have told her that you don't plan to wear it...so...I think that I might tell her that it's too big for you, you don't plan on wearing it, would she like it back? Or is there another friend that might like it instead?
I visited my friend for New Year's Eve. As I was getting ready to leave she handed me a crumpled shirt saying it would look better on me. My friend is a good deal larger than I am, but I thought maybe someone has gotten her a way-too-small shirt for Christmas so this one would just be a little large on me. I forgot about the shirt, then last night my friend asked me if I'd tried it on. I got the shirt out of my bag and looked at the size. It was a 16! I wear either small or extra small in shirts. What's more is the shirt didn't seem like it had been washed since she last wore it because it was rumpled and smelled heavily of perfume. Then after I told my friend the shirt was way too big she asked if I was going to wear it!

I don't understand. Why would my friend give me one of her shirts when she knows we wear totally different sizes? I think she was trying to be nice, but in a way I also think it's rude because the shirt obviously wouldn't fit me (and I'm not the type of girl who likes oversized shirts as my boyfriend suggested.... for some reason he thinks women adore huge shirts) and she was trying to unload something she didn't want on me. I know one should be gracious in accepting items from someone but this is the second time she's done this and I don't know how to stop it from happening. I am almost tempted to give her one of my shirts that I don't want but I know that would just be childish and nasty.

So has this ever happened to any of you?
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
It is kind of weird that she'd think a size 16 would fit you if you normally wear a size small. That's at least 4-5 sizes bigger than your normal size.

And it seems weird that she asked you if it fit. Duh!!!

Was this a Tee shirt or a blouse?

It's very weird. I guess you could just say thanks and forget about it...or you could ask her about it. Of course she might get upset if you word your question in the wrong way.
If there were more people on earth who desired their own happiness more than the unhappiness of others we would have a paradise ~ Bertrand Russell
I probably will try to give it to someone else or put it in the Salvation Army bin. I just don't know why she chose me to give it to because I'm so much smaller than she is. Obviously the shirt would not fit me. She could have put it in Salvation Army/Goodwill as easily as I can. I feel like she's taken her unwanted shirt and made it my problem because while she didn't want to throw it out she didn't want to put in much effort, either.
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I visited my friend for New Year's Eve. As I was getting ready to leave she handed me a crumpled shirt saying it would look better on me. My friend is a good deal larger than I am, but I thought maybe someone has gotten her a way-too-small shirt for Christmas so this one would just be a little large on me. I forgot about the shirt, then last night my friend asked me if I'd tried it on. I got the shirt out of my bag and looked at the size. It was a 16! I wear either small or extra small in shirts. What's more is the shirt didn't seem like it had been washed since she last wore it because it was rumpled and smelled heavily of perfume. Then after I told my friend the shirt was way too big she asked if I was going to wear it!

I don't understand. Why would my friend give me one of her shirts when she knows we wear totally different sizes? I think she was trying to be nice, but in a way I also think it's rude because the shirt obviously wouldn't fit me (and I'm not the type of girl who likes oversized shirts as my boyfriend suggested.... for some reason he thinks women adore huge shirts) and she was trying to unload something she didn't want on me. I know one should be gracious in accepting items from someone but this is the second time she's done this and I don't know how to stop it from happening. I am almost tempted to give her one of my shirts that I don't want but I know that would just be childish and nasty.

So has this ever happened to any of you?
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
It is kind of weird that she'd think a size 16 would fit you if you normally wear a size small. That's at least 4-5 sizes bigger than your normal size.

And it seems weird that she asked you if it fit. Duh!!!

Was this a Tee shirt or a blouse?

It's very weird. I guess you could just say thanks and forget about it...or you could ask her about it. Of course she might get upset if you word your question in the wrong way.
Originally Posted by KatieCoolLady
It was a plaid button-down shirt.
2C/3A -- wurly!
Was she inebriated at the time?
Originally Posted by SuZen
Haha! No. This was on New Year's Day, long after we were done drinking.
2C/3A -- wurly!
I visited my friend for New Year's Eve. As I was getting ready to leave she handed me a crumpled shirt saying it would look better on me. My friend is a good deal larger than I am, but I thought maybe someone has gotten her a way-too-small shirt for Christmas so this one would just be a little large on me. I forgot about the shirt, then last night my friend asked me if I'd tried it on. I got the shirt out of my bag and looked at the size. It was a 16! I wear either small or extra small in shirts. What's more is the shirt didn't seem like it had been washed since she last wore it because it was rumpled and smelled heavily of perfume. Then after I told my friend the shirt was way too big she asked if I was going to wear it!

I don't understand. Why would my friend give me one of her shirts when she knows we wear totally different sizes? I think she was trying to be nice, but in a way I also think it's rude because the shirt obviously wouldn't fit me (and I'm not the type of girl who likes oversized shirts as my boyfriend suggested.... for some reason he thinks women adore huge shirts) and she was trying to unload something she didn't want on me. I know one should be gracious in accepting items from someone but this is the second time she's done this and I don't know how to stop it from happening. I am almost tempted to give her one of my shirts that I don't want but I know that would just be childish and nasty.

So has this ever happened to any of you?
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
It is kind of weird that she'd think a size 16 would fit you if you normally wear a size small. That's at least 4-5 sizes bigger than your normal size.

And it seems weird that she asked you if it fit. Duh!!!

Was this a Tee shirt or a blouse?

It's very weird. I guess you could just say thanks and forget about it...or you could ask her about it. Of course she might get upset if you word your question in the wrong way.
Originally Posted by KatieCoolLady
It was a plaid button-down shirt.
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
Good lord, this makes it even worse. I would just tell her the truth - it was too big.
I visited my friend for New Year's Eve. As I was getting ready to leave she handed me a crumpled shirt saying it would look better on me. My friend is a good deal larger than I am, but I thought maybe someone has gotten her a way-too-small shirt for Christmas so this one would just be a little large on me. I forgot about the shirt, then last night my friend asked me if I'd tried it on. I got the shirt out of my bag and looked at the size. It was a 16! I wear either small or extra small in shirts. What's more is the shirt didn't seem like it had been washed since she last wore it because it was rumpled and smelled heavily of perfume. Then after I told my friend the shirt was way too big she asked if I was going to wear it!

I don't understand. Why would my friend give me one of her shirts when she knows we wear totally different sizes? I think she was trying to be nice, but in a way I also think it's rude because the shirt obviously wouldn't fit me (and I'm not the type of girl who likes oversized shirts as my boyfriend suggested.... for some reason he thinks women adore huge shirts) and she was trying to unload something she didn't want on me. I know one should be gracious in accepting items from someone but this is the second time she's done this and I don't know how to stop it from happening. I am almost tempted to give her one of my shirts that I don't want but I know that would just be childish and nasty.

So has this ever happened to any of you?
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
It is kind of weird that she'd think a size 16 would fit you if you normally wear a size small. That's at least 4-5 sizes bigger than your normal size.

And it seems weird that she asked you if it fit. Duh!!!

Was this a Tee shirt or a blouse?

It's very weird. I guess you could just say thanks and forget about it...or you could ask her about it. Of course she might get upset if you word your question in the wrong way.
Originally Posted by KatieCoolLady
It was a plaid button-down shirt.
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
Good lord, this makes it even worse. I would just tell her the truth - it was too big.
Originally Posted by Scarlet
Yes, I did tell her. I hope this is the last time it happens.
2C/3A -- wurly!
Has it happened before with this friend?

To me, it just sounds like she didn't know what to do with it...perhaps someone gave it to her as a gift and she wanted to get rid of it?
Has it happened before with this friend?

To me, it just sounds like she didn't know what to do with it...perhaps someone gave it to her as a gift and she wanted to get rid of it?
Originally Posted by M2LR & Co.
It happened once before. The first one was a gift that was too small for her, although still too big for me. This one appeared to be one she bought for herself but then didn't like the fit.
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Is she a LOT bigger than a size 16? If so, maybe smaller to her is just that--smaller. Do you know what I mean? Maybe the shirt was SO small on her that she figured it would only fit someone tiny. I've seen your pictures and you do have a petite figure.

Another possibility is that she just wanted it out of her house. It sounded like an afterthought, something she handed to you randomly as you were leaving, right? Maybe having it there made her feel badly about her weight and she just wanted it gone.

If it comes up again, I'd just say thank you again and change the subject. If she pushes to know if it fit you, I'd say something like, "No, it was a weird fit. I can see why you didn't want it."

Good luck!
You are an evil biatch, evil. Your life must suck!
Originally Posted by snowflakes821
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Is she a LOT bigger than a size 16? If so, maybe smaller to her is just that--smaller. Do you know what I mean? Maybe the shirt was SO small on her that she figured it would only fit someone tiny. I've seen your pictures and you do have a petite figure.

Another possibility is that she just wanted it out of her house. It sounded like an afterthought, something she handed to you randomly as you were leaving, right? Maybe having it there made her feel badly about her weight and she just wanted it gone.

If it comes up again, I'd just say thank you again and change the subject. If she pushes to know if it fit you, I'd say something like, "No, it was a weird fit. I can see why you didn't want it."

Good luck!
Originally Posted by Little Miss Snarky Booyah
I think she is about a 16, maybe 18. I think it was a shirt that was probably the right size, if a little small but the fit was odd, you know what I mean? I did say thanks when she gave it to me but it got awkward when she asked me if I'd tried it on and liked it.
2C/3A -- wurly!
Well is it at least a nice shirt?
If there were more people on earth who desired their own happiness more than the unhappiness of others we would have a paradise ~ Bertrand Russell
Maybe she upset because your her "skinny friend" and she gave you the shirt out of anger (knowing it wouldn't fit you).
3C/4A and too long to handle (and afford!)
Well is it at least a nice shirt?
Originally Posted by KatieCoolLady
Well, it's plaid and I really don't do plaid. Other than that it's nice enough... it's from H&M and I do like H&M.
2C/3A -- wurly!
Maybe she upset because your her "skinny friend" and she gave you the shirt out of anger (knowing it wouldn't fit you).
Originally Posted by x_tigerlily
I didn't really want to think of it that way but that did cross my mind.
2C/3A -- wurly!
I don't really get what the problem is...
she gave you a shirt she didn't want.
you don't want it either.
Are you seeing more into this than maybe than you really need to?
I'm just sayin'....
Healing Women - Please help.
Maybe she upset because your her "skinny friend" and she gave you the shirt out of anger (knowing it wouldn't fit you).
Originally Posted by x_tigerlily
I didn't really want to think of it that way but that did cross my mind.
Originally Posted by wonderdiana
I knew it was a matter of time before the "she's mmmjellis" card was pulled.

That thought would have never crossed my mind. If that's the way she's expressing her anger about her skinny friend, then she needs to have her head checked. That makes no sense at all.

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