Would You/Have You Ever Scolded A Stranger?

Springcurl · 07-11-2011, 09:01 AM

I did yesterday. I'm driving down Mass Ave in Cambridge and I saw a boy of about two years old with his head sticking out the back window. When I stopped at a red light they pulled up beside me and there were two adults in the front, the mom in the back, and the baby on her lap hanging out the window.

I looked over at them and said, "Your baby should be in a car seat. If you were to get in a car accident, he could be terribly hurt." They looked surprised but the mother put her seat belt around both of them.

I've only done something like that once before and that was when I saw a father strike his child across the face.

Anyway, have you ever scolded a stranger?

RedCatWaves · 07-11-2011, 09:17 AM

I think it might be more dangerous to strap a baby in with another person than to be unbelted at all...the baby is guaranteed to get squished to death in an accident, and might not die if loose. But I do understand your scolding. Too bad it fell on stupid ears.

I also scolded someone...also about a child...

I was at a swim club, and I was sitting in the shade watching my kids swim in a kiddie pool. There was a stroller near me with a screaming baby in it. The baby just wouldn't stop screaming, and no one was coming. I couldn't see the baby, because it was "all sealed up"...you know how parents do sometimes, they cover baby's face with blankets to keep the world from contaminating them. So, I cracked the seal on this kid, who turned out to be a brand spankin' newborn, who was bright red, covered with blankets in this hothouse stroller. I didn't touch the kid or pick it up...just opened it to the air, and pulled the blankets off. It stopped crying. Did I mention the day was about 100 degrees?

Anyways...the mom shows up about 20 minutes later and asks who bothered her baby. I said if she was lucky I happened upon the kid, because she was close to cooking it in the sealed stroller/carseat thing and what kind of idiot puts a blanket on a baby on a 100 degree day? She wasn't pleased with me...huffed off with her baby. I like to think I saved her a funeral, or at least a hospital visit for heat stroke.

SpaghettiHead · 07-11-2011, 09:24 AM

Lord people are stupid. I don't know that I've ever scolded someone that way, but I do know I've asked people to watch their trashy mouths while my kids were in earshot!

prinsis · 07-11-2011, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

I think it might be more dangerous to strap a baby in with another person than to be unbelted at all...the baby is guaranteed to get squished to death in an accident, and might not die if loose. But I do understand your scolding. Too bad it fell on stupid ears.

I also scolded someone...also about a child...

I was at a swim club, and I was sitting in the shade watching my kids swim in a kiddie pool. There was a stroller near me with a screaming baby in it. The baby just wouldn't stop screaming, and no one was coming. I couldn't see the baby, because it was "all sealed up"...you know how parents do sometimes, they cover baby's face with blankets to keep the world from contaminating them. So, I cracked the seal on this kid, who turned out to be a brand spankin' newborn, who was bright red, covered with blankets in this hothouse stroller. I didn't touch the kid or pick it up...just opened it to the air, and pulled the blankets off. It stopped crying. Did I mention the day was about 100 degrees?

Anyways...the mom shows up about 20 minutes later and asks who bothered her baby. I said if she was lucky I happened upon the kid, because she was close to cooking it in the sealed stroller/carseat thing and what kind of idiot puts a blanket on a baby on a 100 degree day? She wasn't pleased with me...huffed off with her baby. I like to think I saved her a funeral, or at least a hospital visit for heat stroke.

Sheesh...who leaves a newborn baby by itself for 20 minutes (esp in a public place)?????

Butterfly_Curlz · 07-11-2011, 09:29 AM

While I understand both of the above posters reasons for intervening, you have to be EXTREMELY CAREFUL when intervening when it comes to people and their children.

I would absolutely intervene if I saw a child was at risk for getting hurt or death was areal possibility, however when it comes to stepping in when a parent is reprimanding their child...thats a very slippery and potentially dangerous slop.

My friend had an elderly white woman attempt to intervene when she was VERBALLY reprimanding her four yr old daughter. Needless to say my friend told her to mind her own business & the old woman said "thats whats wrong you n*ggers! My friend went the hell off and other people had to stop her from whipping this old ladys a*s.

I too almost smacked the hell out of an old woman for attempting to say something to me while my family & I were at a restaurant. My son picked up 2 plates & moved them because he wanted the yellow one...not an issue. I was standing there watching him (the plates were 10 steps away) & this old woman grabbed his hand & told him not to touch all the plates. I immediately went the hell off & kindly told her she was close to getting her a*s beat & if she even looked at my son again I would fu*k her up immediately! End of issue. She dropped her head and walked away.

Now I know theres a difference btwn this and the childs life being in danger, however there is also a difference btwn BEATING your childs as* & reprimanding them. I absolutely will reprimand my son whether I'm in public or private & I dare someone to try to step in bc they don't agree...you risk getting your a*s beat by me in this case.

RedCatWaves · 07-11-2011, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by prinsis

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Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

I think it might be more dangerous to strap a baby in with another person than to be unbelted at all...the baby is guaranteed to get squished to death in an accident, and might not die if loose. But I do understand your scolding. Too bad it fell on stupid ears.

I also scolded someone...also about a child...

I was at a swim club, and I was sitting in the shade watching my kids swim in a kiddie pool. There was a stroller near me with a screaming baby in it. The baby just wouldn't stop screaming, and no one was coming. I couldn't see the baby, because it was "all sealed up"...you know how parents do sometimes, they cover baby's face with blankets to keep the world from contaminating them. So, I cracked the seal on this kid, who turned out to be a brand spankin' newborn, who was bright red, covered with blankets in this hothouse stroller. I didn't touch the kid or pick it up...just opened it to the air, and pulled the blankets off. It stopped crying. Did I mention the day was about 100 degrees?

Anyways...the mom shows up about 20 minutes later and asks who bothered her baby. I said if she was lucky I happened upon the kid, because she was close to cooking it in the sealed stroller/carseat thing and what kind of idiot puts a blanket on a baby on a 100 degree day? She wasn't pleased with me...huffed off with her baby. I like to think I saved her a funeral, or at least a hospital visit for heat stroke.

Sheesh...who leaves a newborn baby by itself for 20 minutes (esp in a public place)?????

Well, it was a private swim club, so not exactly public, but still...there were a lot of people there, and it was incredibly noisy and she probably didn't hear the baby crying over the noise of the children playing and the rush noise of the water in the fountain play area. She was off with her other kids and probably thought the baby was sleeping, but the baby was actually cooking.

FieryCurls · 07-11-2011, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

I think it might be more dangerous to strap a baby in with another person than to be unbelted at all...the baby is guaranteed to get squished to death in an accident, and might not die if loose. But I do understand your scolding. Too bad it fell on stupid ears.

I also scolded someone...also about a child...

I was at a swim club, and I was sitting in the shade watching my kids swim in a kiddie pool. There was a stroller near me with a screaming baby in it. The baby just wouldn't stop screaming, and no one was coming. I couldn't see the baby, because it was "all sealed up"...you know how parents do sometimes, they cover baby's face with blankets to keep the world from contaminating them. So, I cracked the seal on this kid, who turned out to be a brand spankin' newborn, who was bright red, covered with blankets in this hothouse stroller. I didn't touch the kid or pick it up...just opened it to the air, and pulled the blankets off. It stopped crying. Did I mention the day was about 100 degrees?

Anyways...the mom shows up about 20 minutes later and asks who bothered her baby. I said if she was lucky I happened upon the kid, because she was close to cooking it in the sealed stroller/carseat thing and what kind of idiot puts a blanket on a baby on a 100 degree day? She wasn't pleased with me...huffed off with her baby. I like to think I saved her a funeral, or at least a hospital visit for heat stroke.

I remember you telling that story once before. I had a woman scold me when my daughter was three days old because I didn't have a blanket covering her. She was born three weeks early, so we went to Target to get the few things that we hadn't gotten. This was very early June in TN and Lilly had on a long sleeve preemie onsie and a pair of cotton pants since that's all that I had for her that fit at the time. I was told that I needed to get a blanket on that baby immediately before she caught cold.

curlylaura · 07-11-2011, 09:45 AM

I nearly told off a pair of children running about in the meat aisle of my local supermarket. I was 10 seconds away from saying 'it's a supermarket, not a playground. Stop running about'. Then I saw who I guessed were the parents and didn't. I would have been punched in the face. The parents were as unruly as the children.

Also in response to a pos above, you can tell someone off and get your point across without threatening violence.

RedCatWaves · 07-11-2011, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by JaylensMami10

I immediately went the hell off & kindly told her she was close to getting her a*s beat & if she even looked at my son again I would fu*k her up immediately!

Klassy...

Butterfly_Curlz · 07-11-2011, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by FieryCurls

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Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

I think it might be more dangerous to strap a baby in with another person than to be unbelted at all...the baby is guaranteed to get squished to death in an accident, and might not die if loose. But I do understand your scolding. Too bad it fell on stupid ears.

I also scolded someone...also about a child...

I was at a swim club, and I was sitting in the shade watching my kids swim in a kiddie pool. There was a stroller near me with a screaming baby in it. The baby just wouldn't stop screaming, and no one was coming. I couldn't see the baby, because it was "all sealed up"...you know how parents do sometimes, they cover baby's face with blankets to keep the world from contaminating them. So, I cracked the seal on this kid, who turned out to be a brand spankin' newborn, who was bright red, covered with blankets in this hothouse stroller. I didn't touch the kid or pick it up...just opened it to the air, and pulled the blankets off. It stopped crying. Did I mention the day was about 100 degrees?

Anyways...the mom shows up about 20 minutes later and asks who bothered her baby. I said if she was lucky I happened upon the kid, because she was close to cooking it in the sealed stroller/carseat thing and what kind of idiot puts a blanket on a baby on a 100 degree day? She wasn't pleased with me...huffed off with her baby. I like to think I saved her a funeral, or at least a hospital visit for heat stroke.

I remember you telling that story once before. I had a woman scold me when my daughter was three days old because I didn't have a blanket covering her. She was born three weeks early, so we went to Target to get the few things that we hadn't gotten. This was very early June in TN and Lilly had on a long sleeve preemie onsie and a pair of cotton pants since that's all that I had for her that fit at the time. I was told that I needed to get a blanket on that baby immediately before she caught cold.

See...your example is what I am talking about...people tend to go a little over board at times. I have seen women who will bring newborns out in cold fall weather w/no socks or shoes on yet they are dressed in boots, a coat,etc & I'm like oh no, however do I intervene...NO. It's not my place. It's your child and your the one who will have to deal w/things if lord forbid they fall ill. Its crazy how that even if the child is not in risk of immediate death or serious injury people often feel the need to open their big mouths!

My son was also born early & I had to run out to the grocery store w/him one day. My sons throat was not fully developed so when he breathed he sounded like a kids bike horn...sounded terrible but ts not like he needed to be hospitalized. So I'm in the checkout line & this woman who had just entered the store walks right up to my cart, pulls bk the blanket I had covering him & goes 'he sounds terrible....is he ok?. I said bit*h what do you think? Do you think I would be standing in line at the grocery store taking my good ol time if there was a medical emergency?! Again...solved the issue!

Butterfly_Curlz · 07-11-2011, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

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Originally Posted by JaylensMami10

I immediately went the hell off & kindly told her she was close to getting her a*s beat & if she even looked at my son again I would fu*k her up immediately!

Klassy...

Thanks! Lol...but thats what happens when you intervene on things that are none of your business! Shes very lucky thats that was all I said!

Springcurl · 07-11-2011, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

I was at a swim club, and I was sitting in the shade watching my kids swim in a kiddie pool. There was a stroller near me with a screaming baby in it. The baby just wouldn't stop screaming, and no one was coming. I couldn't see the baby, because it was "all sealed up"...you know how parents do sometimes, they cover baby's face with blankets to keep the world from contaminating them. So, I cracked the seal on this kid, who turned out to be a brand spankin' newborn, who was bright red, covered with blankets in this hothouse stroller. I didn't touch the kid or pick it up...just opened it to the air, and pulled the blankets off. It stopped crying. Did I mention the day was about 100 degrees?

Anyways...the mom shows up about 20 minutes later and asks who bothered her baby. I said if she was lucky I happened upon the kid, because she was close to cooking it in the sealed stroller/carseat thing and what kind of idiot puts a blanket on a baby on a 100 degree day? She wasn't pleased with me...huffed off with her baby. I like to think I saved her a funeral, or at least a hospital visit for heat stroke.

I start nearly having a heat stroke myself when I see these poor babies all bundled up in blankets in 90 degree heat. Why do parents do this to their children?

Butterfly_Curlz · 07-11-2011, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by curlylaura

I nearly told off a pair of children running about in the meat aisle of my local supermarket. I was 10 seconds away from saying 'it's a supermarket, not a playground. Stop running about'. Then I saw who I guessed were the parents and didn't. I would have been punched in the face. The parents were as unruly as the children.

Also in response to a pos above, you can tell someone off and get your point across without threatening violence.

Again...thats why I stated that you have to be very careful when you 'attempt to intervene' when it comes to peoples children. I don't play when it comes to my child & if you have the balls to step in and mind something that is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS I personally don't give a damn about the way it comes out, being nice about it or if you get your feelings hurt or in that case threatened! You deserve whatever I say to you for being so damn nosy!

Nej · 07-11-2011, 10:14 AM

I almost lost it on some guy the other day. I was at the Calgary Stampede and the line-ups to get into Nashville North are absolutely insane. We had already been in line for 2 hours when some drunk doofus cut in line behind us. I yelled at him and told him to get out. Unfortunately he didn't so unless I physically removed him there was nothing I could do. What a jerk, and I made sure to let him no every so often.

afrosheenqueen · 07-11-2011, 10:26 AM

I once was at work as a cashier and had a 2 or 3 year old spinning my bag carousel like it was toy. I couldn't even get his mom's items in the bags so I told him he had to please stop. His Mom was really upset with me saying I should talk to her and not her child. Called me a b*tch. Whatevs. You saw what I was going through and didn't say anything so I said it for you. Instead of an apology I got jack*ssery. People have no consideration anymore.

I would say something again and do daily. Especially if it's affecting me in some way. If you can't /won't/don't correct the situation another person will.

cympreni · 07-11-2011, 10:30 AM

A few times, mostly unruly unsupervised kids.

I can only remember one time with an adult (at least off the clock). I was at walmart late at night, like 2 am. There were these parents there with 3 kids all under the age of 5. They kept yelling at their kids to shut up. I was only in the next isle and I couldn't hear a peep out of them. Finally after several minutes of them yelling at them I heard one of them say they (the kids) were disturbing the whole store and making a scene. So I said, No actually YOU are the ones disturbing the whole store and making a scene more so then your kids ever could. And if they are acting up, what the hell do you expect taking them out in the middle of the night just so you can browse hair products?

Po · 07-11-2011, 10:31 AM

I wouldn't want a kid, or anyone for that matter, touching a bunch of plates and putting them back either. That's why I don't do buffets... I once saw a child sucking ice cream out of the soft serve machine. Ew.

I reprimanded my old landlords for getting out pocket with me. They are mean and crotchety and maybe racist and I had put up with their bad attitude for over a year.

A year or so ago, I saw a woman/mother/grandmother just being plain mean to a two year old on a bus stop. And then she wasn't paying attention when he started running across a bridge during lunch hour traffic. I honked my horn at her and gave her a really mean look.

I'm always involving myself in public crap (people beating their kids, drunk women walking down the street alone, mentally ill people who are in distress, etc). Surprisingly, I've never gotten in a fight.

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inheritedcurls · 07-11-2011, 10:33 AM

I recently said something to someone at the library. It was Wednesday morning which has been story time for kids since the library has been opened. It's not a big library so when you put a bunch of kids in a small room...it gets a bit noisy. There was a guy in there surfing the internet that was extremely upset at the library lady that it was so noisy. He got up again..I said...if you give it 10 minutes...story time will be over and it will be quiet. "This is a library...it's suppose to be quiet". I said every Wednesday is story time...it's never quiet. He was still rude to the librarian...who did close the door to the room but everytime a parent left..they would leave it open..as it was usually always open. I would just giggle. You could tell he was really getting annoyed. LOL

My kids came running up to me after story time to show me their art...I told them to speak quietly...but was just hoping that guy would get more irritated..and say something so I could pop off. He was smart though and kept quiet. I have yet to ever see him in there again on Wednesday mornings.

I'm also the nazi playground mom when at McDonald's or Chick-fil-a. I usually sit there...and am quiet until it looks like smaller kids are going to get pummelled by the bigger ones (one's that are past the heighth limit). I usually also say not to do something that will hurt others (climbing up the slide the wrong way or climibing on the outside of the equipment). Always amazes me that the parents at these places...just let their kids go crazy with no supervision. I have yet to have a parent yell at me...but I usually ask the kids nicely. I just want all the kids to be safe...but mine as well.

ninja dog · 07-11-2011, 10:34 AM

Twice, at loud cell phone talkers in public. The first time a group of women (myself included) ganged up on a youngish man ignoring our sighs and dirty looks. He couldn't dismiss all of us at once, so he went outside to continue blathering. Victory!

The second time was at my local thrift store. I was polite until the woman in question who would would not.shut.up. (even once she hung up) started in about the Consititution. Then I went a little bonkers.

Oh, and if someone hurts an animal in my presence, I speak up. I stay out of it with moms, though. Too scary, and I don't know enough about parenting to have an opinion (unless it's glaringly obvious, like a child about to be hit by a car, and even then I'd be afraid of getting yelled at for somehow doing something wrong).

(ETA: I forgot to say that I ran into foe #2 on Saturday at Walmart. I had had a little drinkie-poo with lunch, and when I saw her, I thought, "Isht!" I grabbed my item and tried to slink past, but I needn't have bothered; she was looking away from me in the act of pulling out her phone. Perfect!)

Po · 07-11-2011, 10:37 AM

I don't understand why parents get mad when their kids are acting up and someone says something. When my kid acts up, I don't mind if someone says something because he needs to know that his behavior affects others. Luckily, he rarely misbehaves and when he does, strangers aren't mean. Never has someone yelled or gotten snotty with my kiddo.

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