Okay, I'm relatively new to the boards and don't comment all that much, but I do read a lot of things on here and you ladies seem very level-headed and smart (which is not something you can say about a lot of message boards
My mother began a relationship a few months ago and it's pretty serious. My mother is very much the type of person who becomes more and more unhappy the longer she goes without being in a relationship, because of this she's forced herself into some unnecessarily abusive relationships.
This guy, however, is neither verbally nor physically abusive. Compared to the others he's treated her the best she's ever been treated (albeit she acts like a completely different person around him to appease him, but she's an adult and that's her prerogative). I want to be supportive, if only for the fact that this is the best relationship she's had, and she desperately
wants me to like him.
The thing is... I can't stand
him. We just have clashing personalities. He's got a very "men know how to fix everything" vibe when he speaks and sometimes he makes little quips that imply he's smarter than me because he's older/male. I can tell he isn't outright trying to insult me, he's just generally around the type of women who allow him to act this way and it appears that he doesn't even know
that's how he comes off.
It's even worse when he's talking to someone he isn't trying to get along with (he does want me to like him). He's condescending to waitresses for no reason and insults them while they're away from the table for their regional dialect or not knowing right away if they have a particular brand of drink he wants. And when he decided to treat me to dinner, something I appreciated, and asked where I wanted to go I named a greasy spoon type place and he continually mocked it for being "low class" (it's a place that my mother and I eat at frequently, so when I finally became annoyed and asked her to back me up that they DO have good food I was left without help from her).
It's really important to my mother for us to get along, but it's really just draining to be around all of his negativity. I can handle people like this in a professional situation, I just can't handle it when it's concerning family matters. Any suggestions for trying to get along with someone? (and my mother would LOSE IT if I dared be "rude" in front of him, or imply that I didn't think he was great)