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greenjumper 11-23-2011 10:36 PM

Marriage Proposals
 
Recently a friend of mine showed me this video and described it as her fantasy/ideal/prefect proposal.
Here is the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJWla...eature=related

It's really long, so if you don't want to see it....It's basically a Disney World extravaganza with all the bells, singing, dancing, whistles, lights etc. I actually think it's pretty cool. My friend is a fairy-tale kind of girl, loved Disney Princesses all through high school and such, so this is right up her alley.


Anyway, this made me start thinking of how I would like to be proposed to. I never really thought of it before. (I've thought about my wedding and the a great man of course, but never thought about the proposal).

For me:
I think I'd prefer it to be small and simple. Just the two of us. For the most part, I would just want him to speak from his heart. If he were able to plan something that was special/unique to our relationship, that would be great too!
(I remember hearing about a couple the loved playing video games together. The boyfriend was a computer programmer and programmed the game to say something like "Will you marry me?" instead of "You Win!" This wouldn't be a good one for me, but it works because it's special to their relationship)

What I would not like:
No public proposals. To me, it's not intimate enough and what if I want to say "No"....awkward!

After thinking about it for a while, in that moment I don't want to care what the proposal is like, I just want to be overwhelmed with the joy of marrying someone I love and starting a life together. So, even though I don't want a public proposal, I wouldn't get huffy about it. I'd be too happy (ideally).


Getting to the point....
  • What would be your dream proposal?
  • Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)?
  • If you are engaged/married how were you proposed to? Share your cute/funny/embarrassing stories!
  • Any ladies here do any of the proposing themselves? Is anyone opposed to doing the asking?
  • Anyone turned down a proposal?

CurlyCanadian 11-23-2011 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by greenjumper (Post 1819686)

For me:
I think I'd prefer it to be small and simple. Just the two of us. For the most part, I would just want him to speak from his heart.

This would be perfect!

What would be your dream proposal?
  • Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)? This is awful, but I would really like him to ask my Dad. It would mean nothing, I do well on my own, drive a nice car, own my home, have no money ties to my parents, but I think it would be sweet to my Dad!
  • Any ladies here do any of the proposing themselves? Is anyone opposed to doing the asking? I this would take away from the type of marriage I would want. I'm not going to explain it well, but feel its something a guy needs to do. I guess to feel like they are still someone what in charge....as un true as that may be ;)
  • Anyone turned down a proposal? No...but I have turned down two marriages. Getting engaged is fun!!!
ETA ~ A perfect proposal would be right before a family event. My family is so close, if anyone heard, they would all be on the phone right away. I would love to be asked right before a function where everyone would be and we could announce it right there, to all of them at once :lol:

greenjumper 11-23-2011 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian (Post 1819694)
Quote:

Originally Posted by greenjumper (Post 1819686)

For me:
I think I'd prefer it to be small and simple. Just the two of us. For the most part, I would just want him to speak from his heart.

This would be perfect!

What would be your dream proposal?
  • Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)? This is awful, but I would really like him to ask my Dad. It would mean nothing, I do well on my own, drive a nice car, own my home, have no money ties to my parents, but I think it would be sweet to my Dad!
  • Any ladies here do any of the proposing themselves? Is anyone opposed to doing the asking? I this would take away from the type of marriage I would want. I'm not going to explain it well, but feel its something a guy needs to do. I guess to feel like they are still someone what in charge....as un true as that may be ;)
  • Anyone turned down a proposal? No...but I have turned down two marriages. Getting engaged is fun!!!
ETA ~ A perfect proposal would be right before a family event. My family is so close, if anyone heard, they would all be on the phone right away. I would love to be asked right before a function where everyone would be and we could announce it right there, to all of them at once :lol:

I didn't think of the "right before a family function thing". You still get the closeness of just you the two of you and then immediately get to celebrate with the people you love afterwards. Great idea!

favoritecolorblu 11-24-2011 12:10 AM

I don't have a dream proposal, but I don't want a public one. Lol. Too awkward.

If I got asked right now, my boyfriend would have to ask my stepfather, because of his culture. And I would want him to get down on one knee. :)

Would I propose? Hmmm. Idk. Lol. I like the traditional. I always joke around with my boyfriend and ask him to marry me. But if I were going to ask him for real, I wouldn't get on one knee. I would ask him if we were laying down in the grass, or at the beach next to eachother. And i'd casually bring it up, nothing too dramatic. :) I'd feel like a guy if I got down on one knee. :P

MichelleBFT 11-24-2011 10:18 AM

Getting to the point....
What would be your dream proposal?


Well, I'm cheating, because I already had mine. My husband proposed on a starry night, after an anniversary dinner, in our own backyard. It was private and intimate.

Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)?

Absolutely not. Frankly that stuff repulses me (particularly the permission-from-the-father bit), and had he done it I'd have seriously reconsidered spending my life with him.

If you are engaged/married how were you proposed to? Share your cute/funny/embarrassing stories!

Nothing quite like that-- but when he proposed, like I said, we were at home. His brother was our roommate at the time. I was, obviously, super super excited, and ran upstairs to tell him the news. He was on the phone with his then-girlfriend (now wife), and answered his door to me, standing there with my hand up and a giant grin on my face. He opened the door, looked at me totally deadpan, and said to his girlfriend, "I have to go. There's a crazy lady with a diamond at my door." And no, he didn't know ahead of time. But as I was informed a number of times after we got engaged, our engagement was pretty much the opposite of a surprise.

Any ladies here do any of the proposing themselves? Is anyone opposed to doing the asking?

Not opposed to it, no, but it's sort of out of the running for me.

Anyone turned down a proposal?

Nope.

rainshower 11-25-2011 07:18 AM

my husband proposed to me on a Christmas Eve when i was in college. and i was not expecting it. it wasn't staged. no choreography. no planned speeches. it was natural, including an awkward moment where he was clearly nervous. he chose the ring himself; we had not gone ring shopping where i'd picked out the ring that i wanted him to buy and give me when he proposed.

i think many of these flamboyant proposals are certainly entertaining to outsiders, but i wonder if they resonate true sentimental feelings for the couple afterward?

a friend of mine choreographed a second proposal because the first one (which was more of a business agreement) was void of romance or affection, but mostly, wouldn't tell a good story to others who would later ask how he proposed. talk about fake. :cwm10:

i think it's bad enough that most weddings are overplanned, mostly by the brides, which makes the whole event stressful, overwhelming, and something where all the stressed-over details can't even be fully enjoyed on the actual day by the bride or groom because they are so tired from months of planning that they just want to get it past them. i say, let at least one aspect of the pre-marital experience be real, even if it's not so fairytale-ish.

Speckla 11-25-2011 01:40 PM

Getting to the point....
What would be your dream proposal?


N/A

Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)?

No.

If you are engaged/married how were you proposed to? Share your cute/funny/embarrassing stories!

We knew we liked each other for a few months and started having a few really having makeout sessions and a few days later he asked me, "Will you be my girlfriend now?" We got engaged after a month of dating. It was Christmas Eve and I opened a large box, it had a smaller box inside....so on and so forth until I pulled out a small box. It was a teddybear. I was like, "Oh, thank you!" There was a ribbon tied around the bears neck and I looked closer and there was an engagement ring on the ribbon! He handed me a card and it said, "Will you be my fiance now?" That was 17 years ago and it is still one of the sweetest memories I have!
Any ladies here do any of the proposing themselves? Is anyone opposed to doing the asking?

N/A

Anyone turned down a proposal?

No.

greenjumper 11-25-2011 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by rainshower (Post 1820397)

i think many of these flamboyant proposals are certainly entertaining to outsiders, but i wonder if they resonate true sentimental feelings for the couple afterward?

a friend of mine choreographed a second proposal because the first one (which was more of a business agreement) was void of romance or affection, but mostly, wouldn't tell a good story to others who would later ask how he proposed. talk about fake. :cwm10:

What???? Wow...just to have a good story to tell.... I guess many of these over the top proposals are putting pressure on people to out-do others and have the best story. (people who care what others think)

@MichelleBFT - cute story! I hope I'm that ecstatic!

@favoritecolorblu- Interesting, I didn't even think about how different cultures conduct their marriage proposals...For example, how would the proposing go in an arranged marriage...or if there even is a proposal.

greenjumper 11-25-2011 02:21 PM

@BeckStar- I didn't see yours until after I posted mine. Awww, cute story!

gemini 11-25-2011 03:28 PM

Those videos make me horribly uncomfortable. I don't understand people who rank these types of productions as "best proposal evah." It's not a competition.

My husband proposed to me, asked if he should ask my mom "permission" (1. she is a widow and 2. I said no, don't ask permission, for what?). It was a surprise and he did do the traditional stuff--get down on one knee and present a ring--but we had already discussed and agreed upon getting married prior to that.

Narnia 11-25-2011 04:53 PM

The proposal part was great, but the rest of it? Nuh-uh. I wouldn't want to get married like that. But how the hell do you say no!?


Posted from my "smart"phone. 'Scuse crazy typos

Narnia 11-25-2011 04:55 PM

I love this though: http://shawnandcolleen.wordpress.com/



Posted from my "smart"phone. 'Scuse crazy typos

kat180 11-25-2011 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Narnia (Post 1820751)

Really? Its like a nightmare. I think I would kill him.

kat180 11-25-2011 06:19 PM

Um I haven't ever actually thought about what kind of proposal I would like or wedding. But I am the weird girl who loved how Derek proposed in Grey's Anatomy and how they got married. Just the two of them, he proposed in an elevator which held special meaning to them and they got married on a post it note and made vows to one another. Sounds pretty perfect to me - what more do you need?

Grey's Anatomy - Derek Proposes to Meredith in the Elevator - YouTube
Grey's Anatomy Finale: Post-it Note Wedding - YouTube

What would be your dream proposal?
-So I guess my requirements would be something intimate, personal and meaningful for the two us. Same for the 'wedding' - whatever form it took.

-Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)?
No - its creepy and sexist.

Other questions aren't relevant for me yet lol

Lucky Charm 11-25-2011 06:22 PM

  • What would be your dream proposal?
My DH and I took a day trip to the Berkshires in Mass. We did all the touristy fun things, like visit the Yankee Candle store, watched the glass lowers in town, had a nice fun relaxing day. We then drove out to a tower that you walk up and can see MA, NH, VT, and NY. It was a beautiful fall day so all the leaves were in bloom and it was just so pretty. He told me to look out to the horizon because he wanted a picture, so as I'm waiting to hear the click ofthe camera, I felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around and he was down on one knee and asked me to marry him. It was very private and romantic, he did a good job :love3:

  • Do you need tradition (asking the father, getting down on one knee, etc)?
He went to my parents house the day before while I was at work. Rather than asking my dads permission he said 'Theres something I want to tell you, tomorrow I'm asking 'C' to marry me.' My parents were ecstatic, and I kind of got the vibe from them that something was going on.

  • Any ladies here do any of the proposing themselves? Is anyone opposed to doing the asking?
noooo. I wouldn't like that and I know he wouldn't have liked it either. Were too traditional in that way.


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