I have done NOTHING to make this man doubt my feelings for him OR to think I'm not faithful. I have NEVER EVER cheated on him...and never would. To me, if you're not happy in a situation - then leave, no cheating involved! It IS his own insecurity - and he admits that. We talked last night and he said that he doesn't have a problem with me HAVING male friends - because reality is that I have tons of them! But his issue is in how I 'relate' to them and how I conduct myself with him there...and when he's not. Unfortunately since him coming into my life, some of the guys I thought were just 'friends' have been LESS then kind to him and have (by their behavior) made their TRUE intentions known. With that, it's set him off and made him question WHY I would bother keeping these dudes around as 'friends' if I KNOW that is not really what they want. ONE of these 'friends' went so far as to send me flowers and a card on a day he KNEW BF was going to be at my place...and then when I confronted him about it, he pleaded the 5th, acted like it wasn't a big deal - all of which I TOLD BF because I want us to be honest and not have him thinking I'm being shady. But in the meantime, I cut that 'dude' OFF!!! Have nothing to do with him - out of respect for BF and because I have no feelings for this 'friend' like that. BUT these 'friends' coming out the woodwork have been going on since we started dating....so in that aspect, THAT is the history behind his insecurity towards ME. Now the reason for his insecurity (on a personal level) has nothing to do with me at all....that stems from issues in his own past.
Based on the part that I have bolded, how long are you willing to deal with his PAST? How many more times does something like Monday night need to happen and how many apologies will you make (for doing nothing wrong) until he's happy?
I went through this, and ultimately, I ended up resenting the guy for all that he put me through because of HIS insecurities, which in turn caused mine to surface as well. We were together for four years, almost got married.