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I just got a package from my husbands aunt addressed Mr. and Mrs. Hubby's Full Name!


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I just got a package from my husbands aunt addressed Mr. and Mrs. Hubby's Full Name!
Originally Posted by Trenellm
My sympathies, that makes my skin crawl. I mean, even if I'd taken his last name I'd still have my first- at least I think so anyway? I sometimes wish there was a way to be legally married without being married. As if that makes sense! I just hate a lot of the baggage that comes (from other people) when you get married. You'd think it wouldn't be the case in this day and age, but as they say, the more things change...
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Mr. and Mrs. Hubby's Full Name
Yeah, that bothers the hell out of me. His first name is not MY first name. I take his last name, and that's enough dammit. I'd like to hold on to some semblance of an identity instead of just feeling like property, thanks.
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That happens to us at X-mas time or formal invites.
I'm w/ PH or whoever said they are not bothered by this...
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Y'all need to lighten up!
That happens to us at X-mas time or formal invites.
I'm w/ PH or whoever said they are not bothered by this...
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Y'all need to lighten up!
Originally Posted by WileECoyote - Daddy's grl
Yea, doesn't bother me.
I used to have a signature but it disappeared and I just couldn't be bothered writing another so please feel free to ingore this.
That happens to us at X-mas time or formal invites.
I'm w/ PH or whoever said they are not bothered by this...
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Y'all need to lighten up!
Originally Posted by WileECoyote - Daddy's grl
Yea, doesn't bother me.
Originally Posted by CGE
Doesn't bother me either
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Trenellm, some of my husband's older relatives do that to me too. This is AFTER they have received several cards etc. from us with our names as we use them in the card and on the envelope and some of them have been told directly what names we use. I'm not sure if they just can't get it or understand it at this point in life or if they are just doing it to let me know their disapproval of my choice. I know my MIL's friend laughed in my face when I told her I changed my name and called me Mrs. husband's first and last name, and continues to do so (I try to keep my distance from her, needless to say.) It's so rude not to even attempt to listen to what someone is telling you about their own name!
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Does it occur to anyone that they think they are being polite and doing what ettiquette dictates?
I used to have a signature but it disappeared and I just couldn't be bothered writing another so please feel free to ingore this.
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Does it occur to anyone that they think they are being polite and doing what ettiquette dictates?
Originally Posted by CGE
That's what I always thought.
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Now why folks misspell my name...who knows? grrr
I changed mine because I wanted to have the same as my husband, be one unit. I am proud to have his name and I had no strong attachment to my maiden name.
Does it occur to anyone that they think they are being polite and doing what ettiquette dictates?
Originally Posted by CGE
That's what I always thought.
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Now why folks misspell my name...who knows? grrr
Originally Posted by WileECoyote - Daddy's grl
I think messing up spelling or the title/last name a person loses both stem from laziness... if you're not sure, you can look it up or ask. Don't people keep address books or databases or whatever with correct info for friends and relatives? If they have our address, then they should have our names too with the correct spelling, title etc.

Whenever people I know get married, I always ask what they are doing re: the name thing and update my records, and even if I disagree with their choice I always show respect by addressing them accordingly, and apologizing if I forget.
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That happens to us at X-mas time or formal invites.
I'm w/ PH or whoever said they are not bothered by this...
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Y'all need to lighten up!
Originally Posted by WileECoyote - Daddy's grl
Yea, doesn't bother me.
Originally Posted by CGE
Doesn't bother me either
Originally Posted by Mar
Eh, me either. I prefer keeping my first name, thanks, but I don't find much meaning in names really.
Does it occur to anyone that they think they are being polite and doing what ettiquette dictates?
Originally Posted by CGE
not is they have been told otherwise. Especially if the woman kept her maiden name, in which case ettiquette dictates Mrs. Wife and Mr. Hubby


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Does it occur to anyone that they think they are being polite and doing what ettiquette dictates?
Originally Posted by CGE
If it's a total stranger sending me a card or invite, I have no problem being called the wrong name (or having my name spelled wrong). I will tell them my correct name when I reply to them.
If it's someone who knows me, I don't consider it polite to call me by any name but my own.
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I like getting stuff that says Mr. and Mrs. Husband's full name. It doesn't make me feel like his property. I wont however sign my name Mrs. Husband's full name, but know many many old ladies who sign things this way. I think it's sweet when they do it though.
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I like getting stuff that says Mr. and Mrs. Husband's full name. It doesn't make me feel like his property. I wont however sign my name Mrs. Husband's full name, but know many many old ladies who sign things this way. I think it's sweet when they do it though.
Originally Posted by shelli
When we get our first home I want one of those carved signs that says "The Internetchick's"
I like getting stuff that says Mr. and Mrs. Husband's full name. It doesn't make me feel like his property. I wont however sign my name Mrs. Husband's full name, but know many many old ladies who sign things this way. I think it's sweet when they do it though.
Originally Posted by shelli
When we get our first home I want one of those carved signs that says "The Internetchick's"
Originally Posted by internetchick
I want one of those too, and you reminded me! We planned on getting one, with a little date added on it of when we bought the house, but we never got around to it, and now it's nearly a year later... Thanks for bringing that up because now I'll remember (maybe.)
I like getting stuff that says Mr. and Mrs. Husband's full name. It doesn't make me feel like his property. I wont however sign my name Mrs. Husband's full name, but know many many old ladies who sign things this way. I think it's sweet when they do it though.
Originally Posted by shelli
When we get our first home I want one of those carved signs that says "The Internetchick's"
Originally Posted by internetchick
If you do that, PLEASE leave out the apostrophe! That drives me nuts.

The Smith's.

The Smith's what? It should be "The Smiths".
I like getting stuff that says Mr. and Mrs. Husband's full name. It doesn't make me feel like his property. I wont however sign my name Mrs. Husband's full name, but know many many old ladies who sign things this way. I think it's sweet when they do it though.
Originally Posted by shelli
When we get our first home I want one of those carved signs that says "The Internetchick's"
Originally Posted by internetchick
If you do that, PLEASE leave out the apostrophe! That drives me nuts.

The Smith's.

The Smith's what? It should be "The Smiths".
Originally Posted by Peppy
**** I didn't notice that
&%$@#! I didn't notice that
Originally Posted by internetchick


I'm just crazy. I hate getting Christmas cards signed "The Brown's". You can have the apostrophe if you make your sign say "The Browns' House", but you have to move it behind the s instead of in front or you'll make me nuts again. I have some friends with a cabin and their sign says "The Oleson's Ponderosa". I guess there's only one Oleson.

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