wild~hair

iroc, I love your avatar. And your sig! Yay, Gilmore Girls!


Good PSA.

This comment made me LOL, though:

I have a mentally handicapped cousin that used to ruthlessly pull my hair when I was between 3 and 5. I think I earned the right to use the word Retard.

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Mr. Grinrich, while you're becoming indignant over some celebrity's weak attempt at humor which touched on race, Trayvon Martin is still dead, essentially for being a black kid walking down the street in his own neighborhood.

Excuse me that I don't care about your indignation.

Perhaps you'll understand why I won't let myself get sidetracked from all that Trayvon Martin's death underscores about real racial problems in this country.

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nm wrong thread

BekkaPoo

Gingrich needs to apologize to the entire world for existing..seriously. He's a plague, a pox, like an itchy rash in a hard to reach place.

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frau

i never saw that psa before.
well it's news to me that using the word retarded was the same as the n-word or all those other words.
i just thought it was wrong to call someone WITH special needs retarded....but okay to call someone with supposedly normal capabilities retarded when they're acting like they're mentally impaired.

rolls eyes and sucks teeth at having to (possibly) restrict my language.

MichelleBFT

If you're really looking at this as a "Damn, I can't call things retarded anymore," moment, then you're totally missing the point. In a way that's actually kind of impressive to me. So kudos on that.

Pro tip: if you're using a slang word or epithet that slurs an entire segment of the population, it's not okay, no matter who you're talking to. So take a look at your word choices, and decide what kind of person you are, or want to be. Are you the kind of person who is going to get pissy about not being able to use a couple of words because they slur hundreds of thousands of people?

Is that the kind of person you are? If it is, are you comfortable with that?

If so, by all means, keep using slurs, because then everyone around you will have a way to KNOW that you're that kind of person.

If not, then stop rolling your eyes because you called out on using hurtful language, recognize WHY that language is hurtful, and be a better person than to use it.

It's a handful of words. It really isn't difficult to come up with other ways to describe things you don't like.

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MichelleBFT

I also thought the following might be a helpful guide. Or at least, this thread made me think of this.

Emphasis mine.

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"And politically correct is the worst term, not just because it’s dismissive, but because it narrows down the whole social justice spectrum to this idea that it’s about being polite instead of about dismantling the oppressive social structure of power.
Fun Fact: When you actively avoid being “PC,” you’re not being forward-thinking or unique. You’re buying into systems of oppression that have existed since before you were even born, and you’re keeping those systems in place."
Stolen.

ninja dog

You may have a point, MichelleBFT, but the self-righteousness is a bit heavy handed.

Springcurl

I would say she's earnest, not self-righteous.


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CGNYC

I am sort of astounded that calling someone "retarded" is considered kind of low-level rude and not worth getting worked up about and bringing it up is what? Over reacting? IT'S RUDE. How fantastic for you that you don't have a friend or child or loved one who is, in fact, "retarded" so YOUR feelings aren't hurt when it's used as the equivalent of just plain stupid.

It's like if someone was being really really thick about not understanding something and I said, "OMG, you're being so FRAU about this!" Frau = bad thing to be which is insulting to fraus everywhere.

CocoT

Wow.



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Apparently this thread was very appropriately named.

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MichelleBFT

Hey, if calling people out on offensive language is complaining, then I'll wear that mantle. But really... see my signature.

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"And politically correct is the worst term, not just because it’s dismissive, but because it narrows down the whole social justice spectrum to this idea that it’s about being polite instead of about dismantling the oppressive social structure of power.
Fun Fact: When you actively avoid being “PC,” you’re not being forward-thinking or unique. You’re buying into systems of oppression that have existed since before you were even born, and you’re keeping those systems in place."
Stolen.

Kilajo

Best post ever!!

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Corrina777

My comment was not meant as an attack on anyone, just an observation that the thread has spun off into an entirely different debate (I don't recall naming any names, so I don't quite understand why you took this as a personal attack). I would have added an emoticon to express this, but I'm on my cell phone, which is the same reason I can't see your signature.

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frau

hey everyone, i understand that the word is offensive.

as stated before, i thought it was offensive to call someone who is mentally challenged retarded unless of course you were specifically using the word as medical description. i thought the word was okay to use as an insult, kind of like calling someone a dunce or stupid.

i got it!!