Interpret this Post Secret Postcard-PLEASE! - Page 2

coilynapp · 04-02-2012, 02:52 PM

ITA. The boy wrote it. He's choosing to be happy despite all the unhappiness/negativity around him in his family.

I'm not sure how your mum got what she got...

spiderlashes5000 · 04-02-2012, 02:56 PM

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His eyes are closed and everyone else's are open. So I interpret it as he's happy as long as he remains ignorant.

Or maybe he's looking inside himself.

Or maybe bc zie is dead and the postcard is a suicide note?

frau · 04-02-2012, 03:42 PM

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Sorry, I don't see how your mom got that unless she related / projected her person experience.

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I'm not sure how your mum got what she got...

i asked her that same question!

well...first let me preface by stating that she's new to the internet as we know it. so in her mind, only women reveal their thoughts that way. so basically she thought (i guess) unless stated otherwise, all the postcards were written by women because men or young boys aren't as open.

i explained that probably the opposite is true, i think there are more men online than women and people in general don't mind talking about their inner feelings online.

anyway, i was just so frustrated that i didn't really delve too much into where her conclusions came from. i just decided to ask you guys.

coilynapp · 04-02-2012, 03:50 PM

LOL Frau! I get her perspective. If she's old school, she's probably all about men appearing "strong" and not showing any emotion, so a man/boy couldn't have possibly made the card.

But you're right, if she's new to the interwebz, she doesn't really know that many people, male or female, will express their inner feelings online as there is no judgement when things are anonymous (well judgement by people who matter)

Amneris · 04-02-2012, 04:30 PM

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so my mother and i aren't agreeing about what this postcard means.
i don't want to sway anyone's opinion so i won't tell you what either of us thinks.

here is the postcard, what do you think it means?

thanks in advance!

Everyone else around them was acting miserable and they chose to go a different path and be happy.

Written by person in green jacket and sun t-shirt in the middle of the front row.

Nallia · 04-02-2012, 05:04 PM

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His eyes are closed and everyone else's are open. So I interpret it as he's happy as long as he remains ignorant.

Or maybe he's looking inside himself.

Or maybe bc zie is dead and the postcard is a suicide note?

Possibly. It is Post Secret, after all.

frau · 04-02-2012, 07:03 PM

and you wonder why some people saw rodney king as trying to get up and others thought he was trying to stay down....

my mother quotes LAwoman:

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Not sure why this would be a "secret" though... ?

In the context of a "secret," it would be the mother
that would hold the secret that would hurt others to know. (IMHO)

she hasn't changed her mind!

Eilonwy · 04-02-2012, 08:03 PM

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so basically she thought (i guess) unless stated otherwise, all the postcards were written by women because men or young boys aren't as open.

Men write about their feelings on the internet all the time. The internet is where people go when they feel uncomfortable talking about stuff IRL.

Keenylicious · 04-02-2012, 11:01 PM

i thought what your mom though lol (minus the reason for the being happy. i didnt notice he was smiling at first)

also, i didn't assume it was the mother. i just thought it was one of the parents.

i figured the poster was saying that they passed up a more secure/stable life path (good job, emotionally/financially stable spouse, something like that) to be with the other parent, but they just ended up being miserable and having unhappy kids. when i noticed the son was happy, i figured maybe he was the youngest and hasn't quite realized how dysfunctional the family is.

frau · 04-03-2012, 05:43 AM

on that note, at FIRST glance the FIRST thing i thought, was that the mom married the husband for his personality and happiness but together had ugly kids, lol. i'm superficial i guess. #dontjudgeme
(as if i'm some beauty queen!)
but after looking at it again (and realizing that i'm the only evil person who would think such a thing) i realized that it wasn't about that at all.

Spider · 04-03-2012, 06:41 AM

Have you told your mom about this site (nc.com) Frau? We'd love to have her join and post

frau · 04-03-2012, 07:50 AM

yes, i told her and she liked it a lot and called you all girls.
but she wasn't able to navigate the site or understand links, etc.

Frau's Mother · 04-03-2012, 10:20 AM

Hello everyone...I am Frau's mother. She doesn't know I have joined your website today. Through the years I would ask Frau: Well what did your girls have to say about this or that issue in the news? She'd respond with your enlightening and witty comments."You should join and add your perspective," she would frequently say. This morning, when she told me that I did not know how to navigate the website to join, I took on the challenge and here I am.

frau · 04-03-2012, 10:24 AM

frau · 04-03-2012, 10:35 AM

In Internet culture, a lurker is a person who reads discussions on a message board, newsgroup, chatroom, file sharing, social networking site, but rarely or never participates actively. Research indicates that "lurkers make up over 90% of online groups"

being a lurker is a good thing!

SusieSuze · 04-03-2012, 10:55 AM

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Care to fill us in? We all seem to be restating the same basic theme. Did you or your mother come up w/ something vastly different?

in short, my mother felt that the wife wrote the letter and that wife thought marriage would lead to happiness but as you can see from the picture, the wife is not happy. no one but the son is happy and she thinks that is because boys are treated best in families.

i agree with you all in that the young boy (or teen/man) wrote the card and that despite all, he is choosing to be happy.

i told her she is bringing too much baggage to the picture, but she refused to believe me.

(i'm going to forward this thread to her so she can see i was right!)

I think it is amazing how we can be so blind to the simple truths in things, and we choose to imbue everything we see with our own story.

We just can't help seeing through our own experiences- it is what makes us unique individuals.. Our life experiences are like filters we see the world through. It takes concerted effort to detach from the web of our own lives and be objective.

I like to try to imagine I am looking at any given situation from 300 miles up... gazing down without any kind of involvement. Detaching from the situation and seeing that really, it is all quite interesting. No matter what, no one gets out alive.. and those that choose to let go of petty crap are the ones that lead happy, low stress lives. Living every day with the past hurts really is not going to make your life happy. Let go!

misspam · 04-03-2012, 11:09 AM

Frau's mother?

Is this a nc.com first??

And Frau, did you just shush your mother?

spiderlashes5000 · 04-03-2012, 11:21 AM

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Hello everyone...I am Frau's mother. She doesn't know I have joined your website today. Through the years I would ask Frau: Well what did your girls have to say about this or that issue in the news? She'd respond with your enlightening and witty comments."You should join and add your perspective," she would frequently say. This morning, when she told me that I did not know how to navigate the website to join, I took on the challenge and here I am.

Hi!

*Marah* · 04-03-2012, 11:58 AM

LOL! Frau got busted by her mom.. ahhhhhh ha! LOL!

wild~hair · 04-03-2012, 12:00 PM

Welcome frau's mom!

Uh, I really hope my mom isn't lurking around here.