Monogamy - an adult discussion

And I wonder about the those couples who have "arrangements". Are they happy and are thier relationships solid?
I'm very happy and my relationship is very solid.
Originally Posted by hayseedlady
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It's hard to pinpoint where I'm at right now. I've changed a few things in my life and have headed into a different direction.

Right now I'd say I want more of a poly relationship.

People in the lifestyle have started to scare me.
im not in a relationship and enjoy my freedom. i could prolly settle with one girl if she were right.
Originally Posted by zmanzzzz
Same here, except substitute girl for boy. I sometimes wonder though if I'd only been with one person my whole life if I'd be happy and wonder how other guys would be like. I was already doing it towards the end of my 5 year relationship with my ex. I think now I'd like to say I'd be okay with settling down with one person only since I've done something with my oats(dont know the correct saying ).
im not in a relationship and enjoy my freedom. i could prolly settle with one girl if she were right.
Originally Posted by zmanzzzz
Same here, except substitute girl for boy. I sometimes wonder though if I'd only been with one person my whole life if I'd be happy and wonder how other guys would be like. I was already doing it towards the end of my 5 year relationship with my ex. I think now I'd like to say I'd be okay with settling down with one person only since I've done something with my oats(dont know the correct saying ).
Originally Posted by Josephine
Sow your wild oats?
I wouldn't dream of being with anyone else. I'm happy and satisfied, and if I wasn't, I wouldn't be with him. And I'm pretty sure he feels the same way, although I don't know if we've expressly ever had this conversation.
If I wasn't ready to settle down, I wouldn't have. I know many people why settled down too soon then got divorced over infidelity or whatever.
I'm a one man kind of girl, and I love the one man I have.
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To quote wild_sasparilla:
'Thou shaketh it a little and it feeleth alright.'
Right now in my life I couldn't imagine being with anyone else - but that's because no one else of interest is around.

Basically I feel that most people are okay with monogamy, and when it gets to a point where they feel they want to experience more, it's because there's a certain someone in mind that they want to experience it with.

In any relationship, if I'm happy with the relationship, sexually AND emotionally, I'm not going to have a reason to feel restless, however, if I have my eye on someone, I'm going to feel suddenly unfullfilled in my current relationship. And this is when the trust of marriage, and vows come in. Once you feel this way, you need to remove yourself from the object of restlessness. It's the only responsible way to handle yourself if you're in a monogamous relationship.

I totally agree w/ what TRC said about monogamy being a choice.
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We are monogamous but not monotonous.
Originally Posted by yagottaloveyacurls
I like that.

Great post BTW.
Originally Posted by internetchick
Yep
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And I gotta agree w/ bostonwaves too.
I guess sex with a lot of people might be fun and exciting to some, and perhaps does work with some... but for me, the best and finest sex comes with my SO and all of the feelings that go with the whole of the partnership.

If you want to experience a variety of sex, change positions, change outfits, whatever. Or stay single.

She is looking over my shoulder and saying, CHANGE OUTFITS?!?!?! HA!!! YOU NEVER EVEN HAVE AN OUTFIT ON FOR ME!!!

Guess I'll have to go with body paints or something.
The good people do is interred with their bones. Their mistakes live on forever...
I guess sex with a lot of people might be fun and exciting to some, and perhaps does work with some... but for me, the best and finest sex comes with my SO and all of the feelings that go with the whole of the partnership.

If you want to experience a variety of sex, change positions, change outfits, whatever. Or stay single.

She is looking over my shoulder and saying, CHANGE OUTFITS?!?!?! HA!!! YOU NEVER EVEN HAVE AN OUTFIT ON FOR ME!!!

Guess I'll have to go with body paints or something.
Originally Posted by Mephisto

I'm always shocked to hear how many couples stay in one position throughout set. That's mind boggling to me.

But maybe you should dress up in a little french maids outfit for her.

Dh just shaved all his facial hair off last night, and it's totally freaking me out. I'm not in the mood right now b/c I'm really sick, but he keeps playing this 'little boy who needs to be taught' angle with me right now.

He looks so young, I feel like I'm going to be arrested.
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I'm married to a good man but I don't think it's enough. I'm definitely restless. I don't know how to get rid of the feeling.
I have been wondering if I'm capable of being with one person for the rest of my life.
I'm married to a good man but I don't think it's enough. I'm definitely restless. I don't know how to get rid of the feeling.
I have been wondering if I'm capable of being with one person for the rest of my life.
Originally Posted by FoxyCurl2
Seems a bit late for that now.
The good people do is interred with their bones. Their mistakes live on forever...
I have been with my husband since I was 19 years old (I am 44) and I can't even imagine touching another man.

We have been completely content
"what's so funny 'bout peace, love and understanding?"



"If you judge people,you have no time to love them"
-Mother Theresa

I think people should enjoy being single, because once you are in a relationship, its next to impossible to think/act just for yourself anymore and as a human being, there will be times when you will crave that, no matter how happy you are in a relationship/marriage. I am happy with my partner, but there are the times when i just want to go home, leave my clothes on the floor and just 'be' without having to think about anything or anyone else. Its kind of like having children, and that added responsibility, I guess.
Originally Posted by SaKkeh
Although being single has its ups and downs, I really agree with your post. Saying you want to settle down and make that commitment and live your life a certain, socially accepted way is all fine and good. But actually living that life and making those choices and commitments to the exclusion of others is a lot. I definitely think it will take someone extremely special to lure me into giving up freedom and independence for something else. And such a special person, depending on the age at which we meet and commit, would hopefully be plenty enough in the sex department. (plus, I'm a big fan of dress up, position changes, play acting, being in different venues/locations, etc.. so think I can keep it relatively fresh and would hope he would too).
"Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."

"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
- Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

(taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
Well Meph! I wasn't feeling this way when I got married! I thought that he was it, can't help how I'm feeling now. I can't explain it either.
Anyone got any cures???
I guess sex with a lot of people might be fun and exciting to some, and perhaps does work with some... but for me, the best and finest sex comes with my SO and all of the feelings that go with the whole of the partnership.

If you want to experience a variety of sex, change positions, change outfits, whatever. Or stay single.

She is looking over my shoulder and saying, CHANGE OUTFITS?!?!?! HA!!! YOU NEVER EVEN HAVE AN OUTFIT ON FOR ME!!!

Guess I'll have to go with body paints or something.
Originally Posted by Mephisto
Sounds like there's going to be some fun going on in your house once you are well.


I'm always shocked to hear how many couples stay in one position throughout set. That's mind boggling to me.

But maybe you should dress up in a little french maids outfit for her.

Dh just shaved all his facial hair off last night, and it's totally freaking me out. I'm not in the mood right now b/c I'm really sick, but he keeps playing this 'little boy who needs to be taught' angle with me right now.

He looks so young, I feel like I'm going to be arrested.
Originally Posted by babywavy
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I like the buffet of women too much right now.
My husband is the only man i've ever slept with and i can't imagine being intimate with anyone else. I don't believe variety in partners brings satisfaction.
I am all about choice. I think as adults we need to weigh our decisions and act accordingly. Here is an interesting article that I just came across:

http://www.newoxfordreview.org/artic...=0500-collison


I don't necessarily believe that the article is solely about monogamy, but I thought this would be the better place to bring it up.
Better everyone think your a fool, than to open your mouth and prove them right.

Perception is not reality.

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I am all about choice. I think as adults we need to weigh our decisions and act accordingly. Here is an interesting article that I just came across:

http://www.newoxfordreview.org/artic...=0500-collison


I don't necessarily believe that the article is solely about monogamy, but I thought this would be the better place to bring it up.
Originally Posted by three rivers curly
Good article!
While I might occasionally lust in the heart for someone else, I don't ever act on it. I've been around the block a few times and know what's out there. I know there's no better total package than my man. I'll keep my vows because I do believe in committment and monogamy. It's ultimately a choice.

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