Embarrassing topic but a 13 yr teen needs desperate advice!:0

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^^^Actually, it was tampons and pads that made me paranoid on my period. Especially tampons. I was always worried I would leak... I changed my tampon every 1-2 hours...not because it was full, but because I would worry that I would leak. I tried everything even the super duper tampons. I didn't have a heavy flow at all. Just medium and then light on day 3-4. I always managed to leak using tampons, no matter what I did.

With the cup, I DO NOT LEAK. And I can wear white white bright white shorts, hang upside down, do a million cartwheels and will not leak AT ALL. I even forget I'm on my period. As long as you position it correctly, you will go leak free FOREVER!

The only negative I've heard about the cup is issues with getting it positioned correctly (may take 2-3 tries to get it right, but once you do it's a snap). And the other thing is women who have super heavy flow sometimes bleed more than the capacity of the cup, so have to change often. There are larger capacity cups as well.

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Can also find some on the ground, most commonly the Diva Cup at WF or other natural health food stores

Good luck

Last edited by coilynapp; 05-10-2012 at 01:47 AM.
It just sounds sorta scary I watched a y tube video on it and people were saying it hurts a lot when you pull it out at gets stuck:0
These are great responses, but I just noticed a couple things-- yes you can wear a tampon when you pee. Tampons and your period have nothing to do with urination. You might just want to hold the string out of the way when you do pee though, so it doesn't get wet.

And it is very unlikely that inserting a tampon will break your hymen. Hymens are usually further up in the vagina than tampons reach.

I know it's a very big adjustment, but you are going to get used to this, it's going to be ok! It's great that you are asking lots of questions.
Originally Posted by diaspora
This isn't correct. There is still a lot of myths/unawareness about the hymen even today. It's not some mysterious barrier up inside the vagina, it's located at the entrance.

OP I understand how lost you feel. It's hard to find information out, sex ed is terrible and I wasn't very aware about a lot of things about a woman's body until I was a lot older than you (in fact the ladies here helped me out with a thing or two as well!)

I also had very heavy periods from 11 years old. Yes I had some accidents and I was quite ill with them as well. I wish I had known about tampons but all we were given at school were different pads and that's also all my mum used. Also I was actually unaware of exactly where the entrance to the vagina was for many years! I thought it was higher up! So don't feel silly for your questions!

A cup is a great idea once you are comfortable enough with your body and want to try it. I believe RedCatWaves has mentioned her young daughter uses one and they are perfectly fine for a virgin to use - but they take some getting used to. I have one but so far, personally, I've not be able to get the hang of it. I use cloth pads - so much more comfortable and I hated the hot itchy plastic feel of disposable pads and the rustling noise they can make lol!

http://www.partypantspads.com/

So there is lots of options out there

Last edited by kat180; 05-10-2012 at 04:09 PM.
Thanks it's good I know ppl go throughout the same thing and aren't the only one but what do you mean by cloth pads???
If you click the link I posted above that takes you to a site where I buy some from that will tell you all abou them and how to use them- but basically it's a pad made from cloth that you wash and reuse. Some people's automatic reaction is ewww gross when they first here that but they are fantastic. Healthier more comfortable and I just put them in the washing machine along with clothes to clean them.

Also I highly recommend you check out Scarleteen | Sex Education For The Real World it has in depth information about everything from periods to sex to your anatomy and anything else you can think of.
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No I've used them on very heavy days and have never experienced any leaks - I've found that even if for whatever reason you've gone passed the time where you've needed to change the pad, there still hasn't been any leakage like I've experienced in the past with disposable pads. Because of the material, in general I think they just hold/soak up a lot more.

Also (and Im sure other women will have noticed this even if its not talked about ) I found that there would sometimes be a bit of a smell with a disposable pad after a few hours and it needed changing. Nothing anyone else would be aware of except myself while switching pads. I always assumed that it was from my actual period since I just used shop bought pads since I was 11. Once I switched to cloth pads I can honestly say there is no smell even after wearing a pad all day. Even after taking them out of the laundry basket at the end of the week to wash. The smell I had noticed was simply the result of the actual shop bought pad, not my period. That and comfort and saving money were the main reasons I invested in cloth pads, though there are many more. Plus Party in my Pants pads are so cute lol
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Thank you so much I really appreciate it maybe I will give it a shot ummm I know this is a really weird (topic) question but I heard a few people talking about "popping" your cherry an please don't laugh Ian not quite sure what that is but my friend said that when you stick something up there it cann pop this thing and bleed even more
Originally Posted by Athenacurly:)
Pop your cherry means you tear the thin membrane called the hymen that is over the vagina. When membrane tear, sometimes there's bleeding.

It can be torn in other ways and is no indication of virginity.
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These are great responses, but I just noticed a couple things-- yes you can wear a tampon when you pee. Tampons and your period have nothing to do with urination. You might just want to hold the string out of the way when you do pee though, so it doesn't get wet.

And it is very unlikely that inserting a tampon will break your hymen. Hymens are usually further up in the vagina than tampons reach.

I know it's a very big adjustment, but you are going to get used to this, it's going to be ok! It's great that you are asking lots of questions.
Originally Posted by diaspora
This isn't correct. There is still a lot of myths/unawareness about the hymen even today. It's not some mysterious barrier up inside the vagina, it's located at the entrance.
Originally Posted by kat180
And I've read from many sources that tampon usage rarely breaks hymens. Certainly didn't happen to me until I had sex, which was several years after using tampons, or to the friends I had at the time, but we're just a few people. I wouldn't be surprised if the research isn't thorough or the info I've accessed isn't complete. But the more important point is that OP find a way to deal with her periods that is suitable to her.
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You're right in that tampon usage is extremely unlikely to 'break' the hymen.

The hymen is located just inside the vagina opening and it isnt like a stretch of skin across the vagina, it's a thin membrance that has several openings in it. It also wears away over time and from various activities. Some women still have traces of a hymen after they've had sex. Some women are born without one at all. But generally speaking girls are unlikely to experience any pain or discomfort inserting a tampon, virgin or not. Of course the idea can be scary when you don't know much about your body and you've never inserted a tampon before and have concerns that you might break your hymen. I was nervous about using a tampon for the first time as well.

I agree the important point is that the OP figures out what works best for her during her periods, but the thread opened up to a wider discussion about women's bodies. I think it's extremely important that girls be as aware about their bodies and female anatomy as possible, because I certainly wasn't! A lot of grown women are unaware of the actual location of the hymen because as I've said, so many old wife's tales still get repeated today about it (plus those romance novels - the kind I used to steal of my grandmothers bookshelf when I was 12 - are incredibly misleading!) It's something I was never really told about and didn't learn until I was much older and went looking for the information myself.

I think the reason why I and many other girls were never told much about the hymen is because it is so wrapped up in the concept of virginity, which is outdated nonsense. From what I understand, quite a few people, men and women, also think the hymen is located higher up inside the vagina. At the very least they seem a bit fuzzy on the details. But then sex education sucks. I simply wanted to make sure the OP had all the correct information. I could have used it at her age
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Last edited by kat180; 05-19-2012 at 04:09 PM.
^^Kat, that is great info, and I agree it's important for young women (all women!) to know as much about our bodies as possible and try to remove the mystery and misinformation about it.

When I think back, though I asked my mom about sex in kindergarten and we read a kids book about it together, and I was very curious and tried to learn beyond what they taught us in sex ed, I don't remember anyone telling me anything about the hymen other than that it might hurt when it breaks, and will break during sex if it hadn't already. It was a very long time ago, lol, but I doubt people in my generation (X) were ever given much info about this if any, and sounds like the generation coming of age now isn't learning about it either.

If men had hymens, I suspect there'd be tons of great info about them readily available.
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Thank you for the great advice I am much more confidant now
^^Kat, that is great info, and I agree it's important for young women (all women!) to know as much about our bodies as possible and try to remove the mystery and misinformation about it.

When I think back, though I asked my mom about sex in kindergarten and we read a kids book about it together, and I was very curious and tried to learn beyond what they taught us in sex ed, I don't remember anyone telling me anything about the hymen other than that it might hurt when it breaks, and will break during sex if it hadn't already. It was a very long time ago, lol, but I doubt people in my generation (X) were ever given much info about this if any, and sounds like the generation coming of age now isn't learning about it either.

If men had hymens, I suspect there'd be tons of great info about them readily available.
Originally Posted by diaspora
Lol! So true! Yeah that's literally pretty much all I can recall about hymens from my sex ed at school as well. Ridiculous.

Anyway to the OP I'm glad the info everyone gave you helped! Good luck with it all!
So I have BIG news! Today I put a tampon in the regular u by kotex click I put it in easily at like 7 :40 in the morning it was all the way up and only a but of the string was hanging out it felt wonderful! It's like I wasn't even on my period but by like 8 :15 it began to leak! I hadn't fallen out at all but blood was leaking through and dripping down the string it hurt when I took it out and it was soaked and dripping with blood after not even an hour! It said they had up to 8 hours of protection. I don't understand ! I was so happy it felt so good and it didn't even work!
You probably need to go up a size.
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Yay for being able to use one! Agreed you may need a higher absorbency one- super instead of regular for the heavy days of your period. It's not uncommon to have heavy periods as a teen. I did and could easily have gone thru a tampon in an hour.
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Oh okay thank you I was so worried that there wad somthi wrong with me!:0 I thought they would work well because though are the ones my mom uses and is there anyway to get a lighter period because I had a track meet today and it wad all day and they didn't have any bathrooms except for 1 portable potty it was disgusting
Also will a mire absorbent one hurt more to put in a take out? Is there any easier way to take a tampon out it really hurt:0 and I won't damage anything taking it out right?
My first time taking out a tampon was so traumatic! The best advice I can give is to RELAX. Make sure to take it out when it's ready- it shouldn't be dry at all. I promise this gets easier with practice.
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