Dedachan

Exactly how I feel.

Josephine

Definitely not, I think I'm too nice sometimes. But superficially, yes I am told I'm mean because of my communication style(direct, don't show emotion easily, shy, lacking certain social skills that people need). In general people close to me always joke I am mean.

Nej

No. I don't have a mean bone in my body. I try to stand up for myself and I always take the higher road, treat everyone with empathy and compassion, and do the right thing.

Sometimes I wonder if it's a defense mechanism I developed to feel better about myself. Sometimes people deserve to be taken down a few notches and I wish I had it in me to be a honey badger every now and then.

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Like.Australia

Eh. I'm a nice person, but I don't go out of my way to talk to people or even smile at them if I'm not in the mood. I'm not terribly social in general and don't get the appeal of chitchatting, so people have told me I come off as snobby or mean. Maybe I'm even meaner than I thought because I don't care? *shrug*

Fifi.G

No. Im just me. I base everything on my interactions with people. I approach them with kindness knowing full and well that I might not get it in return and that many people out there are "fake nice" and some are truly genuine. If you are good to me in return, it's very nice to meet you. I wont turn down a potential friend. If you are mean when I have personally done nothing to you, I'll see you on the flip side.

People have perceived me as being mean at times and I've had no idea how they came to that conclusion. most of what I say and do comes from a good place, based on my experiences/thoughts. It might be a bit more direct than some are used to, but that's just coming with age. I don't care to play around.

For example, A guy I know asked me out on a date. He is a very nice guy but I am not attracted to him. There is nothing there that "clicks", and I am also distantly related to him. Something I didn't find out until shortly before he asked me out, and I doubt he knew this himself. I thanked him for asking me out but simply said no. According to everyone that heard about it (thanks to a by stander) I was a horribly mean person. I don't understand this. To me, pretending to be interested, accepting, and giving him a sense of false hope would be cruel. I like him too much as a person to do that.

I've also known people who others thought were mean as a snake, but they are not. Their personality can come across as very "fake rude". Lol. People view, say and do things differently. I'm pretty laid back when it comes to the differences in human beings. Now if you try to personally attack those I love, or me, for no real reason, you'll meet mean Fifi. She's a ***** on wheels.

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Josephine

This is pretty much exactly how I am.

cympreni

When I feel the situation warrants it I am. I'd love to be nice all the time, but nice doesn't always cut it. I know plenty of people who think nice = pushover. And some people need to hear the cold hard ugly truth in order for it to get through to them.

frau

yes, i am mean, to my family members mostly.
my daughter says i'm evil, but mean is a fair description.
i tend to judge and criticize.

The New Black

Lord, you're honest!

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LadyV69

To strangers, certain family members and probably co-workers, I'm a no nonsense person. To friends and some family members, I'm as sweet as sugar. When I was younger, I was nice and meek to everyone and people tended to walk all over me and I got taken advantage of because I didn't know how to stand up for myself. Once I started setting some boundaries and started standing up for myself, some people (particularly some family) began labeling me a mean *****, which proves that women who defy the social norm of being "nice" can end up with negative social consequences and that our socialization to be nice only serves to hold us down. There are still times when I have trouble confronting someone but not as often as I used to.

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M2LR

I know some people (here) would disagree, but no, I am not mean.

I think I am of the mind that I hve a very hard time deal with stupidity or people that complain about the same stuff over and over and over again. I don't get 'enjoyment' in terms of telling people what I think, even if it tends to be blunt or rude. I think that if they are asking for an honest opinion or advice, that's what I am giving them. Sure, that might come off as mean.

I know I was mean when I was younger. Esp to my brother. heck, I'm still mean to him now sometimes but moreso because he can be a real dumba** sometimes.



My kids think I am mean.

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adorame06

No I am far from mean, I get told a lot by my friends and family members that I am to sweet of a person sometimes. Now my boys on the other hand might say I am mean when I ground them or take away their game system if they have poor grades or get mouthy, but I don't raise my voice or cause a seen I just confiscate all gaming system while they are in school so they have a nice surprise when they go to get on the game after school.

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LAwoman

Yes... all of this.

If you (GY) are complaining about a problem ad-naseum--and it's a problem YOU have the power to change--no, you won't get a boatload of sympathy and backpats from me after the 20th freak-out session.

I came thisclose to ending it with my best friend years back when she was crying weekly about her ex-boyfriend. Hooking up with him while drunk, then expecting things to change, when he told her FLAT OUT he didn't want a relationship with her. Good LORD that was tiresome.

sleepymeko

A friend just told me over the weekend that all Black women are mean, aggressive, and emasculate men (which is why most men won't date us). And I'm a Black woman so I freakin' guess I am "mean".

In all honesty, I do not think I am a mean person. I have my days, but so does everyone else. I hate it that when a Black woman or man is mad, they're being "Black" or ghetto. But when a White woman is mad, she's just mad or having a bad day.

SMH.

Overall, I will admit that I sometimes walk around with a *****-face, but this is because I do not feel like being bothered. I'm walking with my music and trying to get somewhere. I don't have the time for chitchat. But I'm the nicest and most sweetest person if we're friends and I FEEL that you genuinely like me. One of my biggest faults is that I forgive too easily, so sometimes I have been taken advantage of. I've pretty much learned my lesson though. I'm honestly just "real". If I do not like you, do not expect me to smile at you, talk to you, or even acknowledge you. I don't do the "fake nice". If I'm at the point where I don't like you, you probably really pissed me off so it's best that we are not on speaking terms. And I also have no problem confronting people. Like I said, I have been used in the past so I'm quite intolerable to BS now. If there is a problem, I will tell you there is a problem.

Anyway, apparently being a no-nonsense I-don't-stand-for-BS type of woman, that makes you a ***** or mean. I wasn't aware that it was feminine to let people use us or be as sweet as sugar regardless of how people treat us. The world still has a long way to go. Standing up for ourselves doesn't make us mean, it means that we respect ourselves.

legends

Just to be clear, when I say "mean," I don't mean things like making fun of people or teasing them when they don't like it. I can be mean, but I'm not cruel, you know?

It's more like others have said...I'm no-nonsense and have very little tolerance for ********. I just like plain speaking (which explains my abysmal flirting skills). And, again, in my head I'm super judgmental and mean about specific things, but I have an excellent filter and I know myself enough to know when my thoughts and feelings about something are unreasonable.

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jeepcurlygurl

I can be very mean. And I can be very not-mean.
Depends on what's going on and who I'm around.

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Ugh.

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M2LR

Yes to the bolded.

I am not cruel. But...if you're going to try my patience, or be dumb about things, then I might get a little mean. And if you're mean to me, or cruel, then expect the same in return. So, I guess under certain circumstances, I am mean.

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RedCatWaves

I think we need to define mean before I can answer.

redcelticcurls

For women? Anything that isn't sugary sweet is 'mean'.


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