What is step 1?! - Dating 101 please!

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Alright, so I've been actively on the dating scene the past month or so after taking some time after my last relationship.
I was out at a festival last night, drinks, awesome bands, etc. I was heading over to one of the tents and ran into a guy I went to high school with (we graduated 8 years ago). We went to a small high school, and had nothing in common back then and in fact argued quite often. He was the quirky type and I ran with the "popular crowd." I think he thought I was typical of that title.

I had run into him about 3 or so years ago, and thought WOW, he looks so good. The type that I really like but don't date. We has briefly chatted at that time and moved on. I had wished I had asked him out but never had the nerve and I think I still have a complex about how different we are - doesn't bother ME, but I feel like I'm not his "type." I used to have him on my Facebook and had seen some pictures of exes of his and they are NOTHING like me physically.

So when I ran into him yesterday, I said "okay I have to put this out there because I've been kicking myself for the last three years - would you wanna grab a drink some time?"

He said yea, for sure and pulled out his phone and got my number, then texted me right away so I'd have his. I told him how he blew me away when I saw him three years ago and I'd be so am at myself if I let him walk away again.

We both went off to find our own groups of friends.

Now I have his number, and I don't know how to play it!!?? I'm SO nervous, and TBH slightly insecure. I feel like I'm not his type and that maybe he was just being nice by doing that?

I was thinking of texting him today and saying like hey, good to see you, let me know if you're free this week to grab a drink/check out a show; that kind of thing. Or do I wait and let him do it..?! I know I'm completely over analyzing it, I'm just nervous!!

Help me please oh confident, secure curlies!

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I was thinking of texting him today and saying like hey, good to see you, let me know if you're free this week to grab a drink/check out a show; that kind of thing.
Originally Posted by Narnia
yes, you're over-analyzing...

just do what you wrote above. if he doesn't respond, you'll have your answer as to whether or not he was genuinely interested or just being nice.
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You instigated the phone number exchange so you should be the one to ask him out the first time. It would be nice if he called but I wouldn't wait around to see if he does or not.. don't play games!

Bite the bullet and do it. See how it goes, then it's his move to ask you out on the second date, imo.

Good luck and have fun!
I agree with the others. You were brave by asking in person so the next step should be easier. It would be nice for him to take the initiative but he may not. You have nothing to lose.


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I told him how he blew me away when I saw him three years ago and I'd be so am at myself if I let him walk away again.
Sorry but this sounds a little...ummmmm thirsty.

I think you've said too much.

But if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, I would make plans w/ friends to go to a bar or local spot or party. And text him that you are going to be there and it would be cool if he would meet you.

Or...

Text him, asking him if he ever hangs out at [name of local bar], bc you do sometimes and it would be cool if you could meet there for a drink.

Beyond, that I wouldn't do anything else...because
just like you have his #, he has yours. If he was really interested he could step up any time.
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Sorry but this sounds a little...ummmmm thirsty.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Lol, yep I agree. I definitely didn't use those words, but that's the general type of thing that happens after a few bevy's :P
I just did the original "let me know if you have some time this week and wanna grab a drink" kind of thing. He said for sure, but he's busy up until Friday so he'll figure something out. So, he either will or won't!


Sent from my "smart" phone, 'scuse crazy typos.
"Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.

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