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sleepymeko 06-25-2012 09:03 PM

The Black nod, can you explain it?
 
When I was back at school, my Caucasian friends made comments that I "knew" every Black person on campus because I would always greet one whenever I saw one (or they greeted me). I tried to tell them that I did not know ALL of them, just a lot of them. But I would also do a "nod", "smile" or a "hello", when I walked past a Black person I did not know.

I tried to explain it the best way I knew how. The majority of my school is Caucasian and only 3% of the student body is of African descent. 3% out of 20,000 students is very small. So in a way, I was trying to explain that seeing another Black person was relieving sometimes. Especially since I could be the only Black person in a 300 person lecture hall.

The best way I tried to explain it to a male White friend was that, he would do the same thing if there was such a small percentage of White people at our school.

But I am curious what are the origins of the "nod". Because I noticed this is done all over the country and is sort of a kinda of mutual silent acknowledgement. Does it have roots in slavery? But if that's so, why do African immigrants do it too?

I tried Googling but couldn't find anything. I'm curious.

spiderlashes5000 06-25-2012 09:26 PM

You're overthinking it. It's called "a greeting."

roseannadana 06-25-2012 09:33 PM

Huh. I smile, nod, and say hello to people when I pass them in the hall. It's called being polite and well mannered.

sleepymeko 06-25-2012 09:36 PM

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000 (Post 1981945)
You're overthinking it. It's called "a greeting."

I don't think it's overthinking when my non-Black friends started making comments about this and why do we always nod at each other.

spiderlashes5000 06-25-2012 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko (Post 1981954)
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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000 (Post 1981945)
You're overthinking it. It's called "a greeting."

I don't think it's overthinking when my non-Black friends started making comments about this and why do we always nod at each other.

You know what you're supposed to say in response, right? Plz tell me you know what you're supposed to say!:tongue8:

roseannadana 06-25-2012 09:41 PM

It seems natural to acknowledge people who are like you. Haven't you ever seen the interaction between two babies in the store? Even babies zone in on other little ones and do the "baby nod". :). It's just human nature.

Josephine 06-25-2012 09:42 PM

Yea a nod is not race specific, just a greeting..

I was a minority in my school and I did not specially acknowledge the few people of my race there. I'm socially kinda wierd and aloof though. Do most people do this?

sleepymeko 06-25-2012 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by roseannadana (Post 1981959)
It seems natural to acknowledge people who are like you. Haven't you ever seen the interaction between two babies in the store? Even babies zone in on other little ones and do the "baby nod". :). It's just human nature.

Yea, that was my response to my friends. I was just wondering if there was any other type of background or origin to it, though.

sleepymeko 06-25-2012 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Josephine (Post 1981961)
Yea a nod is not race specific, just a greeting..

I was a minority in my school and I did not specially acknowledge the few people of my race there. I'm socially kinda wierd and aloof though. Do most people do this?

I didn't start noticing it until recently, mainly because there is such a very very very small Black population where I go to school (both school and even more the town).

spiderlashes5000 06-25-2012 09:49 PM

No, Black folks definitely nod at each other. But it's not like some covert secret society language. It's just a greeting among "family."

coilynapp 06-25-2012 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000 (Post 1981974)
No, Black folks definitely nod at each other. But it's not like some covert secret society language. It's just a greeting among "family."

THIS.

A lot of my white friends would always comment on how I know EVERYBODY, whenever we would walk passed a black person and I would nod.

There are no roots in it, just a thing among "family" like Spiderlashes says.

midgi 06-25-2012 10:12 PM

This reminds me of when my first roommate in college seriously asked me why black people sing all the time. :roll:

You should just tell them, you're just saying hello. If anyone is over-thinking anything, THEY are. Who cares if you greet other black people. What's the big deal?

vegas_curls 06-25-2012 10:23 PM

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Originally Posted by midgi (Post 1982001)
This reminds me of when my first roommate in college seriously asked me why black people sing all the time. :roll:

You should just tell them, you're just saying hello. If anyone is over-thinking anything, THEY are. Who cares if you greet other black people. What's the big deal?


+1 to the bolded. And if they persist in asking, dust off the phrase from the 90's - "It's a black thing, you wouldn't understand." :laughing6:

slinky1 06-25-2012 10:26 PM

Forget what I just said.

I understand it may be comforting to you to see other black people, but I don't want you to think that you should feel uncomfortable if you were the only one there. Just because you look different doesn't mean people see you as different.

midgi 06-25-2012 10:30 PM

Seriously, Slinky.

slinky1 06-25-2012 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by midgi (Post 1982025)
Seriously, Slinky.

Even that was all true, I changed my response before you replied again.

midgi 06-25-2012 10:32 PM

Why post it at all if you're just going to edit? Obviously, that's how you really feel.

sleepymeko 06-25-2012 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by slinky1 (Post 1982022)
Forget what I just said.

I understand it may be comforting to you to see other black people, but I don't want you to think that you should feel uncomfortable if you were the only one there. Just because you look different doesn't mean people see you as different.

Uuuh... What? I don't feel uncomfortable around non-Black people. I'm part-White, there's White people on both sides of my family, my step-father is White. The only thing that makes me uncomfortable is people who are ignorant and refuse to see that not everyone is treated equally in this country. Especially when it comes to the treatment of women and POC.

The only reason I may choose to hang out with Black people more often is because of cultural differences, but I don't pick my friends based on race since I myself am multiracial anyway.

Confused.

sleepymeko 06-25-2012 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by midgi (Post 1982028)
Why post it at all if you're just going to edit? Obviously, that's how you really feel.

What did she say?

slinky1 06-25-2012 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by midgi (Post 1982028)
Why post it at all if you're just going to edit? Obviously, that's how you really feel.

Well, it's late at night and I'm stressed. I realized that people can be ashamed of me for reasons other than my skin color and that men of all races are friendlier of women of all races. It's a gender thing more than a race thing.


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