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Old 07-02-2012, 10:26 PM   #21
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I know the media trys to portray her as a self-assured kind of heroine, but all I see is an insecure woman with a lot of issues. She's been with a lot of guys...a lot of guys about 10 years older than her or more...and she's so young. It almost seems like she got pregnant on purpose to fill a void in her life and to keep this guy at her side forever.

I don't know, though. That's just my perception. Babies are wonderful, and I'm sure the child will make her happy.
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Old 07-02-2012, 10:53 PM   #22
 
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i think the guy is divorced and has a young child so for that i feel for all involved because if he didn't do right by his first family he may not do right by her and a new baby.

i don't necessarily think 6 months is too soon for anything. sometimes you know. sometimes people date for years. get engaged, married, do all the "right" things and bombshells happen and the family is torn apart.

sometimes people wait for the perfect moment, the perfect situation and the perfect partner to become a mother....and it never arrives.

sometimes unexpected pregnancies happen. sometimes people that are in love get caught up in passion and aren't careful.

lots of people are in terrible marriages when the get pregnant but they don't love their babies any less (i don't think). being married when you get pregnant doesn't mean you'll stay married, it doesn't mean the man will be an active participant in the child's life or the family dynamics. it doesn't mean there's love in the home.

she might be into this guy but i'm pretty sure she could have male companionship if she wasn't with him. yes it might be because of her celebrity status but that does give one exposure....so she doesn't have to hold on to him like he's the last man on earth. there would have been/could have been others and if this one leaves i'm sure there would be another (statistics say so). not saying men are replaceable but if this is where she is in life and she's enjoying this man and is excited about her pregnancy then i think that's human and good for her.
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I hope the baby gets the love and care that every child should receive from both parents.
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Old 07-03-2012, 04:10 AM   #24
 
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Sure, ideally a child has two married parents. But ideally a child's parents don't get divorced either. Some would argue that it is "dangerous" to have multiple men in and out of a child's life as the mother's companion who serve as a replacement father figure. But that doesn't stop many people from serial monogamy or dating around.

Don't care too much. She has money, she'll probably be ok whether they stay together or not.
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Old 07-03-2012, 06:46 AM   #25
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Sure, ideally a child has two married parents. But ideally a child's parents don't get divorced either. Some would argue that it is "dangerous" to have multiple men in and out of a child's life as the mother's companion who serve as a replacement father figure. But that doesn't stop many people from serial monogamy or dating around.

Don't care too much. She has money, she'll probably be ok whether they stay together or not.
Exactly. I know plenty of divorced men who don't take care of their children. Women, too.

Or couples who divorce because they fall out of love not because of a "real" issue like abuse. Mature adults can't make a marriage work for the sake of their children????? Of course, I'm being facetious, but what's the difference between divorcing a POS husband and breaking up with a POS boyfriend? If the rate of successful child support enforcement tells us anything, not a damn thing.

This mentality also discounts single people who adopt or foster. Are we saying children who are adopted or fostered by singles are getting a second rate childhood? Sounds like the same argument made about gay and lesbians adopting.
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Old 07-03-2012, 07:12 AM   #26
 
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Exactly. I know plenty of divorced men who don't take care of their children. Women, too.

Or couples who divorce because they fall out of love not because of a "real" issue like abuse. Mature adults can't make a marriage work for the sake of their children????? Of course, I'm being facetious, but what's the difference between divorcing a POS husband and breaking up with a POS boyfriend? If the rate of successful child support enforcement tells us anything, not a damn thing.

This mentality also discounts single people who adopt or foster. Are we saying children who are adopted or fostered by singles are getting a second rate childhood? Sounds like the same argument made about gay and lesbians adopting.
That whole mentality reminds of the the "abstinence only" advocates. If only everyone will wait until marriage, there would be no STDs and no out-of-wedlock babies, etc. Which, sure, I guess technically it's true--if everyone, men and women, waited until marriage for sex, and if everyone happened to be sexually compatible with the person they married, and if no one ever cheated, then we'd have much fewer problems. Except it doesn't work out that way for most people. Ideal worlds don't exist, so why harp on what's "ideal" every time these things happen.
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Old 07-03-2012, 08:06 AM   #27
 
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I blame Murphy Brown.


(That's sarcasm, for those of you who weren't aware of the fiasco when it happened...)


I hope she's happy, and I hope her baby is as well. I suspect there are emotional neediness issues going on, but that happens with many parents, married or not. And it won't keep her from being a good parent or make her a good parent. I agree that at least she has resources to help herself which few single mothers do.
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