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Old 07-06-2012, 11:18 AM   #41
 
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Yeah, I date for fun. I have no intention of being in a real relationship with a purpose. I just want to go out to eat, have someone to bring with me when I'm invited somewhere, and share physical intimacy. I don't need a lot of phone calls and texts, and I want to be free to do whatever I want - just like they are with me.

I'm always upfront with my desires, and I've had hurt and angry men in the end. For the past five guys I've dated, I could say how casual we were until I was blue in the face, but it still ended up dramatic on their end.
Yea, that's what I'm doing now, dating for fun. I don't even like to use the term dating since I'm used to dating being something more serious. I've been upfront with the guy I'm 'dating' now but I know he wants more..he's been texting almost daily. I can't do that or it gets too serious on my end. I'm going to see if I can balance this one. I'm not used to this in between stuff, I'm the hookup twice or serious bf type person. He wants to go tubing with me with this weekend..sounds bf/gfy to me, ugh. But I like hanging out with him.
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Old 07-06-2012, 11:23 AM   #42
 
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Yea, that's what I'm doing now, dating for fun. I don't even like to use the term dating since I'm used to dating being something more serious. I've been upfront with the guy I'm 'dating' now but I know he wants more..he's been texting almost daily. I can't do that or it gets too serious on my end. I'm going to see if I can balance this one. I'm not used to this in between stuff, I'm the hookup twice or serious bf type person. He wants to go tubing with me with this weekend..sounds bf/gfy to me, ugh. But I like hanging out with him.
I would go tubing, it sounds like fun. Just make sure you're clear on how serious you want to take the relationship. In my experience, then men I've dated just don't listen or they think they can change my mind. It's not a challenge, dude. It just is!
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Old 07-06-2012, 11:53 AM   #43
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I'm friends with my exes because I haven't met anyone else yet. I put all of myself into a relationship but the minute I meet someone who I fall for I only have eyes for them. Should this happen my relationships with my exes would change, I would probably still stay friendly and keep in touch but I have no doubts they would fall away should I meet someone else. Like I said the ones I keep in touch with were the ones I wasn't too serious about. The only one I don't have contact with is the one I was deeply in love with.

General statement: I honestly don't see how any trust is broken if another guy were to kiss me. My partner should know that I would put them in their place ASAP and not hang out with them again. To me that's the meaning of trust. I have done nothing wrong if another guy chooses to be innapropriate with me. The "I trust you I don't trust them" argument is BS, it really means "I don't trust YOU"

If another girl tried to kiss my bf (the one I was serious with in the past and whom I had a great relationship with) he would have told me right away and we would have had a hoot laughing about it. What's to be mad about?

One of my in between guys has an ex who was semi-stalking him and tried to kiss him in front of me. It was hilarious! I'm standing right here stupid. Poor girl.
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Yea, that's what I'm doing now, dating for fun. I don't even like to use the term dating since I'm used to dating being something more serious. I've been upfront with the guy I'm 'dating' now but I know he wants more..he's been texting almost daily. I can't do that or it gets too serious on my end. I'm going to see if I can balance this one. I'm not used to this in between stuff, I'm the hookup twice or serious bf type person. He wants to go tubing with me with this weekend..sounds bf/gfy to me, ugh. But I like hanging out with him.
I would go tubing, it sounds like fun. Just make sure you're clear on how serious you want to take the relationship. In my experience, then men I've dated just don't listen or they think they can change my mind. It's not a challenge, dude. It just is!
Yea I'm definitely going tubing. He asked if I'd go to Cuba with him too, lol. I don't know if I legally can but I would. I love travelling. I just know if I do all this and too often, I'm stepping into dangerous territory if I don't want something serious. But I generally go for it anyways and see what happens.
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General statement: I honestly don't see how any trust is broken if another guy were to kiss me. My partner should know that I would put them in their place ASAP and not hang out with them again. To me that's the meaning of trust. I have done nothing wrong if another guy chooses to be innapropriate with me. The "I trust you I don't trust them" argument is BS, it really means "I don't trust YOU"

If another girl tried to kiss my bf (the one I was serious with in the past and whom I had a great relationship with) he would have told me right away and we would have had a hoot laughing about it. What's to be mad about?

One of my in between guys has an ex who was semi-stalking him and tried to kiss him in front of me. It was hilarious! I'm standing right here stupid. Poor girl.
I'm on the fence about this. I guess in theory, people can be kissed against their will (without the use of force) but for the most part it seems like a crock of poo to me. IMO, most of the time people usually set themselves up to be kissed. And in that case I don't by the "s/he kissed me and it's not my fault" excuse. But then there are those inappropriate people who will still try to kiss you even if you haven't been in a situation where you have welcomed such a response. And to prevent that from happening, I just move my face. It's quite simple. Duck and dodge, bob and weave. It works everytime. Unless the person is a ninja or sneaks up behind me, my reaction time is pretty good.


Back to the OT: I can't imagine being friends with an ex. Like LadyV69 said, there are usually some residual feelings left. Any and every ex of mine who has wanted to remain friends has always maintained an attraction toward me. And I'm not okay with being friends with an ex who is still hoping that something happens between us again.


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