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Old 07-03-2012, 09:23 AM   #21
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Originally Posted by Rubber Biscuit View Post
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... you're going their way?

In other words, if you're in a group of people and someone's looking for a ride home, how do you feel about someone saying, "Oh, John, you drive right by Teresa's house. How about you bring her home?"

If someone asked you this would you care since you were going right by their house anyway or would you feel put out by someone assuming that it's not a problem for you?

For me, if I offer I'm obviously fine with it, but I don't want someone making that decision for me. Similarly, there was a woman I drove home quite often and would drop her off in Harvard Square to catch the T seeing as she lived on the other side of the city. I found out later that she was annoyed with me for this and felt like I should bring her the whole way home. So I stopped driving her all together.
No, I don't think anyone should, but I always will. I don't even mind if someone has made that decision for me. I am more than happy to do something nice for someone else, simply because I have the luxury to be in that position. I have had more than my fair share of car woes, so if I'm going that way, sure, hop on in! I figure I'm doing my part of the "pay it forward" concept.

Yikes! That lady sounds like she has entitlement issues...

Now, when I'm in need of a ride, I do everything I can to make it convenient for the person doing the driving. The Mr. and I had only one car this past winter, so I occasionally asked for a ride from a coworker. She would have had to drive out of her way to pick me up, so I routinely walked 15 minutes to meet her at a location that is on her way.
Pretty much how I feel on the matter!
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Old 07-03-2012, 09:41 AM   #22
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I've always offered a ride home when I'm leaving a group of people.

But no, you're not required to do anything.

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Old 07-03-2012, 10:30 AM   #23
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No I don't think you should be required.
Yes, I think it's a nice thing to do if you are truly going right by someone's house.

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Old 07-03-2012, 10:38 AM   #24
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If someone asked me in private if it was possible to give them or someone else a ride home I would at least think about doing it. If someone just assumed I would do it, the first thing I would probably say is 'sorry I'm not going that way right now'. I really don't like people deciding things for me.
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Old 07-03-2012, 10:46 AM   #25
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Originally Posted by Nej View Post
If I'm headed right by someone's place I don't see any reason not to, even if I hate their guts. I went without a car many years and understand how much it's appreciated. I won't regularly drive out of my way though but I will always offer to take them as far as I can. It's an easy way to show kindness and costs me nothing.

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there are also a couple of people who I see walking. I don't know them and they don't know me, but I always want to stop and pick them up. One lady looks to be a nurse and she walks down my street. The other is really old lady who is on my way to work. oh, now that I think about it, the 3rd is a guy and I have actually picked him up.
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Old 07-04-2012, 05:06 AM   #26
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I used to drop someone off on my way somewhere but stopped after age began referring to my car as our car. No.
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