Why aren't female condoms more popular with women? - Page 2

Who Me? · 07-10-2012, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

I never said you cannot get an STI when you're married. I'm just saying that I feel people are less likely to use protection during those times. I'm not saying they should or shouldn't, because I feel like you should always use protection unless you want to get pregnant and you can never trust someone 100%. People cheat and sometimes without us being aware of it (I'm sure some women or men know their spouses are in affairs), but you should always protect yourself. If someone decides to not use protection in their marriage or in a relationship, that's their decision.

Hmmmmmm. Taking pregnancy out of the equation, you think it's normal and Ok for spouses to continue using condoms for the duration of the marriage so as not to run the risk of getting infected if/when the other one cheats?

Thats how i interpreted this as well. I don't think that sounds like a very (emotionally) healthy way to go through life. Nothing in life in 100%! Everything you do you risk injury or infection..same with sex.

But back to the female condom...has anyone ever actually used one?

iroc · 07-10-2012, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Who Me?

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

I never said you cannot get an STI when you're married. I'm just saying that I feel people are less likely to use protection during those times. I'm not saying they should or shouldn't, because I feel like you should always use protection unless you want to get pregnant and you can never trust someone 100%. People cheat and sometimes without us being aware of it (I'm sure some women or men know their spouses are in affairs), but you should always protect yourself. If someone decides to not use protection in their marriage or in a relationship, that's their decision.

Hmmmmmm. Taking pregnancy out of the equation, you think it's normal and Ok for spouses to continue using condoms for the duration of the marriage so as not to run the risk of getting infected if/when the other one cheats?

Thats how i interpreted this as well. I don't think that sounds like a very (emotionally) healthy way to go through life. Nothing in life in 100%! Everything you do you risk injury or infection..same with sex.

But back to the female condom...has anyone ever actually used one?

Exactly, everything has risk. That's what trusting someone is about. Opening yourself up to the risk of being hurt, or deceived.

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RideTheLightning · 07-10-2012, 05:52 PM

In my current relationship i don't carry condoms, but both my partner and I have large amounts at either house.
In the past, ofc, i've carried condoms but not female ones. I used one once and hated it, so I don't plan on using one again.
If i'm in the situation where i'm planning on having sex with someone and there isn't a male condom, I just won't have sex. No matter how heated the moment, i've always said no when we didn't have protection. And i've never been in a situation where i had a female condom but not a male one.
IMO i think they're not popular because they're just not preferred by most (any of the women i know that used them don't like them).

CurlyCanadian · 07-10-2012, 06:11 PM

I don't really understand what this post is about? I understand women looking after themselves and having condoms ready if there is a chance for sex, but what do the female condoms have to do with it? Why should you be carrying both???

I have yet to meet a guy who would turn down sex because he had to wear a condom.

Josephine · 07-10-2012, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian

I don't really understand what this post is about? I understand women looking after themselves and having condoms ready if there is a chance for sex, but what do the female condoms have to do with it? Why should you be carrying both???

I have yet to meet a guy who would turn down sex because he had to wear a condom.

Yea I'm really confused to. If it's about protection, why would you even use the female condom? I have also yet to meet a guy to turn down sex because he didn't want to wear a condom. If there is no condom, you protect yourself by not having sex. Or is it being assumed the guy might rape you or you decide to do it anyways w/out a condom?? Still, I don't understand the female condom part.

Also, do they sell them at drugstores? I''m assuming they do, I've never even seen the box or what it looks like. Off to google now.

LadyV69 · 07-11-2012, 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Josephine

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Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian

I don't really understand what this post is about? I understand women looking after themselves and having condoms ready if there is a chance for sex, but what do the female condoms have to do with it? Why should you be carrying both???

I have yet to meet a guy who would turn down sex because he had to wear a condom.

Yea I'm really confused to. If it's about protection, why would you even use the female condom? I have also yet to meet a guy to turn down sex because he didn't want to wear a condom. If there is no condom, you protect yourself by not having sex. Or is it being assumed the guy might rape you or you decide to do it anyways w/out a condom?? Still, I don't understand the female condom part.

Also, do they sell them at drugstores? I''m assuming they do, I've never even seen the box or what it looks like. Off to google now.

I've known that female condoms have existed for a while, but honestly, I have no clue what they look like and no one I know has ever used one. They may not be popular because they aren't widely available.

Also, as far as guys turning down sex because he had to wear a (male) condom, I've had that happen to me on a couple of occasions. A lot of men really don't like them because they dull sensation. If a guy insists on going bareback and it's early in the relationship, that's your cue to run.

Nej · 07-11-2012, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyV69

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Originally Posted by Josephine

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Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian

I don't really understand what this post is about? I understand women looking after themselves and having condoms ready if there is a chance for sex, but what do the female condoms have to do with it? Why should you be carrying both???

I have yet to meet a guy who would turn down sex because he had to wear a condom.

Yea I'm really confused to. If it's about protection, why would you even use the female condom? I have also yet to meet a guy to turn down sex because he didn't want to wear a condom. If there is no condom, you protect yourself by not having sex. Or is it being assumed the guy might rape you or you decide to do it anyways w/out a condom?? Still, I don't understand the female condom part.

Also, do they sell them at drugstores? I''m assuming they do, I've never even seen the box or what it looks like. Off to google now.

I've known that female condoms have existed for a while, but honestly, I have no clue what they look like and no one I know has ever used one. They may not be popular because they aren't widely available.

Also, as far as guys turning down sex because he had to wear a (male) condom, I've had that happen to me on a couple of occasions. A lot of men really don't like them because they dull sensation. If a guy insists on going bareback and it's early in the relationship, that's your cue to run.

Yup. Female condoms are less effective, more expensive, and I've heard they're worse than male ones as far as sensation goes . If I guy isn't going to suit up I doubt he'll be up for a female one.

They have a ring that sits outside your vagina and then goes inside. Awkward.

Why bother when male ones are a better option?

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thelio · 07-12-2012, 06:21 AM

A few weeks ago they were handing out male and female condoms at the gay pride parade. I always thought female comdoms were mainly for lesbians to use because they can't use condoms but can still get std's.

GuardianB · 07-12-2012, 09:29 AM

My wife has had a partial hysterectomy. I've had a vasectomy. The odds of an unwanted pregnancy are low enough that we take the risk in our committed relationship to not use protection.

I'm sorry but I do trust her 100%. I'm pretty sure she trusts me. We don't use any protection but I feel anyone who doesn't feel they are in that situation should always strive to have the resources for themselves. The male condom seems to be the easiest, most effective, economic option for all.

iroc · 07-12-2012, 10:03 AM

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A few weeks ago they were handing out male and female condoms at the gay pride parade. I always thought female comdoms were mainly for lesbians to use because they can't use condoms but can still get std's.

I feel so stupid to never have even considered this.

I guess I never had to BC it didn't apply to me.

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OBB · 07-13-2012, 07:39 AM

a woman carrying male condoms is the norm but if a man was caught carrying female condoms he'd never hear the end of it

SusieSuze · 07-14-2012, 01:04 AM

Having had a partner who had problems using condoms (even the very largest XXL condoms were too tight), the perfect answer was the female condom.

It didn't work perfectly, but it was a lot better than male condoms for our situation.

Po · 07-14-2012, 04:14 AM

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a woman carrying male condoms is the norm but if a man was caught carrying female condoms he'd never hear the end of it

I'd imagine!

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I've never used a female condom. Doesn't the condom come out when he pulls out or during the "out" stroke? How does it adhere to the inside of the vagina (I know "inside of the vagina" is redundant...)?

SarcasmIsBeauty · 07-14-2012, 04:54 AM

^^the condom has a flexible ring in the condom to keep it in place. It's quite uncomfortable (IME).

Saria · 07-14-2012, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by SusieSuze

Having had a partner who had problems using condoms (even the very largest XXL condoms were too tight), the perfect answer was the female condom.

It didn't work perfectly, but it was a lot better than male condoms for our situation.

You can order larger condoms online.

Amneris · 07-14-2012, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

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I disagree. I think everyone who's having (or willing to have) sex without monogamy should carry regular condoms. I think both parties have equal responsibility for that. But I think the female condom is awkward and unnecessary. I've never used one, but I've seen and held one. No thanks.

You should wear condoms even if you're in a committed relationship IMHO, unless you're married.

Female condoms may be awkward, but they are necessary for safe sex if you do not have a male condom. Carry either or because you never know and it's never wrong to have a back-up plan.

Especially in this day and age.

Anyway, anyone actually use condoms during oral sex as well? This doesn't seem that common, but you can still get something if you don't.

Why would marriage make a difference as compared to a committed relationship?

At some point, there has to be a time when there is trust in a relationship, which will vary for each person and relationship, but no, I don't think that everyone in a relationship needs to use a condom. For casual sex, new relationships etc. absolutely, but there will come a time when they are no longer necessary. If there doesn't, that's not a relationship I'd want to be in.

sleepymeko · 07-15-2012, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

I never said you cannot get an STI when you're married. I'm just saying that I feel people are less likely to use protection during those times. I'm not saying they should or shouldn't, because I feel like you should always use protection unless you want to get pregnant and you can never trust someone 100%. People cheat and sometimes without us being aware of it (I'm sure some women or men know their spouses are in affairs), but you should always protect yourself. If someone decides to not use protection in their marriage or in a relationship, that's their decision.

Hmmmmmm. Taking pregnancy out of the equation, you think it's normal and Ok for spouses to continue using condoms for the duration of the marriage so as not to run the risk of getting infected if/when the other one cheats?

I don't think it's possible to take pregnancy out of the question unless their is a fertility problem IMHO.

sleepymeko · 07-15-2012, 11:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Amneris

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

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Originally Posted by Who Me?

I disagree. I think everyone who's having (or willing to have) sex without monogamy should carry regular condoms. I think both parties have equal responsibility for that. But I think the female condom is awkward and unnecessary. I've never used one, but I've seen and held one. No thanks.

You should wear condoms even if you're in a committed relationship IMHO, unless you're married.

Female condoms may be awkward, but they are necessary for safe sex if you do not have a male condom. Carry either or because you never know and it's never wrong to have a back-up plan.

Especially in this day and age.

Anyway, anyone actually use condoms during oral sex as well? This doesn't seem that common, but you can still get something if you don't.

Why would marriage make a difference as compared to a committed relationship?

At some point, there has to be a time when there is trust in a relationship, which will vary for each person and relationship, but no, I don't think that everyone in a relationship needs to use a condom. For casual sex, new relationships etc. absolutely, but there will come a time when they are no longer necessary. If there doesn't, that's not a relationship I'd want to be in.

That's fair and everyone has their opinion on the manner, but I disagree.

Eilonwy · 07-16-2012, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by thelio

I always thought female comdoms were mainly for lesbians to use because they can't use condoms but can still get std's.

Maybe I'm naive, but I don't think you'd need a female condom for anything but penis-in-vagina sex. Safer-sex options for lesbian sex would be stuff like dental dams, gloves, and male condoms (for toys). I guess you could use a female condom instead of a male one, but I don't see why you'd do that.

I think they were handing out female condoms as part of a general effort to promote safer sex.

spiderlashes5000 · 07-16-2012, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

I never said you cannot get an STI when you're married. I'm just saying that I feel people are less likely to use protection during those times. I'm not saying they should or shouldn't, because I feel like you should always use protection unless you want to get pregnant and you can never trust someone 100%. People cheat and sometimes without us being aware of it (I'm sure some women or men know their spouses are in affairs), but you should always protect yourself. If someone decides to not use protection in their marriage or in a relationship, that's their decision.

Hmmmmmm. Taking pregnancy out of the equation, you think it's normal and Ok for spouses to continue using condoms for the duration of the marriage so as not to run the risk of getting infected if/when the other one cheats?

I don't think it's possible to take pregnancy out of the question unless their is a fertility problem IMHO.

I mean, there are a lot of married couples where one or both is sterilized, or where BC pills or a semi-permanent of contraception is being used...and pregnancy is not a significant risk. Referring to those couples....should they continue to use condoms, additionally, forever, in anticipation of one of them cheating?