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07-17-2012, 10:46 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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Over 30...and confused..
So I like to go out...but the clubs and lounges tend to be packed with 20 something's...are too crowded and tend to have bad music. I get hit on by these children. I bought a sexy going out dress..I get it and it fits everywhere else but it's too damn short...I'm gonna be 34 this year...I just can't. I'm looking around for clothes and they are trashy...short and low cut at the same time. That prompted me to do an Internet search on the subject...so I found articles talking about all the stuff a person should stop doing when they hit 30. No more low rise jeans ( which I live in)...no more bikinis ( I just had one on last weekend) I feel lost. I don't want to seem like I am trying too hard to be young...but damn!
Any thoughts. I can't be the only one.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
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07-17-2012, 10:49 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2002
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Sorry but that's stupid (not you those rules). I'm sure there are lots of higher end lounges and clubs that appeals to your age group. I'm 27 ad still do that stuff. I plan on doing it for as long as it suits me.
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07-17-2012, 11:07 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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seriously...
wear what you want.
just make sure it fits and you're comfortable in it and you're not showing anything you don't want showing!
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07-17-2012, 11:11 AM
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Join Date: Jul 2008
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idk...maybe it's time to find more mature pasttimes.
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07-17-2012, 11:20 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2003
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Be comfortable. Whatever it is you do and wear and say... be comfortable and confident that it is you. Don't fall into trends, rules or stereotypes.
(unless that is what you really want...)
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07-17-2012, 11:20 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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I do wear what I want...but it's just hard to find a happy medium that is still sexy but not slutty...and not boring and prudish.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
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07-17-2012, 11:28 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2003
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People are going to judge regardless. F-'em. 
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07-17-2012, 11:39 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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you should see the top i'm planning to wear to a party - at a bar - that my friends are dragging me to in 10 days' time. it's probably on the edge of sexy since i'm so busty, but if the weather remains like this, my Jessica Simpson lace camisole is going out on the town.
i have *killer* red and white rhinestone earrings too!
eta. the 4-inch peep-toe platform leopard pumps are going to the party, too...
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Last edited by rouquinne; 07-17-2012 at 11:41 AM.
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07-17-2012, 11:39 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2003
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Exactly. I am 37 and was at the beach in a bikini yesterday. I'm of the opinion that anything goes at the beach! I certainly don't care what other people wear at the beach. It's hot, sandy, and salty - wear whatever makes you comfortable!
And you can definitely find sexy, going-out clothes that aren't too revealing. My usual uniform is a nice top, some dark-wash jeans, and high-heeled sandals (or boots in the cooler months). That's on the odd occasion I actually go out somewhere nice
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07-17-2012, 11:49 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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@divegirl
That's usually my uniform too....heels..a tank top or some other cute top, dark jeans. I was only looking for a dress because 1) I could probably use more dresses and 2) my cousin wanted to go to this fancy place and I needed one.
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
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07-17-2012, 12:01 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2001
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Where do you live? Are there not bars/clubs that have an older crowd? I'm 33 and my age range and older have many places to go to in Atlanta. In fact sometimes some places are too 'old' for me. As far as sexy dresses, I see many that are not too short(because I'm looking for the short ones!).
As far as what to wear, whatever you feel good in. I wear whatever, and usually the trendy stuff. I think those rules are crazy, especially the bikini one, i dont ever see myself stop wearing bikinis until my body gets too out of shape and that has nothing to do with age.
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07-17-2012, 12:27 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 1,548
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@josephine
I'm in Philly...I've always been older than my friends so we hung out in younger places...that was cool until like 2 years ago...when the places loaded with infants started pissin me off...lol
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
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07-17-2012, 12:30 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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If you're going to a place packed with 20-somethings, you're going to get hit on by 20-somethings. I don't know if the way you're dressed will change that.
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07-17-2012, 12:36 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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at 52, i get hit on by no one, even when at bars crowded with 20-somethings!
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07-17-2012, 12:58 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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@ursula
I know...that's why I am trying to find places with an older crowd...but having a hard time. I don't go to those places anymore cause they annoy me
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
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07-17-2012, 01:20 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2001
Posts: 5,976
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You're going to the wrong places, and shopping at the wrong stores. That's all there is to it.
Until you find a place that fits your tastes and demographics, try a new place every single time you go out. Pass up anyplace with a line, a cover charge, or cheap drink specials.
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07-17-2012, 01:53 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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Ah, OK. Instead of doing internet searches for appropriate clothing for 30-somethings, you can do searches for bars and clubs that are popular with the age group. We have a publication where I live that does an annual "Best of" issue, and they just came out with this year's. It has categories for "Best Singles Scene, 20-something," "...30-something," and "...40-something." I totally intend to check out the 30-something one! I'm sure there's something like that for Philly.
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07-17-2012, 01:54 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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@who me,
That makes sense. I guess I gotta try a lot of new stuff. I was sheltered a lot and didn't start going out and being social till I was in my late 20's. The friends I made were younger and because I had never been part of that scene before I was just thrilled to be social. Now that it's been a few years...I am longing for a more sophisticated crowd. So far I'm just doing Internet searches to find reviews of places to see where I might wanna try
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Back on Cones,so now my routine is,wash with Deva No-Poo every other day or so. Occasionally use 365 sulfate free,maybe use low sulfate shampoo mixed with conditioner once every two weeks are longer. I condition with Aussie Moist or HEHH. I style with a little GF TN,and finish up with tons of GN Pure Clean Smoothing Cream. No frizz...slippy, happy hair.
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07-17-2012, 01:54 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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Me neither! I just meant that, if she's going to get hit on, it's going to be by a 20-something.
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07-17-2012, 01:56 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2009
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I'm with this.
My friends who are 34 (as am I) and still frequent clubs and bars get a raised eyebrow from me.
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