what was that about?

HipsterSoul · 08-03-2012, 02:58 PM

I was at school scheduling some classes a few days ago and this redheaded white woman( I say that for a reason) comes up o me and compliments my hair and outfit. Then we start talking and mentions her boyfriend who is black(so?) And offers for me to hang out with her friends sometime. Then my SO, who is white,comes over and I introduce her to him and she gives me this look like..."oh"... like she was dissapointed or something and looks him up and down. I Thought that was weird.

But anyways, I thought I'd be open minded and exchange numbers. I lost hers LOL but she never called to hang out. I'm not usually the type to just randomly talk to and hang out with people I barely know but thought we had stuff in common. What could that have been about? Or maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions.

After we left my SO said that she looked at us weird after meeting him. I thought it was weird that she brought up dating black guys like I cared.

I Mean, is she now discusted that I'm with a white Guy and decided she didn't want to be friends with someone like that look?

THERE ARE SOME STRANGE PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.

Honeycurls · 08-03-2012, 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HipsterSoul

I was at school scheduling some classes a few days ago and this redheaded white woman( I say that for a reason) comes up o me and compliments my hair and outfit. Then we start talking and mentions her boyfriend who is black(so?) And offers for me to hang out with her friends sometime. Then my SO, who is white,comes over and I introduce her to him and she gives me this look like..."oh"... like she was dissapointed or something and looks him up and down. I Thought that was weird.

But anyways, I thought I'd be open minded and exchange numbers. I lost hers LOL but she never called to hang out. I'm not usually the type to just randomly talk to and hang out with people I barely know but thought we had stuff in common. What could that have been about? Or maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions.

After we left my SO said that she looked at us weird after meeting him. I thought it was weird that she brought up dating black guys like I cared.

I Mean, is she now discusted that I'm with a white Guy and decided she didn't want to be friends with someone like that look?

THERE ARE SOME STRANGE PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.

It's been my experience (I'm 46 and have dealt with her type more times than I care to count) that they are usually trying to surround themselves with as many "real" black people as possible (as bait for black men), often use typically black colloquialisms/slang/"accents" that they were not raised with, and you DQ'd yourself from that group by dating a white man. This type of woman also doesn't like light-skinned black women like me because we aren't "black enough" for them (if you can believe that ish) and often use any biracial children they have from previous relationships as "bait" for attracting other black men--sort of a marketing tool. Oh, yes, I have experienced it firsthand SEVERAL times. This type of woman, while she likes to duplicitously surround herself with black female friends, also typically considers herself to be better and more desirable than black women to black men, and she'll laugh about this with her white friends behind her black "friends'" backs (yes, I've experienced this as well.) That you have a white SO was likely intimidating to her and that you probably weren't going to be good "black man bait" for her.

Does anything I've said describe that woman?

Please note that I did not say "all" nor do I mean this to include all non-black women in or open to relationships with black men--I'm talking about a specific type of woman, and we all know them when we encounter them. My husband is white, I am part-white, and I have no issues with interracial relationships AT ALL. My son is multiracial and his girlfriend is Chinese. I couldn't care less about that--except that her parents hate my son's ethnic makeup--even when they thought he was just a "dirty filipino."

I'm simply giving my anecdotally-based opinion of this particular woman and women I believe to be like her. This is the kind of woman who others often describe as "trying to be black" or "acting black."

roseannadana · 08-03-2012, 04:43 PM

Maybe she lost your phone number too and shes posting somewhere, wondering why you don't want to be friends!

HipsterSoul · 08-03-2012, 04:49 PM

Yes, I picked up on that when she started going on about black guys she hangs out with. I laughed on the inside when I saw her face when meeting my boyfriend. I guess she expected me to be single or jealous but instead saw that I have "one of her kind" as well.

Girl, I'm trying to network, not play interracial dating sherades with you. The only color I care about is green. Give me a job.

Who Me? · 08-03-2012, 04:53 PM

Maybe she assumed you were single and looking for a black man, so she wanted to set you up with her black male friends? But then found out you werent, and it ruined her plans. That's the only "innocent" excuse I can think of!

HipsterSoul · 08-03-2012, 04:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by roseannadana

Maybe she lost your phone number too and shes posting somewhere, wondering why you don't want to be friends!

Id believe that if she didn't text my number into her contacts LOL. Oh well.

Honeycurls · 08-03-2012, 05:02 PM

It's difficult to understand people like this if you've never actually encountered one--or believe that they even exist. The signs are all there, though, if you know what to look for--their agenda is patently obvious.

I don't approach random white women and tell them that I am married to a white man...so wanna be frenz? In fact, I've never known any black woman to do that...not saying that it has never happened...I've just never experienced it personally.

Honeycurls · 08-03-2012, 05:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HipsterSoul

Yes, I picked up on that when she started going on about black guys she hangs out with. I laughed on the inside when I saw her face when meeting my boyfriend. I guess she expected me to be single or jealous but instead saw that I have "one of her kind" as well.

Girl, I'm trying to network, not play interracial dating sherades with you. The only color I care about is green. Give me a job.

Trust me, she's trying to "network," too! LOL

OK...back to my research paper, though this is WAY more fun!

HipsterSoul · 08-03-2012, 05:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Honeycurls

It's difficult to understand people like this if you've never actually encountered one--or believe that they even exist. The signs are all there, though, if you know what to look for--their agenda is patently obvious.

I don't approach random white women and tell them that I am married to a white man...so wanna be frenz? In fact, I've never known any black woman to do that...not saying that it has never happened...I've just never experienced it personally.

I'Ve never known for that to happen, though I'm not surprised.

If you want to make new friends, great, Get to know me but don't interrupt me and my learnings to tell me that you date black men LOL in an attempt to make me jealous.

HipsterSoul · 08-03-2012, 05:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Who Me?

Maybe she assumed you were single and looking for a black man, so she wanted to set you up with her black male friends? But then found out you werent, and it ruined her plans. That's the only "innocent" excuse I can think of!

I mentioned that I had a boyfriend. I told her that me and my boyfriend just moved to the area.

She just wasn't expecting an ivory gentleman.

spiderlashes5000 · 08-06-2012, 11:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Honeycurls

Quote:

Originally Posted by HipsterSoul

I was at school scheduling some classes a few days ago and this redheaded white woman( I say that for a reason) comes up o me and compliments my hair and outfit. Then we start talking and mentions her boyfriend who is black(so?) And offers for me to hang out with her friends sometime. Then my SO, who is white,comes over and I introduce her to him and she gives me this look like..."oh"... like she was dissapointed or something and looks him up and down. I Thought that was weird.

But anyways, I thought I'd be open minded and exchange numbers. I lost hers LOL but she never called to hang out. I'm not usually the type to just randomly talk to and hang out with people I barely know but thought we had stuff in common. What could that have been about? Or maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions.

After we left my SO said that she looked at us weird after meeting him. I thought it was weird that she brought up dating black guys like I cared.

I Mean, is she now discusted that I'm with a white Guy and decided she didn't want to be friends with someone like that look?

THERE ARE SOME STRANGE PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.

It's been my experience (I'm 46 and have dealt with her type more times than I care to count) that they are usually trying to surround themselves with as many "real" black people as possible (as bait for black men), often use typically black colloquialisms/slang/"accents" that they were not raised with, and you DQ'd yourself from that group by dating a white man. This type of woman also doesn't like light-skinned black women like me because we aren't "black enough" for them (if you can believe that ish) and often use any biracial children they have from previous relationships as "bait" for attracting other black men--sort of a marketing tool. Oh, yes, I have experienced it firsthand SEVERAL times. This type of woman, while she likes to duplicitously surround herself with black female friends, also typically considers herself to be better and more desirable than black women to black men, and she'll laugh about this with her white friends behind her black "friends'" backs (yes, I've experienced this as well.) That you have a white SO was likely intimidating to her and that you probably weren't going to be good "black man bait" for her.

Does anything I've said describe that woman?

Please note that I did not say "all" nor do I mean this to include all non-black women in or open to relationships with black men--I'm talking about a specific type of woman, and we all know them when we encounter them. My husband is white, I am part-white, and I have no issues with interracial relationships AT ALL. My son is multiracial and his girlfriend is Chinese. I couldn't care less about that--except that her parents hate my son's ethnic makeup--even when they thought he was just a "dirty filipino."

I'm simply giving my anecdotally-based opinion of this particular woman and women I believe to be like her. This is the kind of woman who others often describe as "trying to be black" or "acting black."

Not wanting to generalize too much but yes, I've seen this. More common than I once realized and rather disturbing.

afrosheenqueen · 08-06-2012, 04:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

Quote:

Originally Posted by Honeycurls

Quote:

Originally Posted by HipsterSoul

I was at school scheduling some classes a few days ago and this redheaded white woman( I say that for a reason) comes up o me and compliments my hair and outfit. Then we start talking and mentions her boyfriend who is black(so?) And offers for me to hang out with her friends sometime. Then my SO, who is white,comes over and I introduce her to him and she gives me this look like..."oh"... like she was dissapointed or something and looks him up and down. I Thought that was weird.

But anyways, I thought I'd be open minded and exchange numbers. I lost hers LOL but she never called to hang out. I'm not usually the type to just randomly talk to and hang out with people I barely know but thought we had stuff in common. What could that have been about? Or maybe I'm just jumping to conclusions.

After we left my SO said that she looked at us weird after meeting him. I thought it was weird that she brought up dating black guys like I cared.

I Mean, is she now discusted that I'm with a white Guy and decided she didn't want to be friends with someone like that look?

THERE ARE SOME STRANGE PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.

It's been my experience (I'm 46 and have dealt with her type more times than I care to count) that they are usually trying to surround themselves with as many "real" black people as possible (as bait for black men), often use typically black colloquialisms/slang/"accents" that they were not raised with, and you DQ'd yourself from that group by dating a white man. This type of woman also doesn't like light-skinned black women like me because we aren't "black enough" for them (if you can believe that ish) and often use any biracial children they have from previous relationships as "bait" for attracting other black men--sort of a marketing tool. Oh, yes, I have experienced it firsthand SEVERAL times. This type of woman, while she likes to duplicitously surround herself with black female friends, also typically considers herself to be better and more desirable than black women to black men, and she'll laugh about this with her white friends behind her black "friends'" backs (yes, I've experienced this as well.) That you have a white SO was likely intimidating to her and that you probably weren't going to be good "black man bait" for her.

Does anything I've said describe that woman?

Please note that I did not say "all" nor do I mean this to include all non-black women in or open to relationships with black men--I'm talking about a specific type of woman, and we all know them when we encounter them. My husband is white, I am part-white, and I have no issues with interracial relationships AT ALL. My son is multiracial and his girlfriend is Chinese. I couldn't care less about that--except that her parents hate my son's ethnic makeup--even when they thought he was just a "dirty filipino."

I'm simply giving my anecdotally-based opinion of this particular woman and women I believe to be like her. This is the kind of woman who others often describe as "trying to be black" or "acting black."

Not wanting to generalize too much but yes, I've seen this. More common than I once realized and rather disturbing.

+ 2 and yes, it is very disturbing.

Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk