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Old 08-13-2012, 07:23 PM   #1
 
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This guy on my FB is always flirting with me and hinting that we should meet up. Actually, the last thing he said to me was that I need a "big man" to beat that a** up. NOT KIDDING.

Anyway, when he first started talking to me I found out he had a gf because I'm a detective on FB LOL. He hid his relationship and friends obviously, but I found out anyway.

So, IDK if I should message this girl and tell her that her dude is an *******. What should I do?

My ex was like this guy and I found out by myself. I think I would've loved it if one of the girls told me. But then every girl is not like me, and maybe she knows? Help?
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Old 08-13-2012, 07:30 PM   #2
 
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If you don't have concrete proof that this guy is in fact a cheater, keep your mouth shut. Most likely, it'll just come back to bite you in the rear.
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If you don't have concrete proof that this guy is in fact a cheater, keep your mouth shut. Most likely, it'll just come back to bite you in the rear.
The proof is him talking to me over messenger and begging to hang out with me all the time to make men jealous. If that isn't proof then IDK what is and he asked me how I found out he had a gf. He obviously does it often. I doubt I'm the only one.
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It's just talk though. He hasn't actually acted on it. Even if he were to act on it, I'd think very carefully about telling the girl because they often don't appreciate the information and she could make you out to be the bad guy.
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It's just talk though. He hasn't actually acted on it. Even if he were to act on it, I'd think very carefully about telling the girl because they often don't appreciate the information and she could make you out to be the bad guy.
Talking about how you want to do this and that to a girl is cheating to me. I don't know the girl so I don't really care if she decides to attack me or not, but IDK if it's something I should say. Especially since she just graduated from dental school. This dude has a front and the only reason he didn't take anything further is because I found out he had a girlfriend. Since I found out, he hid more info on his FB so I'm sure it's something he does often. He purposefully gave me his number to go on dates. He told me (and keeps telling me) he wants to take me out but I keep saying no.

That's a cheater to me.
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Old 08-13-2012, 07:40 PM   #6
 
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I do think he's a huge manipulator so she probably wouldn't listen to me anyway. IDK.
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If u don't know her n that's not your friend don't get into that 9x out of 10 she may curse you out for writing her that message

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If u don't know her n that's not your friend don't get into that 9x out of 10 she may curse you out for writing her that message

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Probably and that's sad. He's a public speaker for UCs and started his own company (now makes bank). He has a way of speaking (tricked my mother into thinking he was a good guy). And even posts bible quotes on his FB and talks about bible study. He's such a fake and a manipulator. I feel bad for her, but then again, it's not my problem either! LOL.

Thank god I found out before I did anything with him. He's sneaky. But I knew something about him was weird.
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Old 08-13-2012, 07:46 PM   #9
 
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No.

Stay out of it.
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You could arrange a meetup with him. Tell her about it. Let her show up, not you. She can see for herself. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you wanna know??
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But she doesn't know her so y should she care???

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You could arrange a meetup with him. Tell her about it. Let her show up, not you. She can see for herself. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you wanna know??
You see, the problem is she lives in San Francisco and he has his company down here so he comes once in a while and keeps trying to get me to show up.

And I have been in her shoes before and I would've loved it if one of them told me versus me having to find out myself. I do have messages form him.
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Defriend him and stay out of it. It seems like the right thing to do, but this kind of scenario almost always goes wrong and will likely backfire on you.
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^^

This is true. IDK why women like to blame other women besides actually blaming the dude SMH!
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This is true. IDK why women like to blame other women besides actually blaming the dude SMH!
I know, it's pretty effed up. The reasoning is she knows him, she doesn't know you. Why would she believe you over someone she "trusts." Proof or no proof. He can always find a way to spin it, you know?
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It's a classic "blame the messenger" scenario. It's ugly and unfair, and even if you'd respond differently (as would I), you don't know what she'll do. Spare yourself.
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She won't believe you unless she actually suspects he is cheating. More likely than not, she doesn't suspect him and she will likely not believe you.

If you have no friendship to lose with this guy and you don't know the other woman, KIM.
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I don't consider him much of a friend, honestly. He pursued me but when I found out, I started avoiding him. I avoid him when he writes on my FB status updates that we need to meet up. The only reason why I spoke to him recently was because he caught me online on FB and chatted with me :/

Otherwise, I do avoid his texts, etc. Hopefully he goes away. I'm sure he has other girls lying around anyway!
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Well then a good way to get him to leave you alone is say "I know you are with xyz chick. So unless you want me to forward your messages/texts to her, I will ask one last time that you lose my number." Use her real name so he knows you're serious. That would shut me up real quick! lol
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Well then a good way to get him to leave you alone is say "I know you are with xyz chick. So unless you want me to forward your messages/texts to her, I will ask one last time that you lose my number." Use her real name so he knows you're serious. That would shut me up real quick! lol
And unfriend him on FB...that's a no-brainier.
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