itsKelCeeEee

My boyfriend of almost four years has been diagnosed with stage 3 heart failure. He's 23 years old. I feel like the world as I know it is over. I just don't understand how this could be happening.

Have any of you experienced a loved one going through this? Yourself? I'm just trying to wrap my mind around this. I'm not good at talking about my feelings so sorry if this seems weird. I just need to know that someone somewhere understands how I feel right now.

Thanks.

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09robiha

I don't have the exact same experience...but my stepdad had kidney faliure which later lead on to multiple organ faliure. It was a very sad and complication situation...he was just 39 at the time and passed away a little after his 40th birthday. It's such a hard thing to get your head around and I never did in his lifetime. Stay strong and explore all your options, even the most insignificant of treatment can be helpful.

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So sorry. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

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nynaeve77

I'm so sorry. That's awful. My mom has stage one, so it's not as serious as what your boyfriend is going through.

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The New Black

I'm so sorry, hun. What does that mean exactly? Did he have a previously undiagnosed condition? Some heart conditions can go undetected for years and cause no problems or symptoms until they're triggered. Or did he suffer some sort of trauma?

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CurlyCanadian

I'm so sorry you're going through this

It's good they they have caught it, and can start dealing with. Both my Grandmother & a colleague went through surgery for heart failure in the spring. My Grandmothers was planned, the collegue was having some issues, went to the hospital and had the surgery the next day, so assuming his was worse. Not sure the stage, but both are doing great now!

My Dad had kidney failure and spent 6 years on dialysis. He had a transplant and is doing awesome, 5 years later! Its really scary at the time though, so if you need to chat....we're all here

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Dedachan

Sorry you are going through this. Heart failure at any age is scary, let alone 23.

curlypearl

I'm very sorry. I hope he gets great care.

Take care of yourself during this stressful time.

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So sorry you are going through this. Know that you are in our throughts and prayers.

My mom was having liver failure that month. They were unsure if she would make it through the day. It was very scary, but 8 days later she was out of the hospital and back to her normal life. So know that things can get better

thelio

{{{HUGS}}} So sorry to hear, Stay strong.

RedCatWaves

There are treatments for heart failure, and if he is serious about guarding his health, he can possibly turn it into a long-term chronic condition, rather than the tragedy you're imagining. Encourage him to do all he can to get and stay healthy.

luvmylocs

so sorry, that's so young. how's he feeling about the diagnosis? are the doctors saying that with medicine, treatments and behavior modifications he can have survive?

hugs!!

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So sorry to hear this, especially at the young age of 23! I'll keep you in my prays! Stay strong!

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maria_i

I'm so sorry.

My SO has a different heart condition. Doctors scared us to death at the time. It's been 8 years since then and he is doing very well.

Explore all treatment options.
RCW is very right.
Stage 3 is considered MODERATE.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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maria_i

How are you doing Kel cee eee? We are thinking of you and your BF.

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LadyV69

I'm sure this is scary for you since he's so young, but provided he follows the doctors orders, heart failure can be managed. My grandmother had it and she lived for years after diagnosis but she was way older than your BF. And this is only remotely related, but a friend of mine had a stroke last year at the age of 33. After months of therapy, she's perfectly fine. Serious illnesses don't always mean certain death. I'll keep him in my thoughts.

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itsKelCeeEee

Thanks so much, all of you. It is really hard to wrap my head around it, and I have no idea how to explain what I feel. Basically (I read up on it, but not as much as I wanted because I was at work all day) like some of you already said, his stage is moderate. So that's helped me breath a bit better. But, what worries me about that is that he's going to have to make some serious life changes to have a better quality of life and to...well, live longer. He's been getting sick since he was middle school age. I even remember in high school when we were friends he'd be gone for like, one or two weeks and I'd hear "he's sick". Because of that, as well as some other personal factors of his (his family is crazy like WHOA in so many ways, but I won't go into that) he's very...passive. Not that passive people are bad, don't get me wrong. But he's very internal, and all of these incidents and things have built up and he's so...defeated. He's such a sweetheart, but he is just so depressed and down. I don't blame him, given everything happening I can't imagine him to be "up" now. I'm scared that he's not going to get motivated to do what he needs to do and eat better, and adequate exercise. And I'm going to be there for him no matter what, but there's only so much you can do when someone else isn't willing to help themselves. I'm just really worried because he sees no hope when I say his heart condition's "moderate" and not a death sentence. I dunno. I guess I'm just scared.

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