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DreamsRSanity 10-07-2012 09:20 AM

Depressed
 
I love how no one seems to noticed how hopeless I feel. I've gotten to a point where the only emotion I manage to show is anger. It all started I few years ago I started living with my birth mom and was the happiest and most osocial person I've ever been in my life. After a year My aunt,who raised me, talked me into moving back in with her by threatening suicide. She always been alcoholic who rather buy beer than pay bills. she also refused to buy food all summer because she said I eat too much. She ended up losing our house and we ending up moving into apartments in a horrible area. These past two years have been absolutely miserable. When I tell her about how depressing this is for me. She tells me that I can be happy when I turn eighteen or she'll go out and buy me a game to shut me up for a few days. We're gotten into a lot of fights because she gets drunk and decides she needs to hit me because I'm ruining her life. I've never been the type to let someone beat on me. So our fights always end up her having black eyes. It's rare for me leave my room anymore. I don't want to go school anymore I just want to sleep all day.

Jenny C 10-07-2012 01:43 PM

Oh my goodness, that sounds just awful. I really don't have any good advice for you, except maybe to start with al-anon. They might even have a program for teens. You shouldn't have to deal with this on your own.

(((HUGS)))

laticka7 10-07-2012 01:57 PM

I have been in situations like this but it was the other way around. My mom likes to pop pills and live off of the government. I moved. That is the only solution. She is a grown women and she makes her own mistakes. She should feel bad with dragging you down with her. I heard a saying. You either deal with the situation or you cut it out your life. You can love family at arms length and that is what probably needs to be done. You have to let ppl like that fall so that they can get up on their own.

poisonivy 10-07-2012 02:59 PM

How old are you sweetie?

DreamsRSanity 10-07-2012 04:07 PM

I'll be 16 next week

MojoDojo 10-07-2012 04:23 PM

Can you not move back in with your birth mother? You said you were much happier living with her, no?

And please seek professional help. Al-anon should be able to help.

Multitextured 10-07-2012 05:59 PM

***hugs***
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Being 16 is hard enough, without being abused by the person who should be protecting you. It is SO important that you understand that this is abuse, and that you have rights. Can you talk to a counselor at school? They should be able to hook you up with some services, and also give you advice if you are worried about your aunt harming herself.

Let us know how you're doing, and be nice to yourself - you deserve WAY better than this!

Scarlet 10-07-2012 08:21 PM

Try ala-teen.

For Teens

poisonivy 10-08-2012 12:46 PM

Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

curlypearl 10-08-2012 02:10 PM

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Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

How extraordinary. You really live your faith. I'm amazed and very touched. May the universe shower you with every good blessing for your kindness.

Narnia 10-08-2012 02:16 PM

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Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

How extraordinary. You really live your faith. I'm amazed and very touched. May the universe shower you with every good blessing for your kindness.

Agreed. The world needs more people like you <3
That said, I'm pretty sure there's some legal implications here :(

Dreams, you are stronger than you know, and I am sorry you are going through this. 16 is such a tender age. What you are going though is wrong. Talk to an adult that you trust. Friends parent, counsellor, teacher, anyone. There is no excuse for this but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I absolutely promise you this. I will be sending you a PM.

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poisonivy 10-08-2012 04:57 PM

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Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

How extraordinary. You really live your faith. I'm amazed and very touched. May the universe shower you with every good blessing for your kindness.

Aww thank you. I really will go and get her but yeah your right there are legal issues at hand. But if she's being abused, that just kills me. We could make room for her. Your comment made me feel really good.

DreamsRSanity 10-08-2012 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by poisonivy (Post 2048153)
Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

I didn't go to school today. I've been very sick lately. Hopefully I'll go tomorrow. I can't see myself explaining what's going on to anyone. I can't stand asking for help.I'm staying in mississippi but I know if I could just tell my grandma or my other aunt wants going on they wouldn't hesitant to come get me. I just don't want to feel like a burden.

CanItBeChristine 10-08-2012 05:36 PM

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way but when you feel like nobody cares or notices how depressed you are, I hope you can remember a lot of us on here who care and are thinking about you. You shouldn't be coping with all of these emotions alone, especially at 16.

Is there a school psychologist on campus you can talk to? When I was a sophomore in high school, I started seeing ours when my dad became ill. She was quite young and didn't offer any groundbreaking advice, but it helped having somebody neutral to talk to.

Narnia 10-08-2012 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by poisonivy (Post 2048153)
Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

I didn't go to school today. I've been very sick lately. Hopefully I'll go tomorrow. I can't see myself explaining what's going on to anyone. I can't stand asking for help.I'm staying in mississippi but I know if I could just tell my grandma or my other aunt wants going on they wouldn't hesitant to come get me. I just don't want to feel like a burden.

You are NOT a burden. They would feel worse to know that this is happening and they didn't know about it. You are asking for safety and security; these are basic human rights. This is too much for you to carry on your shoulders.
We care, I hope you get that message loud and clear. (((((Big hugs)))))

poisonivy 10-08-2012 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by poisonivy (Post 2048153)
Hey I was just thinking about you. Have you talked to your school counselor? I really hope your not afraid to. I'm sure you are confused and don't know what to do but I promise you you HAVE to get out of that situation! You can come live with me if you want a safe haven. I mean it. I'm in Columbus ohio and I will come and get you. What state are you in?

I didn't go to school today. I've been very sick lately. Hopefully I'll go tomorrow. I can't see myself explaining what's going on to anyone. I can't stand asking for help.I'm staying in mississippi but I know if I could just tell my grandma or my other aunt wants going on they wouldn't hesitant to come get me. I just don't want to feel like a burden.

Dreams if you don't think you can call your grandma, pm me her number and I will call her for you. I'm sure she will think its totally crazy when I explain who I am but I want to help you any way I can. My teenage years were rough and I want you to get help. Or I will drive to Mississippi and get you. Pm me. Please don't keep suffering. You have a couple ways out. Take one!


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