Being approached in the gym

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I'm not married, I'm not wearing a ring, and I still dont want to be approached while I'm working out (or anywhere).

This why I don't belong to a gym. I want to be left ALONE. I do not want to socialize. Sounds like he's just being friendly, and silly, and if I were the recipient I'd feel obligated to be friendly back. But I don't want to be friendly. I want to get into my music, or my podcast, and I don't need to be cheered on. The man and I don't even work out together. We will go on walks or hikes occasionally, but we do our regular work outs apart. He likes going to the gym, I like working out at home. And being left alone.


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right. I never ever look attractive unless you like the sweatiest person on earth look. I mean I sweat more than most men do at the gym. MY shirt will be soaked. I'll have a sweat mustache and you're trying to check me out. You have issues.

I may look cute the first 5 minutes I walk in but after that I look gross, probably smell gross. And I don't know how I look cute going in because I wear baggy shirts so I can wipe my face, without lifting up my shirt AHAHA.


If, red faced looned sweaty eddy, butt sweat, back sweat, chest sweat, Pit stains that are sooo big that you can't even tell where the pit stains start because they've spread everywhere, is your type of girl, well, you still need to gtfo.


Plus, who's trying to talk at the gym, maybe at a water fountain when you're breaking, but not during a work out. I remember someone tried to holla while I was running outside, you think I'm going to stop running, to talk to you? You must be high on crack. You are not messing up MY run.
Yea people can be annoying at the gym but I mean what are you going to report lol. I don't see it as harassment. It's really easy to let the guy know you are not interested or maybe I'm just naturally good at it. I think I have a natural frown on my face so when I don't smile or look slightly annoyed people get scared. I also look away and say a quick hi back and it's usually sorta *****y like.
Originally Posted by Josephine
This is me as well, 95% of the time. I've had random guys walk up while I was out with girlfriends (or doing whatever) start speaking to and flirting with them, take one look at me and say... "I'm not even gonna try it on you." That would be wise.

The 5% are normally men who are friends with people I know. I feel I have to be civil.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

You're going to report someone for saying hello?

Maybe you just need to work out at home.
Originally Posted by CGNYC

I guess you had to be there. I've been going to this gym for over a year, so, no, I'm not stopping to work out from home. But thanks for the great tip.

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer."

4a, mbl, low porosity, normal thickness, fine hair.
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I think you might be jumping the gun a bit. They guy said hi twice. That's not harassment. He hasn't asked you on a date, he hasn't done any inappropriate contact, he just said hello. If you don't want to be bothered, then just say that and keep it moving.
Originally Posted by Nappy_curly_crown
It's just thought, not action. I did give him the stink eye, and as I said earlier next time I will be more direct with him. Whether it's harassment or not where I work...it's hard to say; the threshold for harassment is much lower than the legal definition where I work (just learned this last week in one of our "what is harassment" classes). Apparently you can get in trouble around our office for saying "speak of the devil" to the wrong person. Like I said, maybe you just have to be there.

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer."

4a, mbl, low porosity, normal thickness, fine hair.
Do you remember the poster springcurl made for her job? Do that gesture to him next time.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
LOL no, but you should share it.

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer."

4a, mbl, low porosity, normal thickness, fine hair.
Thanks for all the feedback!

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer."

4a, mbl, low porosity, normal thickness, fine hair.
Note: For some reason all men are attracted to a woman who is sweaty, stinky and working out. Must be some kind of musk we produce when we work out. LOL!

I am always friendly...and I take it as a complement when a guy asks me out. I just tell him I'm married and go about my merry way. I don't wear jewelry to the gym because it gets in the way of weight lifting. Most guys are embarrased and walk away.

The learing or staring..same thing if caught in the act...they usually turn red and go on.

Now if there was somebody that constantly followed me, talked to me, asked me out...started showing up everytime I was working out (especially if I vary my times)...then I would let the front desk know.
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Do you remember the poster springcurl made for her job? Do that gesture to him next time.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
LOL no, but you should share it.
Originally Posted by curlyarca
When he comes at you w/ his fist out, just do this!

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I always try to remember that men are wired to be relentless in their pursuit of women otherwise the species would have probably disappeared long ago. Seriously though, you might want to just nicely communicate that you don't want to be interrupted or picked-up. Some people are just so lonely that making an ass out of themselves seems a small price to pay for even a momentary connection with another human being. Compassion can go a long way in such circumstances.
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Do you remember the poster springcurl made for her job? Do that gesture to him next time.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
LOL no, but you should share it.
Originally Posted by curlyarca
When he comes at you w/ his fist out, just do this!

Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Oh I love this! Haha!

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