Being approached in the gym

curlyarca · 10-10-2012, 08:41 PM

Ok, so I go to the gym pretty regularly. A few months back, me and this other woman were on the bikes, and a random guy walks by and holds his fist out for us to bump and to say hi. Um, ok. Weird. We look at each other and both roll our eyes. The guy has been seen in the gym doing this to other women in the gym.

Today (after taking a month away from this gym) I come back in, the guy is there. I'm on the bike on my own, hoping this weirdo doesn't remember me and come over. I'm into my book, listening to my iPod for a good 25 minutes. I put my book down for 5 minutes, and this guy is over there holding out his hand for a fist bump. I'm looking at him like he is the most idiotic thing on earth, say hello, ignore his fist, and continue my workout. I shouldn't have even said hello to him, what a db.

WHY OH WHY do some of these raggedy-axxed men feel so important they're going to try to interrupt your workout....a total stranger's workout.....so you can say hi to them? The gym is not a dating service, jesus. This is a gym at our office. Some of the people I work with go to this gym, but they rarely disrupt your workout other than to say hello and walk on. Sometimes you're working out with "important" people, which also makes this awkward, possibly bordering on harrassment (no idea who this guy is). This guy just seems so smarmy with his smirks and sweaty fistbumps, ugh! Do you think there's enough "proof" here to report this fool?

This makes me miss my old "women only" gym.

murrrcat · 10-10-2012, 08:45 PM

that's why I quit my gym membership. Now I go to the one at my university where at least it's college boys staring and they actually mind their business because I usually go to women dominated classes. LOL. I'm not trying to be "hollered" at when I'm sweaty and gross and out of breath. Go away.

At my old gym, I would catch guys watching me on the treadmill. WHO DOES THAT?

Once this guy followed me room to room, doing work outs, and staring at me.

Like aint' nobody trying to get with you, go on somewhere.

eta one time this guy waited till I left to try and say hello to me. It was only hello because I sped walked away before he could say anything else.

curlyarca · 10-10-2012, 09:06 PM

I have two gym memberships, so I could just go to my fancy and awesome gym near my apartment, but I dunno. Why should I have to stop my after-work workouts because of some lame-axxed dude who can't get a date anywhere else or whatever his m.o. is?! It's more disruptive of my routine to quit the after-work sessions. Plus I paid for my year membership like everyone else....I feel like I should be able to enjoy it.

I have caught some other men there leering/staring. They usually correct themselves when they're caught in the act, and I've never had some guy walk up to me during a workout ever at this gym before this db.

murrrcat · 10-10-2012, 09:45 PM

do you know his name? I don't know what you could do. I also don't know what they would do. Since it's not really "harassment" if he just wants to be "nice" and "friendly"

curlyarca · 10-11-2012, 03:58 AM

No idea who he is. If he does it again I'll report it and just be real direct with him.

CGNYC · 10-11-2012, 06:35 AM

You're going to report someone for saying hello?

Maybe you just need to work out at home.

Nappy_curly_crown · 10-11-2012, 06:47 AM

CA

I think you might be jumping the gun a bit. They guy said hi twice. That's not harassment. He hasn't asked you on a date, he hasn't done any inappropriate contact, he just said hello. If you don't want to be bothered, then just say that and keep it moving.

spiderlashes5000 · 10-11-2012, 07:43 AM

Do you remember the poster springcurl made for her job? Do that gesture to him next time.

CGNYC · 10-11-2012, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

Do you remember the poster springcurl made for her job? Do that gesture to him next time.

I change my vote to this because that image is hilarious to me.

spiderlashes5000 · 10-11-2012, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by CGNYC

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

Do you remember the poster springcurl made for her job? Do that gesture to him next time.

I change my vote to this because that image is hilarious to me.

Better yet, just ask her for a copy of the poster and tape it to your machine! LOL

Nej · 10-11-2012, 08:53 AM

Annoying if you're not interested in the guy? Yes.

That's all I got.

If you tell him in a direct manner you'd prefer not to be bothered and he continues to say hello, or want to fist bump, then maybe speak to front desk.

Wiregirl · 10-11-2012, 09:03 AM

OMG the guy is just a goofball trying to be friendly! I think you are overracting!

Josephine · 10-11-2012, 11:17 AM

Yea people can be annoying at the gym but I mean what are you going to report lol. I don't see it as harassment. It's really easy to let the guy know you are not interested or maybe I'm just naturally good at it. I think I have a natural frown on my face so when I don't smile or look slightly annoyed people get scared. I also look away and say a quick hi back and it's usually sorta *****y like.

coilynapp · 10-11-2012, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by curlyarca

Ok, so I go to the gym pretty regularly. A few months back, me and this other woman were on the bikes, and a random guy walks by and holds his fist out for us to bump and to say hi. Um, ok. Weird. We look at each other and both roll our eyes. The guy has been seen in the gym doing this to other women in the gym.

Today (after taking a month away from this gym) I come back in, the guy is there. I'm on the bike on my own, hoping this weirdo doesn't remember me and come over. I'm into my book, listening to my iPod for a good 25 minutes. I put my book down for 5 minutes, and this guy is over there holding out his hand for a fist bump. I'm looking at him like he is the most idiotic thing on earth, say hello, ignore his fist, and continue my workout. I shouldn't have even said hello to him, what a db.

WHY OH WHY do some of these raggedy-axxed men feel so important they're going to try to interrupt your workout....a total stranger's workout.....so you can say hi to them? The gym is not a dating service, jesus. This is a gym at our office. Some of the people I work with go to this gym, but they rarely disrupt your workout other than to say hello and walk on. Sometimes you're working out with "important" people, which also makes this awkward, possibly bordering on harrassment (no idea who this guy is). This guy just seems so smarmy with his smirks and sweaty fistbumps, ugh! Do you think there's enough "proof" here to report this fool?

This makes me miss my old "women only" gym.

the bolded just happened to my friend. The tried to lose him and he kept coming back. She was hella rude, he didn't get it...down to the last minute when she left...HE STILL DID NOT GET IT.

I quit going to the gym because of being gawked at like a piece of meat and the raggedy a$$ men thinking they can step to me...or the ones trying to tell me how to work out when I'm lifting weights--ummm, I know what I'm doing...you worry about your damn self.

I don't think there's anything to report. Just tell him to leave you workout in peace and you don't like your workouts interrupted.

Honeycurls · 10-11-2012, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by curlyarca

Ok, so I go to the gym pretty regularly. A few months back, me and this other woman were on the bikes, and a random guy walks by and holds his fist out for us to bump and to say hi. Um, ok. Weird. We look at each other and both roll our eyes. The guy has been seen in the gym doing this to other women in the gym.

Today (after taking a month away from this gym) I come back in, the guy is there. I'm on the bike on my own, hoping this weirdo doesn't remember me and come over. I'm into my book, listening to my iPod for a good 25 minutes. I put my book down for 5 minutes, and this guy is over there holding out his hand for a fist bump. I'm looking at him like he is the most idiotic thing on earth, say hello, ignore his fist, and continue my workout. I shouldn't have even said hello to him, what a db.

WHY OH WHY do some of these raggedy-axxed men feel so important they're going to try to interrupt your workout....a total stranger's workout.....so you can say hi to them? The gym is not a dating service, jesus. This is a gym at our office. Some of the people I work with go to this gym, but they rarely disrupt your workout other than to say hello and walk on. Sometimes you're working out with "important" people, which also makes this awkward, possibly bordering on harrassment (no idea who this guy is). This guy just seems so smarmy with his smirks and sweaty fistbumps, ugh! Do you think there's enough "proof" here to report this fool?

This makes me miss my old "women only" gym.

Testosterone poisoning

murrrcat · 10-11-2012, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Josephine

Yea people can be annoying at the gym but I mean what are you going to report lol. I don't see it as harassment. It's really easy to let the guy know you are not interested or maybe I'm just naturally good at it. I think I have a natural frown on my face so when I don't smile or look slightly annoyed people get scared. I also look away and say a quick hi back and it's usually sorta *****y like.

that's me to a T. yet people are crappy and usually pull a "why are you mad?" AM I SUPPOSED TO SMILE WHILE RUNNING ON A TREADMILL? GET A LIFE!!!

Except outside I do smile at people who are also running.

If someone says hi and I don't like them, I usually move my eye brows and say nothing or say what? with an attitude. Or pretend my music makes me deaf.

if it happens again say "what?" when he say's hi. and then he'll say "I was just saying hi" and you reply, "okay." just okay. That should set him on his way....

If and then... I still don't know. Other than leave the gym cause there really is nothing you can do about him saying hi.

But I do know, what you mean, I can feel when someone is being overly friendly. I know friendly and imma try to holla atcha. I try to let guys be "friendly" but it's usually turns into sooo can I get ya number and maybe we can get frisky later. Or it might just be someone who doesn't know how to be friendly and comes across creepy by accident. Stay away from those also, because they could turn into potential let me get ya number and stalk you.

oh btw, I just hate the male species because they're stupid. So I'm bias.

JessiesCurls · 10-11-2012, 12:28 PM

I think this guy is just trying to be friendly. It's kind of odd, but it's harmless.

As for personal experiences of being approached in the gym, there was this one time I was lifting weights and this guy came up to me and said, "Here, let me get that for you" and lifted my arm up for me, lol.

fefe912 · 10-11-2012, 12:29 PM

Why not just simply tell him that you're not trying to be rude, but that you just prefer that people not interrupt you while you're working out? I've had dudes approach me at the gym and if I didn't want to be bothered then I simply said so and they left me alone. I've also met some really nice guys at the gym who approach some people like that in order to show that they are fun and have a sense of humor and don't have to take life so serious. I don't know where you're from, but that wouldn't bother most people down here much, it's common courtesy to speak when spoken to if the person isn't being rude or disrespectful, but different strokes for different folks

. Just don't get all worked up over something so simple it's not that serious imo.

fefe912 · 10-11-2012, 12:35 PM

oh yea and the gym can be a great dating service as you would put it lol. Y wouldn't you want to possibly meet someone who shares your views on being healthy? on top of that working out alone is boring. I'd rather meet a nice guy at the gym who enjoys doing what I enjoy doing.

Speckla · 10-11-2012, 03:43 PM

/\ I don't gives a rats behind about talking to anyone really when I'm at the gym. Especially men. I'm married and it's the most annoying thing in the world to know that a guy is checking you out and looking for the opportunity to come over and talk. And then you see them walk your way and you try to bury yourself further in your book and it doesn't work. And you know when it's more than just friendly. You just can tell by the sleeze vibes. I've had this happen and I hold up my left hand, show my wedding ring, and say, "I'm married." And go back to reading. I pretty much do this to any guy that tries to hit on me, flirt or say anything inappropriate.

Pisses me off (and I don't understand why they do it 1) I'm wearing a ring!!! 2) I'm in baggy sweats 3) I look like hell on a weiny roasting over a pit of fire. I'm usually so sweaty and icky from a heart workout.)