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Old 10-13-2012, 03:01 PM   #1
 
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Amanda Todd, a Vancouver-area teenager who posted a story to YouTube last month about being cyber-bullied, was found dead Wednesday night in Coquitlam, Canada. Authorities believe she committed suicide.
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Amanda's video tells a heart-wrenching story of the bullying she was subjected to -- both online and off. "In 7th grade," she begins, sharing her message on cue cards, "I would go with friends on webcam [to] meet and talk to new people." At one point, a stranger flattered her into flashing the camera.

One year later, a man contacted her on Facebook, threatening to send around the picture of her topless "if [she] don't put on a show." Terrifyingly, the stranger knew everything about her: her address, school, friends, relatives, and the names of her family members. Soon, her naked photo had been forwarded "to everyone."

Amanda developed anxiety, depression, and anxiety disorders, she says in the video, followed by a path into drugs and alcohol.

She changed schools and found a new group of friends in an effort to leave behind the bullies. Then the man created a Facebook profile, using her uncensored photo as his profile picture. "Cried every night, lost all my friends and respect people had for me... again... then nobody liked me," she wrote in the video.
I've seen a flurry of Facebook memes in response to this that are pretty much dismissing this girl's death. One is a picture of her that reads, "Flashed my t*ts: better drink my own bleach". A kid I went to school with posted a picture of bleach with the caption "Whitens whites; kills suicidal sluts".

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She flashed her **** and killed herself. It was her own damn fault lol
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thousands of people die everyday, and there's not a page in memorial of them. What makes this one so different?
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and she not only showed her t*ts once but 10 times
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^ it wasn't a one time mistake she did it a number of times she was dumb
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Yea, I heard about that. It was really sad. I didn't see the memes though...

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Here are some. http://cdn.memegenerator.net/instanc...0/28271028.jpg

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Amanda Todd is A Whore | Facebook
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Another victim of slut-shaming. Poor girl. Shame on all her tormentors.
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I just don't understand killing yourself because your boobs are on the Internet. Every girl has them.
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I saw an entire Facebook group dedicated to these memes. I was utterly disgusted. I tried to find the "Report/Spam" button but couldn't figure it out on the app.
It makes me feel sick. I have a friend who committed suicide at 16 and this would've spun me over the edge in that case. I'm am so sickened by all this bullying and teenage suicide lately. I am quite passionate about it.
A young boy killed himself up here in Canada again recently because he was bullied about his sexuality and passion for singing. So disgusting.

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OMG that breaks my heart

It's been all over the news and FB here (like every third post is about her), but I've seen none of the nasty comments. Everything has been about how to stop the bullying.
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I just don't understand killing yourself because your boobs are on the Internet. Every girl has them.
I don't think it's that simple. It's likely that this girl had issues already that were compounded by the bullying and harassment she was subjected to. It's not just the boobs.
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I know. It's just sad. Suicide is a hard thing for me to understand. 16!
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I just don't understand killing yourself because your boobs are on the Internet. Every girl has them.
I don't think it's that simple. It's likely that this girl had issues already that were compounded by the bullying and harassment she was subjected to. It's not just the boobs.
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My friend killed himself because his girlfriend ended it with him. That said, it was only the last straw. It was a combination of bullying by his parents and lack of any emotional support.
We also must keep in mind that teenagers and young adults (hell, even some grown adults) are not equipped to deal with emotional turmoil and their perspective is not yet wise enough to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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This tragedy is in my area and was an acquaintances cousin. The slut-shaming responses above sicken me.

I hope this is a lesson to people that sexism is more than just equality in the workforce, and the right to vote. It is an attitude, a belief, and influences more than just how much money I can make.
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I just don't understand killing yourself because your boobs are on the Internet. Every girl has them.
It wasn't only that; from what I read in another article, she switched schools a few times and every single time her stalker would manage to find her, friend her, and humiliate her which led to her being isolated and harassed at school.

Extremely sad. It's times like these I'm glad my school is so strict on bullying.
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her stalker was a guy? are they sure it wasn't a girl pretending to be a guy onlike myspace or fb ro something? I got the thought from that cyber bullying lifetime movie. It made me sick. People are cruel.
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It is a horrific trajedy. But I think this is only the tip in an iceburg of an arising problem.
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I just don't understand killing yourself because your boobs are on the Internet. Every girl has them.

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I know. It's just sad. Suicide is a hard thing for me to understand. 16!


It's not just about "boobs on the internet". Is that really what you got out of the story?

And it's not "just sad". It's criminal what was done to this girl.
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It's not just about "boobs on the internet". Is that really what you got out of the story?

And it's not "just sad". It's criminal what was done to this girl.

16 isn't just a time for cars, dates, prom and having fun. It is a very emotionally trying time and add depression, bullying, and a feeling of hopelessness on top. Flashing her breast wasn't the best idea but she was what 13 or 14? That's a very tender age. Kids don't think about reprocussion and possibly of things being used against them. Have someone made your breasts their profile picture on fb. Is it all just nothing now? You're a grown up who could probably shrug it off unless it started a whole backlash. "I don't leave the house," she said. Try feeling like a prisoner 24/7 and having people hound and harrass you all the time to. That's just pure torture on her. It doesn't matter what pictures were put on fb or who she slept with. She deserved none of it. "I hope she sees this all kids herself'? That says it all about their guilt in her death. People need to held responsible for what they say. Free speech doesn't cover that because it wasn't meant to defend hate crimes.
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I really hope they find her stalker. And I wish the lil a-holes who seem so happy she's dead could be charged with a crime too. Man, wtf is up with kids? She flashed the webcam? Therefore should die????
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It's disgusting what happened to her, but it's just as disgusting that nobody is being held responsible (as far as I know), nothing is being done, and worst of all, none of the sad excuses for humans that were responsible seem to show the tiniest bit of remorse, and blame the victim.
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I really hope they find her stalker. And I wish the lil a-holes who seem so happy she's dead could be charged with a crime too. Man, wtf is up with kids? She flashed the webcam? Therefore should die????
I think a lot of the people who are reacting this way are just doing it because they're trying to look tough when maybe they themselves are dealing with a great deal of trauma themselves.
"Well I DON'T CARE ABOUT THE DEAD GIRL! LOOK HOW MUCH I DON'T CARE.".
It's also easy to do this to her because she's dead and no longer a real person to these people, just a symbol.
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