stress and more stress and finding peace

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I have lost 11 pounds in almost 3 weeks since I found out I might be laid off. Everyone else in my division has been given notice. They "want" to keep me but it would have to be in a different role in a different division. That's fine by me. They just have to decide if the business can support me, blah, blah, blah.

My husband is worried about me. Yes, I needed to lose the weight, but I haven't changed anything, not diet, not exercise. I am going to start exercising more regularly, yoga, weights, and interval sprinting to reduce my stress level and start keeping a food journal so I know for sure what is going on with me.

On the positive side of things, I have great kids, great hubs, my mom is recovering from her recent surgery, all my pets are healthy, my algae ball arrived yesterday and I have started bargain shopping for Christmas, and I found a new pepper grinder (I like to celebrate little victories!)

How do I get this cloud of anxiety from over my soul??? What do you do to beat anxiety? I know exercise and meditation will help. I do not want to go on meds again. I will if I have to and I won't wait too long or hold out too long and let it run rampant over my life, but I want to avoid chemical intervention if possible. Do you have a temporary fix that helps your feelings for a little bit? What about something that makes a massive difference? Any advice will be appreciated!
I have lost 11 pounds in almost 3 weeks since I found out I might be laid off. Everyone else in my division has been given notice. They "want" to keep me but it would have to be in a different role in a different division. That's fine by me. They just have to decide if the business can support me, blah, blah, blah.

My husband is worried about me. Yes, I needed to lose the weight, but I haven't changed anything, not diet, not exercise. I am going to start exercising more regularly, yoga, weights, and interval sprinting to reduce my stress level and start keeping a food journal so I know for sure what is going on with me.

On the positive side of things, I have great kids, great hubs, my mom is recovering from her recent surgery, all my pets are healthy, my algae ball arrived yesterday and I have started bargain shopping for Christmas, and I found a new pepper grinder (I like to celebrate little victories!)

How do I get this cloud of anxiety from over my soul??? What do you do to beat anxiety? I know exercise and meditation will help. I do not want to go on meds again. I will if I have to and I won't wait too long or hold out too long and let it run rampant over my life, but I want to avoid chemical intervention if possible. Do you have a temporary fix that helps your feelings for a little bit? What about something that makes a massive difference? Any advice will be appreciated!
Originally Posted by goldencurly
I'm sorry, golden...wish there was something I could do. My mom had a coworker who was recently laid off and it was tough. I don't have a job at the moment but I'm trying to be optimistic about what 2013 might have in store.

I'm not sure if anything I say will be helpful, but it sounds like you're trying to make the best of an uncertain situation. So you've already won some of the battle, IMO.

I have major depression/anxiety and sometimes it helps to either take long walks or meditate...it helps to relieve my stress a bit. You can also try to enjoy a few simple pleasures without guilt. Indulge yourself with a few little things that make you happy.

I hope it all works out for the best. I'm rooting for you!
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I'm so sorry you're going through this, goldencurly.

I've made no secret of my struggles the past couple of years on here. Big big big bright side, I'm not supporting a family and have been able to stay in my parents' house throughout all of this (which, in turn, brings-on its own issues...) but I cannot imagine how much more stressful it must be when you're supporting a household and children.

I was out of work for over a year, found a new job, and was fired within two months. I have had horrible feelings, losing sleep, have lost a lot of weight, panic attacks, just feeling worthless.

I've been working through a lot of my issues lately and doing everything I can. One thing that helps the most to remember is that, if you get laid-off, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It's happening all over the place to everybody. You're not defined by your job, even if it feels that way.

You already wrote that you're grateful your family/pets are all happy and healthy, and I think that's a huge step in the right direction.

If your anxiety is overwhelming and you don't want to go on medication, I definitely would recommend 5HTP. I take it in the morning and before I go to bed. I definitely feel like it chills me out, but it also can kill your appetite.

I'm sorry. I wish I could do something to help. I hate that so many of us are having these feelings.
i'm sorry. we had a big layoff last week too. thankfully i was spared but it has brought the mood down.

i would say what has helped me when i'm stressed about something i have no control over i try to meditate (quiet my mind), i try to visualize what want to happen and not worry about the negative what ifs, i pray and i try to divert my attention to other things that make me happy.

know that whatever happens it can all turn out positive. some of the best "success" stories are of people that were laid off from a job and ended up somewhere else they never would have had they been fired or people who move across country for a bf that dumps them then the end up meeting the love of their life. i know it's scary to not know what will happen, i'm right there with you, but trust that you're a good person and good things will happen for you even if it's not in the way you think it should happen.

hugs

** eta i saw cibc mentioned 5-htp...i also use it and really think it helps. fish oils too are supposed to help with your mood. i really like the www.brainsync.com products for different things. they have helped me too.

and...a favorite quote of mine right now:

Focus 90% of your time on solutions and only 10% of your time on problems. ~ Anthony J. D'Angelo
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Last edited by luvmylocs; 10-18-2012 at 09:38 PM.
Bumping this because I hope other curlies will have good ideas. I'm so sorry, Golden. I struggle with anxiety.
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I struggle with anxiety too. I've never taken meds for it--though there was a point in my early 30s when I think I could've benefitted from them, in retrospect.

I have a regular yoga practice, as in, I go to class every a.m. That's helped hugely. I recently started a new job that requires me commuting between two cities. I'm convinced that it is my practice that is keeping me fairly serene through this transition. Yoga teaches me to be content in the moment, even in the midst of stress and uncertainty.

Diet plays a big part as well. I try to eat a clean diet, mostly plant-based with some fish and poultry. The crappier I eat--processed foods, refined sugar/flour, etc., the worse I feel.

For what it's worth, when I'm going through periods of intense stress like layoffs at work, the weight flies off of me. More constant, low-key stress like the day-to-day BS of work, I can put weight on if I don't watch it from unconscious snacking.

I think it's also important to have a regular routine in the midst of stress: a regular time for waking and sleeping; a regular time for exercise, meals, etc. For me, the structure is very calming. If you can afford a massage or something like that, that's helpful, too.

Wishing you peace in the midst of craziness. Hang in there.
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I have found that aromatherapy is very helpful to me. I like the spearmint eucalyptus candles from B&BW and I love my microwavable heat wrap-- nothing helps me unwind better than those two things.

Lately I have also been using doTERRA's Past Tense essential oil blend before bed. I roll it on my temples, neck, and shoulders after particularly stressful days.

I will third the recommendation for 5-HTP. It is absolutely helpful and a good compromise if you're trying to stay off of prescription drugs.

Also, check out the book Peace Is Every Step.

Sorry you're going through this. I hope you find peace and relaxation soon!
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Today was the worst so far. The stress is getting to me. I screwed up everything I touched and I wasn't the only one. I didn't get to go to lunch until 2:45 pm (I normally go at 12:30!) so I left and went to a Wendy's nearby because they have really nice outdoor tables. I ate a bacon cheeseburger, fries and drank a coke and started rereading a book I love. No, it wasn't the best diet choice, but it was affordable comfort food and the best outdoor seat around. I went back to work refreshed and smiling and was able to laugh at the disasters awaiting me. My boss's boss was having a really bad day too and she even started joking around with me once my attitude improved. I have to remember EVERYONE there, even the people whose jobs are secure are suffering from this stress too. They are in shock that they've work for a company that's never laid anyone off in its 22 years and now the company is getting ready to lose half its workforce. It's sad even for those who know they are secure.

Thank you for all the suggestions. I am going to look into the 5-HTP. I already take fish oil for arthritis.

I do pray and will continue to do so. Someone (I don't remember who) said praying is talking to God and meditation is listening to God. I do meditate to clear my mind and empty it of negative thoughts. I also meditate with visualization for stress reduction and pain relief. I don't know that meditation lessons my chronic pain or if it just allows me to accept it and deal with it better.

This evening, when I got home from work, my husband wasn't home yet and my brother and his wife had just left. Even though 2 of my kids were here with my mother, I felt very alone and overwhelmed and I cried. It was brief and an effective release and I do feel better now. I followed it up with a bowl of homemade vegetarian vegetable soup and a nice glass of blueberry wine.

I do think I am a good person and I deserve good things but the flip side of that is I wonder what did I do to deserve this? I know that is not healthy thinking and force myself to move on mentally. I try to think this is not punishment for some sin but a learning experience that I am supposed to come away from with a better sense of myself or something.
I'm so sorry. I wish we could hang-out right now.

Where do you live? Last year, I started going to a (slightly loopy, but very helpful) "Positive Thinking Class." It's become my safe place. I go once a week, and a couple of times, I have talked about stuff going-on and just broken down crying, and it's the best place to do so. Everybody is so supportive and great. I found it on Meetup.Org...they meet in a yoga studio that has a lot of those type of classes. Maybe try to find a place like that near you? It's been really helpful.
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^^^ that's a neat idea, a positive thinking group.

i just ordered this book...it has good reviews and i like joyce meyer.

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