Ericachristina

I get a lot of mixed reactions about this too because my husband is 14 years older than me. Since I met him when I was 19 it seemed like quite a big difference to a lot of people but I found that I had a lot more in common with him than the guys my age who seemed a tad immature. Although there are times when I notice the age difference I think it depends on the compatibility of the people.

It did seem like we were at different stages of life when we met, I was going off to University for my Psychology degree while living with my parents and I still had a curfew! while he had finished school long ago, with a good job, a house and an independent life. But he is an amazingly supportive person and we made it work and eventually we were on the same page.

It has been 8 years now and we are still going strong. I think it is really important to talk about what you want and what you expect when you are planning on having a long term relationship, but if you want the same things then I don't see a problem. I do think that if we were 20 years apart or more it would probably be too big of a difference so I guess I do believe in limits to a degree but everyone is different.

sometimes you don't plan things they just happen and you find a person so wonderful that you can overlook the number.

LISA LISA

Yes - Dear Fiancé.

We actually have quite a bit in common - but we're older - I'm 35 and he's 50. It's not like one of us hasn't been 'round the block yet or anything. We are both well established and have earned our careers and our assets.

Sure it might be different if we were younger, but we're not. We have common goals at this point, and we've agreed that those goals include each other.

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Jasmine_13

Wow this is a good subject, really interesting!!

Jasmine_13

Thanks for all the comments guys keep them coming!!! What I think? Well age IS just a number but I personally would only date people older than me or the same age and the biggest age difference for me would be 6 years, but nowadays the age difference between couples can be alot so it's not rare and strange. It's like friends, you could be friends with some one who is 50 when you're 20, that's not wierd.... you can't help it!! Let it's up to them ya know. Aha Xxx

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Knotty_Maddy

Hmmm...well, I agree with all of the above posters! lol...they ALL have good points.

My personal take? Keep it to a ten year diff, or else you become entangled in the "you will never understand me!" scenario, IMO. And...there is, to me, something oddly parental about choosing someone so much older than you. If the person is 20 years older than you, it's almost like dating your mom or dad ;p and that's - a little awkward, maybe?

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spiderlashes5000

I think it's quite a bit different than w/ friends bc you're not sexing your friends or pursuing financial goals w/ your friends or legally committed to your friends...or 100% responsible for them if they get sick or whatever.

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sus811

I have personally tried to keep my relationships within my age range, but I think it depends on the people. I have never been close with people my age and guys my age tend to annoy me lol The friends I prefer to hang out with are 10+ years older.

I'm with a guy now a year younger. We get along well in general, but oddly, this old soul doesn't feel as old as he does. He talks about being in a hurry to have kids because if he gets to be in his late 30s (he's 31) he won't want kids because he doesn't want to be an old dad. My take on it is that if I'm healthy enough to carry and birth a child, age doesn't matter. We will see how this pans out for us lol I'm not saying I want to wait til I'm 40 but if I'm older, so be it. That's life!! I'm sure there are guys 20 years older than I am that wouldn't feel the way this 31 year old does so while I used to say "life experiences have an impact" I just don't know anymore. The people and what they want matters more.

Also, my bf was married to a woman who was in her 40s when he was in his 20s. She probably thought he was hot but he admits now that he had mommy issues and married someone who would cook and clean for him. SO glad I didn't know him then. He's not the best cook or cleaner, but he does and would do more if his beautifully loving gf asked him to (and who got ticked if he didn't lol) no way in H I'm anyone's mama (yet lol)

Jasmine_13

Most people seem to think a gap is okay is anyone younger than their partner/think its ok?