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^^^Why do you think he got so possessive only after you got engaged?
Originally Posted by The New Black
I think maybe he had issues because of other relationships in his past he said no one ever treated him as well as I did and that I was everything he wanted in a woman and so on, so maybe he felt that he had to be that way in order to keep me not realizing that it was pushing me away because he was overdoing it and ignoring me when I told him that that was what was happening. A while after we broke up my mom said when we did she didn't want to be too happy and come off the wrong way, but that she felt something wasn't right about him and tha the wasn't the one for me from the first time when we started dating, but that she didn't want to come off as overbearing and trying to run my life.

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we were engaged then he started getting all overly emotional and posessive to the point where we would go somewhere and if another guy looked in my direction or smiled he'd get pissed off and say he wanted to fight the guy because they were trying to steal me from him and all kinds of crazy stuff in which I just rolled my eyes and told him that it was all in his head and that if I wanted to be with someone else I would be so he needed t chill out. Nothing changed and he just started getting on my nerves to the point where I didn't want him to come over nor did I want to talk to him on the phone. It would ring and I would look at it and question whether I should answer or not. He would act as if he wanted me to call him when I was leaving to go somewhere, when I got to where I was going and when I was leaving and got back home from said place and if I didn't call or text him back he would get so dramatic about it. I kept trying to talk to him about how I felt, but it wasn't helping the situation so one night we were talking about what was bothering us and he got all dramatic on me and I told him I couldn't take all his whining and posessivness anymore and that we needed to just take a break, but he said he didn't do breaks and that I might as well kill him so I was like.........ok forget the break I'm done. He got mad and tried to say that I was probably cheating on him or something and that he wanted his ring back, so I told him he could come get it whenever. I changed my relationship status on my fb pg and instantly got a novel of a message from him telling me that it's apparent that I didn't love him and so on and that I was like the other girls that left him and so on to which I told him I tried talking to him about how I felt numerous times and nothing changed sooo if he felt that way ohhhhh well. Then I started deleting pics of us and deleted him and he sent me another long message asking me y I was getting rid of them so quickly and that I was preparing my page for the new guy lol....I'm like my page has no concern to you since we're not together so I'll do with it what I want goodbye and have a nice life. He kept texting me these long crazy messages for a while then finally left me alone, came and got his ring a few days later and that was that.
Originally Posted by fefe912

Well I’m glad you kicked him to the curb no woman wants to feel like a possession. Some men are just very insecure and it makes them very controlling. I guess the other women left for many of the same reasons you did, no one can put up with that. If he keeps that up more women will leave him, and with each failed relationship he will probably become even more insecure he needs some help...sounds like a destructive cycle, but at least you are no longer in it! It’s his loss
Well Iím glad you kicked him to the curb no woman wants to feel like a possession. Some men are just very insecure and it makes them very controlling. I guess the other women left for many of the same reasons you did, no one can put up with that. If he keeps that up more women will leave him, and with each failed relationship he will probably become even more insecure he needs some help...sounds like a destructive cycle, but at least you are no longer in it! Itís his loss [/FONT]
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Exactly I tried to get him to see that he didn't have to worry about me cheating on him or anything because I'm not that type of person and that if I wanted to be with someone else I would tell him and wouldn't be with him in the first place, but he didn't get it and just kept doing all the wrong things. He always thought that he knew everything and what was right and so on so blah. I hope he learned, but with him idk. I just know that I'm glad it happened and that I didn't do anything stupid like going forward with getting married to him. I'm in a happy healthy relationship now that's the type of relationship that I've always wanted and my family loves this guy and can't wait until the day he pops the question and they get grandbabies lol

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^^^Why do you think he got so possessive only after you got engaged?
Originally Posted by The New Black
I think maybe he had issues because of other relationships in his past he said no one ever treated him as well as I did and that I was everything he wanted in a woman and so on, so maybe he felt that he had to be that way in order to keep me not realizing that it was pushing me away because he was overdoing it and ignoring me when I told him that that was what was happening. A while after we broke up my mom said when we did she didn't want to be too happy and come off the wrong way, but that she felt something wasn't right about him and tha the wasn't the one for me from the first time when we started dating, but that she didn't want to come off as overbearing and trying to run my life.
Originally Posted by fefe912
I meant, why did he wait that long into the relationship? Presumably, you'd been together a while before he showed his jealous side.
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I am really not sure who ended it, to be honest. I think I did, maybe. He had moved, but only 34-40 miles away. A couple months after he moved I knew he had started seeing someone else, but he denied it. Things went downhill quick after that, in a very confusing way, and then he completely ignored me. *In other words, very long and confusing story, about a confusing relationship, that would take all day to explain.

He married her 8 months later.

*It was... What it was, but no I do not regret. He was very immature, avoided conversations like the plague, and liked to keep all lines blurry. I am more straight forward and clear so it was a nightmare.
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I was seeing this guy when I was 17 (I only dated one guy before my husband). He just stopped calling out of the blue. I found out later he got back together with his ex-girlfriend and she was pregnant, but at the time he said to a mutual friend that I wasn't spiritual enough for him because I didn't talk about Jesus 24-7. I was really sad at the time because there was no closure, but I obviously dodged a bullet there.
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^^^Why do you think he got so possessive only after you got engaged?
Originally Posted by The New Black
I think maybe he had issues because of other relationships in his past he said no one ever treated him as well as I did and that I was everything he wanted in a woman and so on, so maybe he felt that he had to be that way in order to keep me not realizing that it was pushing me away because he was overdoing it and ignoring me when I told him that that was what was happening. A while after we broke up my mom said when we did she didn't want to be too happy and come off the wrong way, but that she felt something wasn't right about him and tha the wasn't the one for me from the first time when we started dating, but that she didn't want to come off as overbearing and trying to run my life.
Originally Posted by fefe912
I meant, why did he wait that long into the relationship? Presumably, you'd been together a while before he showed his jealous side.
Originally Posted by The New Black

I haven't the slightest clue, maybe the signs were there earlier into the relationship and I looked over them somehow. He went from overly mushy to I know that guy isn't looking at you I'll fight him you're mine, one extreme to the other, but atleast with the mushyness I asked him to chill out and he did. In my relationship b4 him the guy I was with was really mean to me so I appreciated a guy I cared about actually being nice to me but he could be a bit much at times.

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I was seeing this guy when I was 17 (I only dated one guy before my husband). He just stopped calling out of the blue. I found out later he got back together with his ex-girlfriend and she was pregnant, but at the time he said to a mutual friend that I wasn't spiritual enough for him because I didn't talk about Jesus 24-7. I was really sad at the time because there was no closure, but I obviously dodged a bullet there.
Originally Posted by nynaeve77
lol wow he did't think you were spiritual enough because you didn't talk about jesus 24/7 yet he apparently wasn't spiritual enough when he got her pregnant without being married lol If he was so spiritual at the time that wouldn't have happened imo.
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I was seeing this guy when I was 17 (I only dated one guy before my husband). He just stopped calling out of the blue. I found out later he got back together with his ex-girlfriend and she was pregnant, but at the time he said to a mutual friend that I wasn't spiritual enough for him because I didn't talk about Jesus 24-7. I was really sad at the time because there was no closure, but I obviously dodged a bullet there.
Originally Posted by nynaeve77
lol wow he did't think you were spiritual enough because you didn't talk about jesus 24/7 yet he apparently wasn't spiritual enough when he got her pregnant without being married lol If he was so spiritual at the time that wouldn't have happened imo.
Originally Posted by fefe912
Yeah, the irony makes me chuckle now.
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It scares me a bit how emotionally distraught I felt at the end of my last relationship. I don't ever want to feel that way again.
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It scares me a bit how emotionally distraught I felt at the end of my last relationship. I don't ever want to feel that way again.
Originally Posted by claudine19
Same here..the only way is for me to careful with current one and be prepared if anything happens. It kind of sucks for me because i like to be all in blind but it's not happening again, ever.
That's exactly how I feel.

OTOH, I know now that I should have bailed out sooner, and the pain I felt was out of proportion to the loss.......and thanks to therapy, it's all far more clear now!

Still........scary. I never want to feel that way again.

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Because he's an abusive alcoholic. And has untreated bipolar disorder. I'm positive that he also has a personality disorder (borderline).
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Because he's an abusive alcoholic. And has untreated bipolar disorder. I'm positive that he also has a personality disorder (borderline).
Originally Posted by Po
These are my reasons as well. The official diagnosis in his case is schizoaffective disorder. And he refuses to take his mess.

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Because he's an abusive alcoholic. And has untreated bipolar disorder. I'm positive that he also has a personality disorder (borderline).
Originally Posted by Po
These are my reasons as well. The official diagnosis in his case is schizoaffective disorder. And he refuses to take his mess.

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Originally Posted by cosmicfly
LOL Freudian?
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Because he's an abusive alcoholic. And has untreated bipolar disorder. I'm positive that he also has a personality disorder (borderline).
Originally Posted by Po
These are my reasons as well. The official diagnosis in his case is schizoaffective disorder. And he refuses to take his mess.

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Originally Posted by cosmicfly
LOL Freudian?
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Haha...autocorrect. I am usually all over the ridiculous word changes, too.

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I think maybe he had issues because of other relationships in his past he said no one ever treated him as well as I did and that I was everything he wanted in a woman and so on, so maybe he felt that he had to be that way in order to keep me not realizing that it was pushing me away because he was overdoing it and ignoring me when I told him that that was what was happening. A while after we broke up my mom said when we did she didn't want to be too happy and come off the wrong way, but that she felt something wasn't right about him and tha the wasn't the one for me from the first time when we started dating, but that she didn't want to come off as overbearing and trying to run my life.
Originally Posted by fefe912
I meant, why did he wait that long into the relationship? Presumably, you'd been together a while before he showed his jealous side.
Originally Posted by The New Black

I haven't the slightest clue, maybe the signs were there earlier into the relationship and I looked over them somehow. He went from overly mushy to I know that guy isn't looking at you I'll fight him you're mine, one extreme to the other, but atleast with the mushyness I asked him to chill out and he did. In my relationship b4 him the guy I was with was really mean to me so I appreciated a guy I cared about actually being nice to me but he could be a bit much at times.
Originally Posted by fefe912
Maybe he viewed the ring as territorial marking and became very territorial after he gave it to you. Or the ring just enforced how he felt all along? and it gave him reason to outwardly express it?
He was my first real boyfriend before I met my DH. I was in my first semester of college and I met him while I was at work. He was a really nice guy, but wasnt the brightest bulb I've ever met. I had blinders on for a long time, but eventually enough was enough and I had to go. It was a terrible breakup. ugh.
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