Why did you break up??

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Last thread I start today, promise!! Out of curiosity, a random poll:

Why did your last relationship (that ended in a break up) end? Who broke up with who(m?) and what was the reason? Any regrets?

I ended it with the last guy I was dating because I was bored. I gave it almost six months - but in the end he kept making unfunny jokes - I hate faking laughs - , I didn't get that excited feeling when I saw him, and he never really learned how to read me. It was an awkward break-up because he didn't do anything "wrong" per se....I felt like a bit of a b, honestly, but in the end no regrets besides a little guilt.

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He was an alcoholic who didn't want to get help for himself. (despite his house burning down around him when he was passed out drunk - he had to jump out a window - he thought he "had it under control")
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We were too different, in social values and in lifestyles. He liked to stay home, not travel or try new places to eat and hangout. He didn't see me as a friend in addition to a gf and liked to separate his friends from me when hanging out (except with his boring couple friends).

He is too traditional and conservative for me. Although he is more liberal than a lot men, it wasn't enough for me. He didn't like my natural style. I'm sort of blunt, sarcastic and not girly in certain ways. I felt like I couldn't be myself around him. I'm also the very jealous type and he couldn't handle that and needed too much female companionship and attention for my taste.

Ultimately the fighting and differences made him lose interest in me and I caught him in many lies and dumped him.

He's wanted to try again with me and even suggested counseling but I knew I was done.
Mine lasted for 3 years. We went into the relationship not wanting marriage or to live with each other, so there was never a commitment made. When my father passed away I realized how much I wanted and needed a real partner in my life. I broke up with him, but we have remained friends.
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He broke up with me... For a few reasons:

1. He found someone he liked better (he swears up and down this was not the case, but I'm sorry... The timeline of his new relationship starting and ours ending says it all! Anyone witnessing it would say the same thing... And they did. And I'm not saying this as a jealous ex-girlfriend.)
2. His family disliked me, and had been on him about breaking up with me for a while. Even though I had promised him just a week before he broke up with me that I would try harder to make THEM feel more comfortable around me. Because, you know, that makes sense... 5 against 1, and the 1 is supposed to be the one doing all the work making the 5 feel "comfortable."
3. According to him, I "wasn't trying hard enough in the relationship" and I was "becoming distant." Dude, you broke up with me like 2 weeks after I got back from a summer in another country. I don't care what anyone says - that deserves at least a few weeks of transition/re-acclimation time.

I do regret all of the time and heartache I wasted on him. We were "friends" for like 3 years before we started dating. There were other people I would've like to have dated or at least "talked" to during that time, but felt bad even thinking about it, for some reason. Even though he had like four other ladies waiting for it to NOT work out between us. Hah! I also regret that I didn't end it much sooner.

But I don't regret the relationship itself, I guess. I learned a lot about myself, and what I do and don't like in a partner.

Still, though. He's a douche.
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It was mutual. I wasn't happy, he wasn't happy. He was living across the country and married less than 3 months later. No loss for me.

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Emotional incompatibility.

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I've broken up with every guy I've dated.

That's not to say I haven't had my heart broken. I've been deceived and treated badly and been put into situations that have caused me to break up with someone.

My last ex, just wasn't right for me. We weren't compatible. Although I thought we were at first, but I guess I wasn't paying enough attention. Our differences - which I thought were okay - turned out causing us to be resentful, and disrespectful toward eachother.


Plus he's clueless, irresponsible, and a liar.




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I broke up with the man (boy) I dated before my husband. This was close to ten years ago now, so we were both very young, but he was "younger" mentally and just not ready to commit to make a major commitment. I didn't ask him to, but our relationship grew distant pretty quickly and I had to break it off because I was ready for the next stage and he was doing the opposite.
My last BF was a liar, a cheat and a thief. I truly think he's a sociopath. I caught him with another woman and had a knock-down drag-out in a fairly public place.

My husband, um, well, that's a long story too. I've posted about it here though. I can dig up the links if you're really curious.
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Kind of hard to explain but he has a slight personality disorder that can make him aggressive and paranoid. And he could not accept that my divorce is taking as long as it is. He took it as a personal insult. The longer my divorce took, the more hostile and punative he became towards me. Eventually, it became too stressful, basically for both of us. We never really, really broke up.

I don't have any regrets; I loved him and might always, to some extent. But if it hadn't been my divorce, it might have been some other issue he got fixated on.

Hard to explain situation.
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Fell out of love.
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we were engaged then he started getting all overly emotional and posessive to the point where we would go somewhere and if another guy looked in my direction or smiled he'd get pissed off and say he wanted to fight the guy because they were trying to steal me from him and all kinds of crazy stuff in which I just rolled my eyes and told him that it was all in his head and that if I wanted to be with someone else I would be so he needed t chill out. Nothing changed and he just started getting on my nerves to the point where I didn't want him to come over nor did I want to talk to him on the phone. It would ring and I would look at it and question whether I should answer or not. He would act as if he wanted me to call him when I was leaving to go somewhere, when I got to where I was going and when I was leaving and got back home from said place and if I didn't call or text him back he would get so dramatic about it. I kept trying to talk to him about how I felt, but it wasn't helping the situation so one night we were talking about what was bothering us and he got all dramatic on me and I told him I couldn't take all his whining and posessivness anymore and that we needed to just take a break, but he said he didn't do breaks and that I might as well kill him so I was like.........ok forget the break I'm done. He got mad and tried to say that I was probably cheating on him or something and that he wanted his ring back, so I told him he could come get it whenever. I changed my relationship status on my fb pg and instantly got a novel of a message from him telling me that it's apparent that I didn't love him and so on and that I was like the other girls that left him and so on to which I told him I tried talking to him about how I felt numerous times and nothing changed sooo if he felt that way ohhhhh well. Then I started deleting pics of us and deleted him and he sent me another long message asking me y I was getting rid of them so quickly and that I was preparing my page for the new guy lol....I'm like my page has no concern to you since we're not together so I'll do with it what I want goodbye and have a nice life. He kept texting me these long crazy messages for a while then finally left me alone, came and got his ring a few days later and that was that.

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^^^Why do you think he got so possessive only after you got engaged?
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