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Old 11-08-2012, 06:29 PM   #1
 
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Is there any situation in which you could imagine yourself "settling," romantically speaking?
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Old 11-08-2012, 06:58 PM   #2
 
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Old 11-08-2012, 07:20 PM   #3
 
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Yes. "Settling" in my opinion means compromise.

I'd prefer to be with someone who is college educated, but it would be difficult to pass up an awesome person because of no college degree.

I'd prefer to be with someone who makes equal to or more money than me, but I wouldn't pass up on a good person if they didn't.

I'd prefer to be with someone taller than me, but I'd be ok with a shorty if he's a great guy.

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Settling on dealbreakers...a no no. But keeping ur expectations open to allow for God's plan...YES!
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Yes. "Settling" in my opinion means compromise.

I'd prefer to be with someone who is college educated, but it would be difficult to pass up an awesome person because of no college degree.

I'd prefer to be with someone who makes equal to or more money than me, but I wouldn't pass up on a good person if they didn't.

I'd prefer to be with someone taller than me, but I'd be ok with a shorty if he's a great guy.

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I agree with (most of) the above. Shorter for me is a no go

I was just saying to a friend of mine something about my expectations of a guys job/income. I'm flexible to a degree but I know the lifestyle I want to lead and am capable of living and I'm not so sure how much I could bend on that.
I also said I wouldn't date someone divorced or someone with kids but hey, the guy I've been interested in for awhile has both those covered.

Settling as far as my feelings/happiness, absolutely not.
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Old 11-08-2012, 07:52 PM   #6
 
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I've spent my life settling, or compromising.

I give people the benefit of the doubt too much. I always think they've been misunderstood, or never quite given a chance,

I've done it so much I was paranoid at everything Mr Man did when we started dating. I kept thinking, what if THIS is something I'm just accepting. What if THIS doesn't bother me now but it bothers me in the future?

I was so paranoid. I'm not sure you ever really know what's gonna become an issue until its an issue.


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Yes. "Settling" in my opinion means compromise.

I'd prefer to be with someone who is college educated, but it would be difficult to pass up an awesome person because of no college degree.

I'd prefer to be with someone who makes equal to or more money than me, but I wouldn't pass up on a good person if they didn't.

I'd prefer to be with someone taller than me, but I'd be ok with a shorty if he's a great guy.

Etcetera.
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Yes. "Settling" in my opinion means compromise.

I'd prefer to be with someone who is college educated, but it would be difficult to pass up an awesome person because of no college degree.

I'd prefer to be with someone who makes equal to or more money than me, but I wouldn't pass up on a good person if they didn't.

I'd prefer to be with someone taller than me, but I'd be ok with a shorty if he's a great guy.

Etcetera.
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I can't imagine settling for a guy who didn't treat me great and that I loved immeasurably and wanted to spend my time with.

But I believe the "superficial" things don't matter. I would never settle for a guy who wasn't really intelligent, but I'd "settle" for a guy who didn't have a degree. I wouldn't settle for mediocre sex, but I'd "settle" for all kinds of physical attributes that aren't ideal for my (lacking hair, not too tall, etc.)
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Old 11-09-2012, 06:51 AM   #9
 
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To me settling does not mean compromising. They are two very different things. I can compromise all day long, but settle I will not.
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Old 11-09-2012, 11:12 AM   #10
 
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Yes. "Settling" in my opinion means compromise.
I was actually having this conversation with a friend not too long ago. By this definition, I have settled. And he thought I shouldn't have. I say yes, because the benefits outweigh the bad.

Also for me, I got to the point where I realized how hard it is to find someone and that you need to compromise some things to be really happy.
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I "settled" - he wasn't the absolute love of my life, no, not at the time he proposed to me. He was stable and solid and had a dependable career. Secure. That was what I needed and was looking for at that time. I wanted someone smart and stable. (And he had an awesome sense of humour! Still does ) But 20 years down the road, he is totally the love of my life! And I can't imagine being with anyone else ;p Other men just seem - less than him! So yeah, I can imagine settling. And coming out ahead
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