if they don't like kissing - Page 2

Narnia · 11-10-2012, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by jolenemerritt81

I can honestly say, I used to love kissing as a young adult. I was lucky and had a couple of boyfriends that were fantastic kissers. However, never had any one since that great. I am married now, and I don't like it. I always wonder is it because I am comparing to my early experiences. My husband doesn't seem to care, not sure if he is feeling the same way. I love that man to death, but I do not think we are compatible kissers.

Isn't this something you can talk about with him and work around? Just like any other intimate experience, it can be worked on.

Knotty_Maddy · 11-10-2012, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by jolenemerritt81

I can honestly say, I used to love kissing as a young adult. I was lucky and had a couple of boyfriends that were fantastic kissers. However, never had any one since that great. I am married now, and I don't like it. I always wonder is it because I am comparing to my early experiences. My husband doesn't seem to care, not sure if he is feeling the same way. I love that man to death, but I do not think we are compatible kissers.

My husband and I are not compatible kissers (or dancers! lol!) so I feel your pain, jolen...But we score compatible on everything else

'specially in the important areas, like bedtime snuggling and appreciating and accepting each other...so I have just realised that maybe it is ok to give up a few things in order to have *everything else* work really well

Nothing's perfect, but darn, some things are just awesome as they are, even if they aren't 100% - compromise is a fine art!

Antonia · 11-11-2012, 01:07 AM

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Originally Posted by kat180

Maybe I'll feel different when I've had some experience. But after reading this thread I kinda thought about it and realised that i find all types of kissing off putting. I never really hug my parents and kiss them even less. And I hate it when my grandparents go to kiss me on the cheek whenever we say goodbye. I will shy away from them and try to avoid it or I simply stand as still as possible and think about something else. Same thing when my dad kisses me in the cheek but he very rarely does that and my mother never kisses me at all and I don't really remember her ever doing it either.

I think it's the whole sharing saliva thing. It just makes me feel ill. I can't even share a spoon with a friend when eating ice cream out the tub. Or drink from the same waterbottle as someone else.

I think I'm just weird lol.

Wow I thought it was just me. I really don't hug or kiss my parents. My dad never. My mom has to beg me to kiss her. I think showing affection embarrasses me or makes me feel vulnerable. I also cannot drink from the same container or eat with the same utensils as somebody else, not even my parents.

RedCatWaves · 11-11-2012, 01:35 PM

DEALBREAKER!!!

For me, the main thing I look for when I assess whether a man is attractive to me, or not...is whether he's "kissable". If I can't imagine myself happily kissing him, he's not attractive. I would HATE being in a relationship with a man opposed to kissing. I would rather keep it moving.

ShayShampagne · 11-11-2012, 02:15 PM

I love kissing! Its so awesome! But I could see why some people don't like it.... I've never been with someone who didn't like kissing

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LAwoman · 11-11-2012, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by curlylaura

I've read that most prostitutes don't kiss or allow their clients to kiss them because its too intimate.

Yes. Julia Roberts taught me that in Pretty Woman.

ThickHairedQT · 11-11-2012, 07:05 PM

I dislike kissing, a peck is fine but anything else makes me cringe. Just the texture and moisture of it all just puts me off. Even looking at makeout scenes or witnessing it in person makes me shudder heck, I squirm when people let their animals lick them in the mouth and such. When I first met SO, he would always try to kiss/makeout until I told him my dislike of it and we've been pecking ever since.

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Josephine · 11-12-2012, 02:29 PM

No that sucks. But I've been with incompatible kissers and that also sucks. Kissing is really important.

luvmylocs · 11-12-2012, 04:44 PM

kissing is GOOD for you!

i didn't need an article to tell me it's good for me but in light of this thread i thought i'd share this article. kiss, kiss ladies!

The New Black · 11-12-2012, 07:05 PM

To those whose current or former partners weren't good kissers (IYOs): what about their kissing did you dislike?

Josephine · 11-12-2012, 07:43 PM

Too hard and one person would stick his tongue in and out. One guy had a smokers tongue.

jolenemerritt81 · 11-12-2012, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by The New Black

To those whose current or former partners weren't good kissers (IYOs): what about their kissing did you dislike?

Using only the tip of the tongue like a knife. Its almost like his tongue can't go all the way out. Hard to explain. It's kind of weird.

ThickHairedQT · 11-12-2012, 11:51 PM

I did know this one guy who couldn't have been doing it right. The aftermath was a wet mess and his tongue was trying to wiggle down my throat.

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iroc · 11-13-2012, 06:00 AM

Gross. All the bad kissing descriptions oog me out.

When their tongue feels too firm. And dry. I had an ex that would dump a bunch of spit in my mouth. *puke*.

Mr Man is a perfect kisser. We don't tongue kiss unless we're getting into it, but I appreciate it then.

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curlylaura · 11-13-2012, 01:18 PM

Sexyboy was bad at first but I've taught him.

murrrcat · 11-13-2012, 01:22 PM

his breath smelled like cabbage, I gagged...while kissing.

Ugh, the memories. I can almost taste the smell, that's how bad it was.

AND THEN I COULD SMELL THE BREATH SMELL ON MY LIPS AFTER I RAN AWAY. (yes I ran away)

FieryCurls · 11-13-2012, 01:26 PM

I don't care for tongue (or very limited use), but not liking to kiss or being a bad kisser would be a deal breaker. My husband's kisses can make me putty in his hands!!

Ericachristina · 11-13-2012, 03:57 PM

It really depends on the person, some people like different styles and methods of kissing and if what you like does not match with your partners likes then it may not be as enjoyable.

I also think that some people can be downright terrible kissers...I hate it when men try to give you those super wet kisses with way too much tongue and aggression...it is suppose to be sensual and romantic you aren’t suppose to try and eat my face! Personally I have had the opposite experience not men who don’t like to kiss but men who can’t seem to stop lunging at you for a kiss...this could be just as bad depending on the number of dates you have had and how comfortable you are with the guy.

My husband knows how to kiss me just right because he knows me well enough to know what I like. If I found out the guy I was with didn’t like kissing and shunned away from kissing me I’d shut the door in his face so fast he wouldn’t know what hit him.

Josephine · 11-14-2012, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Ericachristina

I hate it when men try to give you those super wet kisses with way too much tongue and aggression...it is suppose to be sensual and romantic you aren’t suppose to try and eat my face!

Yes this! At first current bf did that and I complained about it at the moment too, didn't see him for months after that(not only for that but that definitely didn't help) and next time he was on point and now he hasn't done that in a long while.

Layali · 11-15-2012, 03:38 PM

IMO, there is definitely a correlation between being a good kisser and being good in bed. For me, a reluctant kisser or bad kisser would be a dealbreaker. Just Sayin.