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Old 11-16-2012, 04:08 PM   #21
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I'm one of those people who prefers the comfortable aspects of the relationship I don't like the beginning stuff, I am so much happier once the lusty beginnings wear off and I realize how much I like and love who the person is and when I can express myself freely.

The beginning is exciting but I get so much more in every other sense once it's over.

I just remember having a shift in my awareness, I knew I was I love when I experienced how much bigger my understanding of loss was. With my love grew my ability to feel grief. I did just "know" when I was in love. It was such a different feeling.
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Old 11-16-2012, 06:14 PM   #22
 
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I think I always felt it was right at the time. The stuff that I should have picked up on that's wrong, I didn't see until after. That's love for ya.

I love falling in love too. I love the anxiousness, nervousness, the wondering what he's doing, if he feels the same way, the wanting to talk to him constantly but holding back BC you don't know the boundaries of the relationship. The knot in your stomach.

Some people don't like that part. I love it.


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I love that part! But I don't consider it love at all. I believe love is what comes after that. When you're no longer nervous because you trust him completely, and no longer anxious because you know you're gonna have an amazing time even if you get a flat tire and the food is terrible. To me it's love when the boundaries aren't there anymore. When you have no need to hold back.
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Old 11-16-2012, 06:28 PM   #23
 
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I think I always felt it was right at the time. The stuff that I should have picked up on that's wrong, I didn't see until after. That's love for ya.

I love falling in love too. I love the anxiousness, nervousness, the wondering what he's doing, if he feels the same way, the wanting to talk to him constantly but holding back BC you don't know the boundaries of the relationship. The knot in your stomach.

Some people don't like that part. I love it.


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I love that part! But I don't consider it love at all. I believe love is what comes after that. When you're no longer nervous because you trust him completely, and no longer anxious because you know you're gonna have an amazing time even if you get a flat tire and the food is terrible. To me it's love when the boundaries aren't there anymore. When you have no need to hold back.
I agree. The part that comes after is the real stuff. The important stuff.

But to me, that's *being* in love, whereas the *falling* in love is all the "rainbows and puppy dogs" stuff.

But, again, that's just how I personally differentiate the two.
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Old 11-17-2012, 07:29 AM   #24
 
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I think I always felt it was right at the time. The stuff that I should have picked up on that's wrong, I didn't see until after. That's love for ya.

I love falling in love too. I love the anxiousness, nervousness, the wondering what he's doing, if he feels the same way, the wanting to talk to him constantly but holding back BC you don't know the boundaries of the relationship. The knot in your stomach.

Some people don't like that part. I love it.


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I love that part! But I don't consider it love at all. I believe love is what comes after that. When you're no longer nervous because you trust him completely, and no longer anxious because you know you're gonna have an amazing time even if you get a flat tire and the food is terrible. To me it's love when the boundaries aren't there anymore. When you have no need to hold back.
I don't think its actual love either. I actually think its a form of temporary insanity! I agree that what comes later is the real stuff, but I still think the ga-ga stuff is important. It's exciting, and all encompassing, and I don't want it to go by too fast.


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Old 11-18-2012, 06:38 AM   #25
 
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I think I always felt it was right at the time. The stuff that I should have picked up on that's wrong, I didn't see until after. That's love for ya.

I love falling in love too. I love the anxiousness, nervousness, the wondering what he's doing, if he feels the same way, the wanting to talk to him constantly but holding back BC you don't know the boundaries of the relationship. The knot in your stomach.

Some people don't like that part. I love it.


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I love that part! But I don't consider it love at all. I believe love is what comes after that. When you're no longer nervous because you trust him completely, and no longer anxious because you know you're gonna have an amazing time even if you get a flat tire and the food is terrible. To me it's love when the boundaries aren't there anymore. When you have no need to hold back.
I agree. The part that comes after is the real stuff. The important stuff.

But to me, that's *being* in love, whereas the *falling* in love is all the "rainbows and puppy dogs" stuff.

But, again, that's just how I personally differentiate the two.
Agree 100%

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Old 11-19-2012, 08:13 AM   #26
 
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I think I always felt it was right at the time. The stuff that I should have picked up on that's wrong, I didn't see until after. That's love for ya.

I love falling in love too. I love the anxiousness, nervousness, the wondering what he's doing, if he feels the same way, the wanting to talk to him constantly but holding back BC you don't know the boundaries of the relationship. The knot in your stomach.

Some people don't like that part. I love it.


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I love that part! But I don't consider it love at all. I believe love is what comes after that. When you're no longer nervous because you trust him completely, and no longer anxious because you know you're gonna have an amazing time even if you get a flat tire and the food is terrible. To me it's love when the boundaries aren't there anymore. When you have no need to hold back.
I don't think its actual love either. I actually think its a form of temporary insanity! I agree that what comes later is the real stuff, but I still think the ga-ga stuff is important. It's exciting, and all encompassing, and I don't want it to go by too fast.


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I totally agree. I'm in it right now and going to be kinda sad when it's over. There's no nervousness, but just ga ga ness. We spent all weekend together and last night mourning that we have to leave each other for work this morning. We chat on skype basically all through out the day. It's annoying because I have no personal time to get things done because I'm always wanting to be with him. I'm going to try not to see him tonite. We'll see. At least I cleaned and did laundry over the weekend.
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Fun and a little different every time. But looking back...was it ever really, really there? IDK

Like would I have taken a bullet or any of these guys or gifted them a kidney? Paid their rent (yes...but never w/o a promise of repayment)?

How selfless was it? And how much based on mutual respect?
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