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Old 11-28-2012, 11:10 AM   #1
 
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Are you a light sleeper? I've always had insomnia but lately I can fall asleep under an hour, probably within 20 mins as long as bf doesn't start snoring. The problem is, whether I'm alone or not, I wake up in the middle of the night and it takes me another 20 mins or so to fall asleep. The bigger problem is, usually my bf is snoring and I can't. I did some searching on some old threads and I'm going to try this -

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He said his ex and his exwife also complained about the snoring. He tried the nose strips but he said after a few days they dont work anymore. I just recently started noticing the snoring. Either I'm sleeping even lighter or the colder weather is making it worse(which was the case for my ex). My ex and I had to sleep in separate rooms for a while in the winter.

His snoring is light so I'm thinking earplugs could work. I'm guessing there is no real solution to the snoring. I've read about the sleep studies and the machine, i don't expect him to wear that crap while he's sleeping.
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Old 11-28-2012, 11:37 AM   #2
 
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My bf snores, too. He wears a snore guard. He bought it online and it works great. I think I tried MidNite and it didn't work for me. I will wake up around 2:30am and sometimes I can't go back to sleep. I have to be up at 5:30am for work, so I'm usually tired all week from lack of sleep.
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There really isn't any good cure for snoring. I suggest you embrace it and just accept it as who he is. The worst thing is to get angry and blame him. He can't help it, and he is not doing it on purpose.

My husband snores, and I am a lifelong insomniac, but the reason I can't sleep has nothing to do with his snoring. In fact, I find his snoring to be rather comforting. I like that he is there next to me, and the snoring lets me know that he's there. The only alternative is to have separate rooms, and I'm not willing to do that. I don't ever get mad at him for it. The only time it bothers me is if he's doing it right in my face. So I just give him a gentle shove and he happily flips over the other way. I'm sure I'm no picnic to sleep with either, and I snore occasionally too. He doesn't mind. We intend to snore together for many years to come.
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Old 11-28-2012, 12:15 PM   #4
 
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Yep we deal with this. I'm a light sleep and bf is a snorer. Much worse if he has a few drinks!

I either wear earplugs, or occassionally if it's bad enough, one of us will sleep in the spare bedroom- but that's only happened 2 or 3 times in 2 years. Mostly the earplugs work.
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There really isn't any good cure for snoring. I suggest you embrace it and just accept it as who he is. The worst thing is to get angry and blame him. He can't help it, and he is not doing it on purpose.

My husband snores, and I am a lifelong insomniac, but the reason I can't sleep has nothing to do with his snoring. In fact, I find his snoring to be rather comforting. I like that he is there next to me, and the snoring lets me know that he's there. The only alternative is to have separate rooms, and I'm not willing to do that. I don't ever get mad at him for it. The only time it bothers me is if he's doing it right in my face. So I just give him a gentle shove and he happily flips over the other way. I'm sure I'm no picnic to sleep with either, and I snore occasionally too. He doesn't mind. We intend to snore together for many years to come.
That's good for you that you can sleep through it and you find it comforting but I can't. I'm like lotsa, where I've noticed my energy levels have been down since I've been sleeping with him more often. It affects my life greatly of course. And I know it affects him because we can't have as much fun together or do more since I'm tired.

Of course I don't blame him, he can't help it. But we are trying to think of solutions. I don't know if I'll end up with him long term but I'm assuming most men snore so this is an issue for me.

I'm willing to embrace it for him but separate rooms may ultimately be the only answer if sleeping aids, earplugs, surgery, losing weight, etc doesn't work in the future.

For right now I'm going to try sleeping aids and earplugs. If not, we are only going to be able to sleep in the same bed during the weekends. And even then, I'll go sleep in the other room if I wake up and can't go back to sleep. The weekends are the only time I get to sleep in and feel well rested. I generally don't get enough sleep during the week and value my weekend sleep a lot. I turn my phones off to make sure no one wakes me in the morning.

Personally I don't care about sleeping together the whole night but I do like falling asleep with him there. In the morning after I'm rested we can get back in the same bed and cuddle, etc before getting up. Thing is I don't know if he is okay with that. All this might not be an issue if the other options work for me. I've talked to some of the guys at work about this and a couple of them said weight was the huge factor. We both are trying to lose weight, hope it helps.

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Yep we deal with this. I'm a light sleep and bf is a snorer. Much worse if he has a few drinks!

I either wear earplugs, or occassionally if it's bad enough, one of us will sleep in the spare bedroom- but that's only happened 2 or 3 times in 2 years. Mostly the earplugs work.
Thank you! I really hope they work for me.
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There really isn't any good cure for snoring. I suggest you embrace it and just accept it as who he is. The worst thing is to get angry and blame him. He can't help it, and he is not doing it on purpose.

My husband snores, and I am a lifelong insomniac, but the reason I can't sleep has nothing to do with his snoring. In fact, I find his snoring to be rather comforting. I like that he is there next to me, and the snoring lets me know that he's there. The only alternative is to have separate rooms, and I'm not willing to do that. I don't ever get mad at him for it. The only time it bothers me is if he's doing it right in my face. So I just give him a gentle shove and he happily flips over the other way. I'm sure I'm no picnic to sleep with either, and I snore occasionally too. He doesn't mind. We intend to snore together for many years to come.
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Old 11-28-2012, 01:55 PM   #8
 
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I have always had a very difficult time falling asleep, but once asleep I stay asleep pretty well, I usually go to bed around an hour before my boyfriend, so I can fall asleep easier. I mean, that's not the REASON I go to bed earlier, but it's a factor. I also find having music playing helps me...it's like I have something to listen to and concentrate on other than snoring.
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Old 11-28-2012, 02:24 PM   #9
 
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I haven't had a good nights sleep in 12 years between the dog hogging the bed and my husband snoring.

Thankfully when Mr. Spring lost some weight his snoring lessened and if I can get him to roll over to his side he'll mostly stop snoring, but I've pretty much woken myself completely up trying to gently nudge him to roll over, so...

I am a light sleeper who also wakes several times a night to go to the bathroom, so between all of that I feel like I never really sleep great and I am always, always tired and dragging. Sometimes it annoys the crap out of me, but for the most part I've just accepted this is how it is and am glad for some nights when he barely snores at all. It's not really that he's even that loud, but I have a hard time getting into a deep sleep.

I've recently started using an app on my phone for some ambient noise because I also have some horrendous ringing in my ears and having that bit of background noise going helps.
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I haven't had a good nights sleep in 12 years between the dog hogging the bed and my husband snoring.
Ugh, I guess sometimes you do have to give up some really important things when you're not single anymore. I'm not going to lie, even though I was a wreck when I broke up with the ex, I LOVED having the bed all to myself again.
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Thankfully I'm used to it by now. I too suffer from insomnia but his snoring doesn't bother me at all. Now it's awkward when he's not there! I do need some ambient noise like a fan going (no music, that makes things worse). If I have that then his snoring tends to fade into the background unless it gets to the horrendous trying to breath through his nose and mouth at the same time noise. Then I just nudge and he turns over.

I will say it did take some getting used to, esp. when we weren't spending every night together. Now that we live together it's not much of an issue at all.
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My husband snores horribly. It rattles the walls and sounds like a den of grizzles. I sleep in the guestroom or on the couch. It's the only way I can fall asleep. I spent the first 5 years of our marriage being exhausted from being awaken when he snores. It doesn't matter who falls asleep first or how heavily I sleep. Sleep is a must. A well rested Speckla is a happy Speckla. An exhausted Speckla means an unhappy and stressed Speckla = no good for anyone.
It hasn't gotten in the way of marital relations. It's all good.
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My husband snores something awful. There were a lot of nights spent on the couch until I discovered earplugs and a vibrating alarm I wear on my wrist so I can still get up for work. Problem solved! Hope you can find a good solution.
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He really should have a sleep study. A CPAP if prescribed might save his life.
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Oh wow, I'm going through this right now! My boyfriend's snoring is so horrible. It's super loud, he stops breathing sometimes, and he twitches his leg sometimes which shakes the whole bed. I'm an insomniac too and I've been so since I was little...always waking up in the middle of the night and it being hard to fall back to sleep. I usually could sleep through it but being pregnant makes my sleeping habits even worse. I don't even know how to tell him about the snoring. I've told him about the shaking keeping me up and he seems a little offended and upset when he wakes up and I'm out on the couch. I've told him about his breathing as well and suggested he see a specialist about it, but I guess it's not important enough to do so. We plan on putting a bassinet in the room with us while the baby is small and now I'm worried about his snoring keeping the baby up. I feel like I'm going to sound like a bad girlfriend telling him about the snoring.

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I have serious insomnia issues and my husband snores.
I use earplugs and sleep phones while listening to sleep music with binaural beats. This helps me to stay asleep more than anything.
Also use Badger Balms Sleep Balm under my nose. Or you can use a drop of lavender oil or make a spray with lavender oil and water and spray your sheets and pillow.
I also take sleep meds. MidNite contains some good ingredients just in small doses.
I take 1 Sleep Tonight, 2 Revitalizing Sleep formula capsules and add additional passionflower, lemon balm, hops, chamomile and valerian. Will take Lunesta if needed also. I take 2-3 rounds of meds to get to sleep.

For snoring, elevating the head of your bed by 6" can help, having him sleep on his side also. If it's allergy related, the nose strips may help and using allergy meds and an air filter. Avoiding dairy before bed is recommended also.

When the snoring gets really bad, I move to the couch.
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We plan on putting a bassinet in the room with us while the baby is small and now I'm worried about his snoring keeping the baby up.


We kept our babies in our room for each of their first years. The snoring didn't wake them, or keep them awake. I think the babies found his snoring comforting, like me.
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Mr B snores very loudly. Some nights are worse than others. It did used to bother me and keep me from sleeping when we first began living together, but I didn't want to have to sleep on the couch or in another room, so I kind of trained myself to become used to it. It wasn't easy and it took a while, but it worked. Now it actually helps to lull me to sleep, and like RCW I find it comforting.
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My husband snores horribly. It rattles the walls and sounds like a den of grizzles. I sleep in the guestroom or on the couch. It's the only way I can fall asleep. I spent the first 5 years of our marriage being exhausted from being awaken when he snores. It doesn't matter who falls asleep first or how heavily I sleep. Sleep is a must. A well rested Speckla is a happy Speckla. An exhausted Speckla means an unhappy and stressed Speckla = no good for anyone.
It hasn't gotten in the way of marital relations. It's all good.
I'm so glad to hear that. Sleep is precious to me and I don't want to break up over snoring. The only thing I miss about being single is that I felt so much more energetic and rested.
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Oh wow, I'm going through this right now! My boyfriend's snoring is so horrible. It's super loud, he stops breathing sometimes, and he twitches his leg sometimes which shakes the whole bed. I'm an insomniac too and I've been so since I was little...always waking up in the middle of the night and it being hard to fall back to sleep. I usually could sleep through it but being pregnant makes my sleeping habits even worse. I don't even know how to tell him about the snoring. I've told him about the shaking keeping me up and he seems a little offended and upset when he wakes up and I'm out on the couch. I've told him about his breathing as well and suggested he see a specialist about it, but I guess it's not important enough to do so. We plan on putting a bassinet in the room with us while the baby is small and now I'm worried about his snoring keeping the baby up. I feel like I'm going to sound like a bad girlfriend telling him about the snoring.
Why? If you cant sleep because of it tell him. I told mine from day one but for some reason it wasn't that bad afterwards. I really think it got worse with it getting colder and dryer recently. I have 3 female friends that I can't share hotel rooms with either and I've told them. What's the point if you can't sleep? It's not mean, it's the truth. I wish I was a heavy sleeper, so it's not like it's all the other person's fault, it's my issue too.

So last night was good, it did take me a while to fall asleep because he fell asleep before me and I had to nudge him a few times and he stopped. After I fell asleep I didnt get back up. I think it's because I did intense cardio last night and I was supertired. Going to get earplugs and the sleep aid by this weekend.
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