Ts & Ps needed for FIL -- (update: MIL is gone, FIL in ER)

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I'm so sorry for your loss. For what it's worth you are a great DIL and wife for doing so much for your FIL. He is lucky to have you there for him.
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Hubby drove up this morning and is there helping FIL. They are planning to go to the mortuary there to sign the papers to have her transferred when she gets released (still waiting, I have a feeling it won't be until next week, small town and all). Hubby said they just cut off FIL's phone service because he didn't pay the bills. Hubby will be doing that while he's there. I wish I could have gone to help too, but I think it's best since their dogs would want to play with mine, and the old one can't get worked up. I'm still doing what I can on this end.

Thank you all for your support.

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Curlilocks, how are all of you doing? (((Hugs)))
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I just saw this. I am so sorry for your loss! You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Curlilocks, how are all of you doing? (((Hugs)))
Originally Posted by ruralcurls
Hubby is still up there with his dad, they are getting the bills paid and taking care of other things. They are driving down tomorrow and we're meeting with the people at the mortuary, and whatever else we can do tomorrow. I booked him a couple of nights at a hotel, they'll take the dogs, so he's bringing them too. I think that's good so he has them at night and won't worry about them all day either.

At this point, I'm still in numb mode. And that's a good thing, so I can get things done.

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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
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I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.
Today was: funeral home for plot, casket, prayer cards, etc.; funeral services set; headstone info done (she's going in the family plot her parents bought).

Tomorrow: flowers and stuff. After taking poor FIL to my dentist for a possible root canal. He is in a ton of pain, he already knew the tooth was going bad and was to see his dentist next week. He can't wait. It's hard to think straight while you're in pain, so I talked him into seeing my wonderful dentist that is going to squeeze him into her already packed schedule tomorrow morning.

Another busy day. I finally cried for the first time while choosing the prayer/memorial cards today. I've been in Numb Mode, and I'm back to NM after a brief cry, but I have to stay sane to get this all done.

On a happy note, both his dogs are doing well and had a fun day playing with my pup. They're all tired tonight!

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Numb mode can be a blessing when you have so much to accomplish. Glad you all are being such a help to your FIL in so many ways, I'm sure he is completely overwhelmed. You're all in my thoughts. Thanks for keeping us updated, and take care of yourself too.
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CL, I think about you often throughout the day and I wish there was something I could do for you. I hope that being able to type some things out here is helpful for you in some way, we're all here for you.

Big hugs to you.
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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.
CL, I think about you often throughout the day and I wish there was something I could do for you. I hope that being able to type some things out here is helpful for you in some way, we're all here for you.

Big hugs to you.
Originally Posted by spring1onu

I ditto this sentiment! I am so sorry...my love and thoughts are with you and your family. *hugs*
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Yes, it does help, so I'm going to ramble on...... again. I don't mean to whine, but it's nice to get it off my chest (or fingertips!) Here goes..............

Can it get any worse?!?! Well, I'm sure it can but let's pray not!

We took FIL to get the root canal, she got him in at 11AM. It was actually almost noon before they got to work after x-rays and consult. Hubby and I left to go look at ordering flowers. I got a call less than an hour in, saying to come pick up FIL. The Doctor could not get him numbed up enough to do the root canal. He is way too infected and inflamed at this point. Come to find out that the vicodin and antibiotics he says he was taking are EXPIRED medications! I thought his other dentist had prescribed them recently. I guess not. So nothing was working. She prescribed new meds, and hopefully after 24 hours she'll be able to get him numb enough to work. So he goes back at 3PM tomorrow. Basically a wasted day, and FIL is still suffering.

He was wanting to drive home today, not going to happen. 2 more nights at the hotel, I just called and extended.

I spoke to hubby's sister (my SIL), the mortuary and cemetery-- we decided it's best at this point to push everything out until 2/4-5. There is just no way we can prepare and do everything that needs to be done while FIL is having this health issue. So we just sat down with FIL and laid it all out. He understands, he has been feeling rushed and pushed too. We agree that MIL's first concern was always his health, so she would understand the wait.

OK, hitting SEND because I keep getting interrupted!

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CL, don't ever hesitate to just let it all out. Trying to be strong, hold it all together and get everything done can't be easy so please, please use this outlet of support to let it out.

Having some dental work done currently has me cringing at how awful your FIL's mouth must feel right now, my goodness I can't even imagine. Expired medications, ugh!!! How frustrating.

I'm glad y'all could figure out that pushing it back a bit would help and hope it helps a bit with all the pressure everyone must be feeling on top of the grief.

Sending you more big hugs, my friend.
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Byron,GA> Charleston, SC> Jacksonville, FL> Guilford, CT> Rohnert Park, CA! A southern drawl in sunny Cali! .
The amount of time from slipping on the peel and landing on the pavement is exactly one bananosecond.
I do have a secret yen for pink in unexpected places. ~ninja dog
I've decided that I'll never get down to my original weight, and I'm OK with that--After all, 8 pounds 2 oz. is just not realistic.
CL, I'm sorry for your loss.

With my recent goings on, all I can say is, if you feel like being strong, go with it, if you feel like being weak, go with it, if you feel like spending the day in bed, you're allowed.

And people who have lost don't always need strength, they need others who grieve to grieve and cry with them.


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I my curly friends! We just had a nice dinner, FIL actually was able to eat and enjoy it. The new meds are really helping.

My dentist just called and left a message, checking on FIL and making sure he's taking his meds, making sure he's feeling better. She's wonderful.

I had a strong mai tai with dinner, so excuse me for typos and bad grammar. LOL We (hubby and I) have been getting to bed around 1AM and getting up at 6AM, so we're exhausted. We'll be going to bed early tonight!
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-- gone, but never forgotten.
CL, I'm just now catching up on all that is happening. You must be a godsend to your FIL and husband during this time. I agree with Spring, go ahead and let it all out, it doesn't even have to make sense. I think we're all okay with that. Just use us as your sounding board. HUGS
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Can it get any worse?!?! Well, I'm sure it can but let's pray not!
Originally Posted by CurliLocks
Holy carp! Yes, it got worse. I jinxed everything.

FIL is currently in the ER. I left him and hubby there to come put his dogs in and feed them (he was worried). So we took him for his root canal. She still had a hard time getting him numb because of the high infection, he shouted in pain a couple of times but kept insisting she continue. When his blood pressure shot up, she called it quits and asked us to drive him directly to the ER because of his history (2 heart attacks, 1 stroke).

They just took him back, I fed the dogs, fed my son, had a bit to eat and I'm heading back. At this point, I'm making hubby stay in the hotel with FIL tonight. I don't want him alone. I wish he'd stay here with us but he won't.

Anyway, please pray, send healing vibes and good thoughts, whatever, his way! Stat! I'm so scared right now.

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* pw: just4curlies
* My Motto: Strand Test!
some hair pics
-- gone, but never forgotten.
Prayers, postive thoughts and healing vibes,all going out to you, your family and FIL. I am sure the dentist was right in sending him to the ER, but hopefully it was just a precaution and he will be out and resting soon. kK
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