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Old 12-19-2012, 10:28 PM   #21
 
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I defriended my sister-in-laws. They were making catty and passive aggressive comments on FB and I was getting sick of it. In retrospect I should have put them on limited access instead and saved myself the drama but I didn't know about that option (and really it amounts to the same thing - if you have mutual friends that person will soon realize they aren't seeing all your posts). Anyways, they promptly blocked me.

A year later one SIL told me how hurt she and her sister were was that I deleted them on FB and that I'm way too sensitive. I told her that I didn't appreciate the negativity and drama on my FB and that I thought that we need to work at getting along better when we interact in person. Didn't work lol. We still don't get along. But I don't regret getting them off my FB.
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Old 12-19-2012, 10:43 PM   #22
 
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Oh and I have almost everyone on the "only important updates" setting. I like to see personal status updates and the occasional photograph. That's about it.
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Old 12-20-2012, 12:01 AM   #23
 
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Wow, she was really childish about that. I don't blame you for unfriending her--life is too short to read annoying political rants on a social media site. I get irritated when people forward me stupid anti-Obama stuff, so I can only imagine having to look at it on my feed. I bet if you started a daily rant about how awful something is that she supports or loves, she'd change her tune.
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Old 12-20-2012, 01:02 AM   #24
 
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It's FB. A website. It's not a personal tool of destruction.

It's not like you'd want to have her on speaker phone all day. Same concept and annoyance.
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Old 12-20-2012, 01:23 AM   #25
 
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I don't agree with your position that ex-pats shouldn't criticize the government of their country of origin. Doesn't sound that much different from the position that non-citizens of a country shouldn't criticize its government.

I also don't agree with defriending people and not telling them. I have defriended people who posted offensive or annoying things - however, I tell them first (privately.) Especially if they're someone I know and see in real life or someone who has been a reasonably good friend. Part of FB to me is the diversity of opinions you wouldn't normally have, so just having a stridently different opinion will make me hide and limit contact but not defriend or block. The only time I would defriend someone abruptly like that is if they make me feel demeaned or threatened and I don't really know them in RL.

I don't think I would confront you like she did and create more drama, but I can relate to her feelings on this.
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Old 12-20-2012, 08:36 AM   #26
 
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When I have fb friends with annoying posts, I usually just hide their feeds. I've had to do this to some of my younger cousins as well. Not that I don't like them, but I don't like to hear childish rants and for other friends, too many cheesy religious or inspirational quotes, I had one guy post 10-20 a day, I had to remove him from my feed, great guy though, I meet up with him when I can when he's in town.

As far as someone who I think just sucks(which sounds like your fb friend) I suppose I would delete them. I might have missed this but is she a friend in real life? When she was living in the same city as you would you hang out on a regular basis? If not, I don't see any need for an explanation.

Mad scientist, funny you deleted your own sister in laws, lol that could cause drama. But I don't blame you. I have a friend that writes passive aggressive stuff on her wall, it's beyond childish. I might just block her from my feed, but I'm still somewhat cordial friends with her and our families are friends so don't want to deal with the drama of deleting her.
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Old 12-20-2012, 08:48 AM   #27
 
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As far as someone who I think just sucks(which sounds like your fb friend) I suppose I would delete them. I might have missed this but is she a friend in real life? When she was living in the same city as you would you hang out on a regular basis? If not, I don't see any need for an explanation.
I've never even met her in real life. We "met" on a Nutrisystem message board back in 2008.
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Old 12-20-2012, 04:10 PM   #28
 
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bottom line...it's your fb page so you can do what you want. if you don't want to be subjected to bs, don't.
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