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curlypearl 12-31-2012 07:11 PM

question for curlies who are diplomatic

ShubhoR 12-31-2012 08:56 PM

If you are meeting him on a one on one basis, then I don't think he sees you as just a friend. All my male "just" friends are in my college group . We hang out together, study together etc. but all the guys I have have met on a "we-are-just-friends-date" kept hitting on me and some even tried to ..umm get into my pants :-| , when all they were just friends (to me) .
So if you want to keep a "just friends" relationship with him, i'd suggest you bring some mutual friends along.

I don't think I was much help, but be careful. Misunderstandings ruin good friendships and relationships. :)
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Rubber Biscuit 12-31-2012 10:21 PM

Hmmm, I think I'm a fairly diplomatic person, but these matters are sensitive and I'd hate to a) continue to send the wrong signal (if that's the case), or b) give him the impression that I'm full of myself (if I'm misreading the situation).

So, I might arrange to meet with him at 1 on Tuesday for tea, and when he arrives tell him that I have somewhere else to be in about an hour or so.

I think his reaction to your time limit and how the interaction feels over the next hour can give you a little more insight into his feelings.

I tend to suss things out before I make any hard and fast decisions on what to do.

PerriP 12-31-2012 10:27 PM

Can you reply with something along the lines of "I can meet you for tea at 2 on Thursday, that'll work out great because I've got a date at 330 in the same past of town". That way he knows he's friend zoned and not on a date. If all he's looking for its a friend, then not a big deal at all.

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The New Black 12-31-2012 10:47 PM

The words you came up with sound fine to me CP.

curlypearl 01-01-2013 02:44 AM

Thank you all very much for your help in responding to this nice person! I'm going to close the thread because I got enough out of your responses not to need additional input.

Very joyous and especially Happy New Year to SubhorR, Rubber Biscuit, PerriP, and The New Black! :blob4::thumbleft::thumbleft::thumbleft:

ShubhoR 01-01-2013 05:59 AM

Happy new year to you too! :)

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