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Old 01-09-2013, 07:25 PM   #21
 
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Sometimes I say something, sometimes I don't.

I hate when someone is waiting behind you and they start getting annoyed with the wait. All that sighing and mumbling of "jesus" is not making me want to move any faster.
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Old 01-09-2013, 07:33 PM   #22
 
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Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.
This is usually me...unless people don't back down...then I become Netg at the bagel place.



I love that "Netg at the bagel place" just became synonymous with b----! I was actually nice about saying I was next, then just straightforward and not nasty about pointing out that he had to push me out of his way to get to the menu, not *mean* about it. Just assertive.
I didn't mean it that way. If you think about it...if it is synonymous...I am one too. LOL!
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:00 PM   #23
 
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I often will say something, but it depends on my mood and in how much of a hurry I am.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:43 PM   #24
 
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I will if there is a definite 'line' like at Starbucks or the post office or what have you. I wouldn't say something if there was just a group of people waiting for elevators, or boarding a train or something because at least where I work/live there doesn't tend to be an organized line for those things.

I usually will just be polite and say 'oh sorry, think I'm next, I think the end of the line is over there' type of thing, but this summer I got really annoyed with some woman at the zoo. There was a really long line and the man selling tickets was a little older and kind of slow so it was not moving. I'd been in line with my 18 month old for a LONG 25 mins and I was next, and there was a line of 20-30 families behind me. This obnoxious woman with two children walked up and was standing off to the side near me like she was going to go next, and said to me 'it's ok I have a membership.' The woman behind me said 'I have a membership too, they don't have a membership gate open today, you have to wait in line.' Obnoxious woman says 'well, I can't wait in that line, my child can't wait in line.' I said, 'well, sorry, my child hasn't been happy waiting in line either, but I'm next.' She then proceeded to throw a fit which I totally ignored, but the woman behind me caved and let her go next.
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Old 01-09-2013, 09:13 PM   #25
 
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I don't. I am usually worried about confrontation and how the person might react. I avoid eye contract and act like I didn't see them.
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I usually say "oh sorry, you can go in front I don't mind", and smile. Like they actually had the right of way. HAHAHAH.

It's my passive aggressive approach

I wouldn't call them out, people these days.
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Definitely. I usually just smile nicely and say, "The back of the line is actually over there!" It works every time.
This. I pretend to give them the benefit of the doubt and they take the hint. I'm surprised at how many people won't say anything but are grateful when I do.
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Old 01-09-2013, 10:04 PM   #28
 
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I generally say something. Once upon I time I wouldn't have done, but I've got more bolshie as I've got older. I feel uncomfortable after the event but I can deal with that better than I can deal with stewing later because I didn't say something.
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Old 01-09-2013, 10:10 PM   #29
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Line-jumpers REALLY bother me, because line-jumping comes with the assumption that their time is more valuable than mine. FALSE!

However, I never say anything. Apparently, I prefer to stew about it and perhaps someday I'll develop a twitch in my right eye because of it. One can only hope!
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Old 01-10-2013, 08:10 AM   #30
 
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Yes, I say something especially when my girls are with me (2,6). Usually I don't have to my 6 year old handles it beautifully. There's nothing like being politely scolded by a small curly haired little girl.

I don't tolerate rudeness like that, and neither do my children. They are also the first ones to let someone else go in front of them if it's obviously needed and hold doors and do small things like that for people as well.

People these days are so obnoxious and they teach their children to be that way as well.
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Old 01-10-2013, 08:32 AM   #31
 
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I usually say something and take the "The back of the line is over there approach" and it rarely leads to confrontation.

I had an interesting incident waiting in line for the Vatican Museum in Rome a few years ago. We were there on vacation during one of the hottest summers ever and I was also in my first trimester of pregnancy. The Vatican Museum is one of those places where there is always a line and it was one of the few places we decided it was worth waitiing for. We'd probably already been in line for a good 30-40 minutes in the heat, moving ever so slowly closer.
There was a Russian tour group a couple of people behind us and, me being from the USSR ,I always notice Russian-speakers everywhere just out of curiosity so my ears perk up. I also know that Russians are pretty notorious line-cutters. I guess it comes from decades of shortages of and long lines for basic necessities like food and toilet paper.
This lady in her 60s and her daughter from the group start kind of wandering and hovering around the line and I figure they are trying to find a place to cut in. Sure enough after a few minutes they are trying to work their way in a little bit ahead of us.
I said to her very politely in Russian "Excuse me, there is a line here, where are you going?" She looked a little shocked that I was speaking fluent Russian, I guess I don't look the part.
Then she finally says "I am trying to join my group"
I tell her "I know where your group is, it is over there" and I point to them behind us. At this point she just gave up and went back to them, looking annoyed and pissy. I know if they had gotten in, they would have had the whole group join them, though.

that was really the only time I have ever gotten pushback for calling someone on cutting, though
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Old 01-10-2013, 08:40 AM   #32
 
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Always. I'm not mean about it but I'll definitely tell you that you cut me.

Are you just politely saying it to inform them, in case they didn't realize? Or are you trying to like kill them w/ kindness so they apologize and move back?
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Old 01-10-2013, 09:02 AM   #33
 
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I usually say something and take the "The back of the line is over there approach" and it rarely leads to confrontation.

I had an interesting incident waiting in line for the Vatican Museum in Rome a few years ago. We were there on vacation during one of the hottest summers ever and I was also in my first trimester of pregnancy. The Vatican Museum is one of those places where there is always a line and it was one of the few places we decided it was worth waitiing for. We'd probably already been in line for a good 30-40 minutes in the heat, moving ever so slowly closer.
There was a Russian tour group a couple of people behind us and, me being from the USSR ,I always notice Russian-speakers everywhere just out of curiosity so my ears perk up. I also know that Russians are pretty notorious line-cutters. I guess it comes from decades of shortages of and long lines for basic necessities like food and toilet paper.
This lady in her 60s and her daughter from the group start kind of wandering and hovering around the line and I figure they are trying to find a place to cut in. Sure enough after a few minutes they are trying to work their way in a little bit ahead of us.
I said to her very politely in Russian "Excuse me, there is a line here, where are you going?" She looked a little shocked that I was speaking fluent Russian, I guess I don't look the part.
Then she finally says "I am trying to join my group"
I tell her "I know where your group is, it is over there" and I point to them behind us. At this point she just gave up and went back to them, looking annoyed and pissy. I know if they had gotten in, they would have had the whole group join them, though.

that was really the only time I have ever gotten pushback for calling someone on cutting, though
This reminds me of the time I also was at the Vatican with my mother. There was a huge line for the ladies room and some people were just waltzing up to the front which infuriated my mother. Luckily they were called on it and sent to the back.

I found that Italians don't like making straight lines but more of a cluster toward the front. This irked me quite a lot when I lived there.
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Old 01-10-2013, 09:21 AM   #34
 
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I will absolutely say something, but if it is an extremely crowded area I try to make sure the person is not just looking around rather than line jumping.

I can remember going to Disney World as a child, walking thru the castle with my mom, and stopping to look around. We were just trying to figure out where the Tea Cup ride was. I had been excited about riding the tea cups for weeks. All of a sudden this angry mob of parents came at us, with hands balled into fists, cussing us for line jumping. The crowd was so massive you couldn't even tell lines were formed. In situations like that I pause, make sure, and then proceed.
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it enrages the holy hell out of me when people act like they are too good to wait in lines. if we ignore this behavior it will continue!
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Old 01-10-2013, 09:47 AM   #36
 
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Yes. The only people who have confronted me were a few old ladies at the grocery store who think that their age gives them permission to be rude jerks. No matter all politely you put it they'll start cussing and yelling about respecting the elderly while calling you really nasty names.
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Oh goodie! Now that I'm a little old lady (ha) I'm going to start being a jerk. Oh wait - I've always been a jerk - at least according to some.

Sorry - OT but I'm playing with you all.
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Old 01-10-2013, 10:41 AM   #38
 
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Sometimes I will, sometimes I won't. I don't do well with large groups or crowds. So if the anxiety is mounting and people are always pushing the limits by cutting in line, crowding, randomly stopping short right in front of you, or (my biggest pet peeve) stopping their shopping cart smack in the middle of the aisle and won't move even if you say "excuse me, could I please get by?"

Most of the time, sarcasm is my defense of choice. I'll come out with something like.

"Oh, it's okay, I didn't have anywhere to be 3 minutes faster because you couldn't wait in the actual line."

"It must be nice to be so important that you can cut in front of all these people who have been waiting patiently."

"Oh, that's okay, I didn't have anywhere important to be today, so you go right on ahead and cut in line. Nobody else has anywhere else important to be other than you."

I try really hard to be diplomatic, but the comments above are reserved exclusively for the blatant offenders.
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I've been trying, but I can't even think of a situation where someone just blatantly got in line in front of me. It doesn't happen often, but it's usually someone who didn't even realize there was a line, and when they do catch on, they're so horrified, they apologize profusely before anyone has a chance to say anything. Maybe people here are overly polite. At least in stores. Now, driving around here is another matter entirely.
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I hate rude people. And I DO make sure they know we're in line here.

Those same rude people drive cars too. They'll hang in the left lane and drive RIGHT NEXT TO THE CAR IN THE RIGHT LANE! I'm like "B^tch!!! Get out the way! Why you in the passing lane AND CAN'T FRIGGIN PASS!!"

People just have no home training anymore.

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