"In a Relationship" with somebody you have never met in person...

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how old is she? i figure she is either young and naive or feels she is so old she will never find anyone and be forever alone.
Originally Posted by thelio

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Honestly, if I was single, I don't think I would be broadcasting my relationship status on FB, unless I was about to be married. It's just too much information. I've noticed that fewer of my single FB friends are sharing that kind of information lately. Maybe because we are in our mid-40s, or maybe because it really is too much information?
Originally Posted by KurlyKae
Yea I kind of feel that way unless it's pretty serious, not necessarily about to get married. I just updated mine because bf asked about it and seemed to care..I avoided it though because it's only been 6 months and it sorta seems extra, i dunno.
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how old is she? i figure she is either young and naive or feels she is so old she will never find anyone and be forever alone.
Originally Posted by thelio

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Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
yeeeeah. she must be afraid of being forever alone.
I set fb not to show relationship status because anyone who should know will know from me, and it's none of anyone else's business. Besides, I hate labels, so trying to figure out when someone is/isn't a relationship stinks.

If I were to get engaged/married I might update to reflect that. Maybe.
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how old is she? i figure she is either young and naive or feels she is so old she will never find anyone and be forever alone.
Originally Posted by thelio

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Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
yeeeeah. she must be afraid of being forever alone.
Originally Posted by thelio

I think she's actually just very immature. She just posted celebrating that her mommy did her laundry for her...


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Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
yeeeeah. she must be afraid of being forever alone.
Originally Posted by thelio

I think she's actually just very immature. She just posted celebrating that her mommy did her laundry for her...
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
O_O

My mum would never do my laundry. Since I was in college and living on my own. Hell, since I was in high school. WHAT?
I set fb not to show relationship status because anyone who should know will know from me, and it's none of anyone else's business. Besides, I hate labels, so trying to figure out when someone is/isn't a relationship stinks.

If I were to get engaged/married I might update to reflect that. Maybe.
Originally Posted by NetG
The longer I'm on FB, the more I respect people who have profiles, but do not feel the need to share every dang detail of their lives.
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yeeeeah. she must be afraid of being forever alone.
Originally Posted by thelio

I think she's actually just very immature. She just posted celebrating that her mommy did her laundry for her...
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
O_O

My mum would never do my laundry. Since I was in college and living on my own. Hell, since I was in high school. WHAT?
Originally Posted by coilynapp
excatly! I would be embarressed to even let my close friends know my mommy did my laundry.
Interesting timing for this thread: Manti Te'o hoax: Do you believe he is a victim? [poll] - latimes.com

Manti Te'o hoax: Do you believe he is a victim?
Originally Posted by The New Black
I guess so, he was lied to but why is this news? I don't understand why we need to know about this at all?? People get tricked/duped sometimes. It sucks but what's the point of announcing it to the world?
Originally Posted by Josephine
The more I think about it the more I agree with you. I was just reading another article and Te'o said he knew (about his GF's death?) on Dec 6 but didn't tell his coach and teammates until later. I guess that's his continued attempt to act like he wasn't in on the hoax. But it also perpetuates the idea that the whole debacle is more newsworthy than it really is.
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I set fb not to show relationship status because anyone who should know will know from me, and it's none of anyone else's business. Besides, I hate labels, so trying to figure out when someone is/isn't a relationship stinks.

If I were to get engaged/married I might update to reflect that. Maybe.
Originally Posted by NetG
The longer I'm on FB, the more I respect people who have profiles,
Originally Posted by LAwoman
Why is that? I hardly ever update mine. I think I did mine for fun or when I'm bored. Personally I don't take fb seriously, so it's not a big deal to me what I show or don't show.


I think she's actually just very immature. She just posted celebrating that her mommy did her laundry for her...
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
O_O

My mum would never do my laundry. Since I was in college and living on my own. Hell, since I was in high school. WHAT?
Originally Posted by coilynapp
excatly! I would be embarressed to even let my close friends know my mommy did my laundry.
Originally Posted by thelio
I started doing my own in the 7th grade because my mommy went bleach-happy constantly and ruin things! Maybe that was her way of getting me to do my own...
I set fb not to show relationship status because anyone who should know will know from me, and it's none of anyone else's business. Besides, I hate labels, so trying to figure out when someone is/isn't a relationship stinks.

If I were to get engaged/married I might update to reflect that. Maybe.
Originally Posted by NetG
The longer I'm on FB, the more I respect people who have profiles,
Originally Posted by LAwoman
Why is that? I hardly ever update mine. I think I did mine for fun or when I'm bored. Personally I don't take fb seriously, so it's not a big deal to me what I show or don't show.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I dunno. This culture of oversharing we are in just bugs me I guess.

I've deactivated my profile for months at a time, and would consider doing it again, but I do like seeing the pictures of my friends' kids and pets. That's about the only reason I stay on!
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My husband has this theory (maybe he heard it somewhere) that Manti T'eo is gay. Between being Mormon and attending Notre Dame, he needed to invent a girlfriend, kill her off and then swear to "never love another woman again" in order to gain some privacy and avoid the inevitable questions about his social life. Because lets face it, superstar college football player could have any woman he wanted - why would he be pining for an online love.

But with regards to the original question: I have an acquaintance who LEFT her husband and 12 year old son for a relationship with a guy she met playing some online game. Its been 2 years since then and she has still never met this guy! Every time they make plans for her to go down and visit him (he's in AZ, she's up here in Canada), he will suddenly break up with her. Then a day or two after she was supposed to have go onto the airplane, he will resume the relationship. The whole thing is beyond ridiculous. But she absolutely insists its real because she Skypes the guy all the time. My theory is that this dude has 5 computers and 5 girls that he's duping all at the same time.
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My husband has this theory (maybe he heard it somewhere) that Manti T'eo is gay. Between being Mormon and attending Notre Dame, he needed to invent a girlfriend, kill her off and then swear to "never love another woman again" in order to gain some privacy and avoid the inevitable questions about his social life. Because lets face it, superstar college football player could have any woman he wanted - why would he be pining for an online love.
Originally Posted by mad scientist
I totally agree. I forgot to mention the article I read alluded to that too. It said he made the GF up to squash questions from his teammates about why he doesn't date. Wow...way to have that backfire.

But with regards to the original question: I have an acquaintance who LEFT her husband and 12 year old son for a relationship with a guy she met playing some online game. Its been 2 years since then and she has still never met this guy! Every time they make plans for her to go down and visit him (he's in AZ, she's up here in Canada), he will suddenly break up with her. Then a day or two after she was supposed to have go onto the airplane, he will resume the relationship. The whole thing is beyond ridiculous. But she absolutely insists its real because she Skypes the guy all the time. My theory is that this dude has 5 computers and 5 girls that he's duping all at the same time.
omg, she must have the world's lowest self esteem (well, next to her son's self esteem now)... Two years and never met?
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My husband has this theory (maybe he heard it somewhere) that Manti T'eo is gay. Between being Mormon and attending Notre Dame, he needed to invent a girlfriend, kill her off and then swear to "never love another woman again" in order to gain some privacy and avoid the inevitable questions about his social life. Because lets face it, superstar college football player could have any woman he wanted - why would he be pining for an online love.
Originally Posted by mad scientist
Yes I've heard this rumor. And it is very odd someone like him would resort to online dating someone he is not getting anything out of physically.

But with regards to the original question: I have an acquaintance who LEFT her husband and 12 year old son for a relationship with a guy she met playing some online game. Its been 2 years since then and she has still never met this guy! Every time they make plans for her to go down and visit him (he's in AZ, she's up here in Canada), he will suddenly break up with her. Then a day or two after she was supposed to have go onto the airplane, he will resume the relationship. The whole thing is beyond ridiculous. But she absolutely insists its real because she Skypes the guy all the time. My theory is that this dude has 5 computers and 5 girls that he's duping all at the same time.
Originally Posted by mad scientist
Sounds like he's probably married and wants to stay that way but needs some fun and a virtual affair(s) on the side. It happened to my friend. She met a guy in a poker room and they talked on the phone, probably had phone sex or similar and then when she said she was gonna be in town for work he revealed he was not going to meet up with her and is married. Of course she went crazy and they met up. And he cut it off and she called his wife and his whole family got involved.

My friends mom was also spending a lot of time talking to someone she met while playing online games.
These online relationships are a sort of escapism. It's all about living in a fantasy world so you don't have to face a reality that could be pretty grim or isolating. The internet makes it so easy to put on a facade that is the person you want to be rather than the person you really are.

No, I don't think you can be in an online relationship without ever meeting. Pretty much guaranteed one or both parties are hiding something a la Catfish.
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The longer I'm on FB, the more I respect people who have profiles,
Originally Posted by LAwoman
Why is that? I hardly ever update mine. I think I did mine for fun or when I'm bored. Personally I don't take fb seriously, so it's not a big deal to me what I show or don't show.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I dunno. This culture of oversharing we are in just bugs me I guess.

I've deactivated my profile for months at a time, and would consider doing it again, but I do like seeing the pictures of my friends' kids and pets. That's about the only reason I stay on!
Originally Posted by LAwoman
My family tells me I'm boring because most of my posts are about my horses. I'm sure other people think I am presenting some fake front because of how I filter what I post. But honestly, I have no desire to post for that many people to see about guys who are jerks (or great, but not into me), about family issues, etc. I have posted an occasional frustrated post, but usually I limit myself on that account.



As far as whether or not he's gay.... totally what I was thinking this morning! He started talking about this relationship about three years ago, and I think she's mentioned in interviews with him. But made first contact with her on Twitter as if he had never met her before in arly '12 if I'm remembering the timeline correctly. Clearly he lied about her - whether he was fooled into thinking someone who wasn't real was or not. Trying to cover for his own sexuality seems the most likely reason (albeit a ridiculous one) that he would have made her up so long ago.
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The longer I'm on FB, the more I respect people who have profiles,
Originally Posted by LAwoman
Why is that? I hardly ever update mine. I think I did mine for fun or when I'm bored. Personally I don't take fb seriously, so it's not a big deal to me what I show or don't show.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I dunno. This culture of oversharing we are in just bugs me I guess.

I've deactivated my profile for months at a time, and would consider doing it again, but I do like seeing the pictures of my friends' kids and pets. That's about the only reason I stay on!
Originally Posted by LAwoman
Okay, I'm assuming you meant you respect people who don't have profiles. That's why I was confused. The oversharing is kind of annoying but easy to ignore..
She put she was "in a relationship" with him by name on Facebook. I clicked on his profile.

His profile picture he has up now is this handsome, All-American boy photo.

The rest of the photos? He seriously looks like a drug addict (and is smoking something in them) and looks NOTHING like the guy in the photo.
My husband has this theory (maybe he heard it somewhere) that Manti T'eo is gay. Between being Mormon and attending Notre Dame, he needed to invent a girlfriend, kill her off and then swear to "never love another woman again" in order to gain some privacy and avoid the inevitable questions about his social life. Because lets face it, superstar college football player could have any woman he wanted - why would he be pining for an online love.
Originally Posted by mad scientist
I have heard that too. It would make sense
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