"In a Relationship" with somebody you have never met in person...

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Just wanted to make clear, I totally am all for internet dating! The past THREE weddings I have gone to (including my best friend's wedding, which I was in!) were all internet dating success stories. I WISH I was more gutsy when it comes to it.

I talked to this girl that I started the thread about the other day. I had the facts wrong...he lives locally, but is in training in Europe for now, and is coming back here (to live) in two weeks. He lives a half hour from her.

She is really excited about him. Seriously? Maybe it will work-out. Maybe he's the one for her.
@amneris. I think she mentioned Angelina jolie to make the point that even if you are looking at someone as "beautiful" as Angelina jolie you still would know how many kids you have. Meaning starry eyed is a bunch of crap.
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dude that played the joke is sick. what did he think would happen? he'd reveal himself and teo would be like...ok let's ride off into the sunset and enjoy life together. it's gross that he rationalizes that he "gave so much" and "got nothing in return" for his involvement with teo...uh dude you got a fantasy land boyfriend and some kind of sick romance with the object of your affections.
Originally Posted by luvmylocs
I just read that article and this stood out

"You've heard of recovering drug addicts? It takes a lot of courage to stand and say that," he said "To recover from homosexuality and this type of thing. Not only that, coming back to your real life, as hard as a task as that is I'm going to do all that I can to live right."

"To recover from homosexuality"?

I have no idea who that guy is but I agree there is more to the story than reported.
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I thought this would be a good place to vent a cautionary tale.

I mentioned the relationship my best friend was in, how they had only spent 48 hours face to face, and how I was leery about it. Turns out, there is probably good reason.

My friend had been keeping details from me because he knows I am uncomfortable with this type of situation and very

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He had not told me that his new found love had cancelled the past 2 times they were supposed to see each other, and constantly said he had problems with Skype and could not video chat. Well, he cancelled for a 3rd time yesterday, and went on and on about how he hated to, and how he needed to see my friend. In response, my friend offered to help him troubleshoot Skype, and the guy flipped out. He told him they needed time apart. Add to this the fact that my friend had done a cheap reverse number lookup a few months ago and found the phone nbr belonged to a different person, in a different state. He just shrugged this off. After I screamed catfish yesterday, he did it again, on a different site, and got the same results. I am about 99% sure this is a married man.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

Either that or he's completely insane.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

I honestly don't believe in that. You can meet someone online as friends but the relationship aspect of it develops from you spending time with this person and interacting with them face to face. I too have a friend that met their SO online but their relationship became more than platonic after they hung out a few times. It is possible to have a long distance relationship or one where you don't see each other that often if both ppl involve really commit and make it work. But for ppl to never meet, not even Skype, and say its serious makes me wonder of their emotional stability. It's not human nature, are bodies long for intimacy (physical interaction such as a hug a kiss a touch). For someone to feel so strong about someone they haven't met feels more like they are in love with this fantasy world they have created. I remember when chat rooms were "IN" and the first thing, after asking for pictures, was "lets meet up". I believe this could be the reason why some ppl avoid meeting in person they don't want to ruin their fantasy (aside from the ppl having affairs and living lies for the fun-it's obvious why they don't want to meet). I think it's natural to be skeptic about something like this and should worry about the ppl who aren't. What is making them blind to obvious "RED FLAGS"? Why is it so easy for them to fall in love and make it serious without seeing a person? We all have self esteem issues here and there or want someone to be in love with but this is to an extreme in my opinion. I think whether online or in person the steps to dating shouldn't change. You gotta get to know a person and not just over the phone because its easy for anyone to lie but as a PERSON (actions speak louder than words). Study their body language, how they interact in different situations. Are they caring? These things you can't learn from pictures, FB profiles, phone calls and texts not even from Skype. The only way you can find out what kind of a person someone is, is by spending time with them and going out. And still you have to be careful ppl have lived a double life for years. I definitely think she is jumping the gun and should try to figure herself out instead of jumping so quick into all these relationships.
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If someone defines "in a relationship" as pen-pals, then yes, they can be in a relationship without ever meeting. But if someone defines "in a relationship" as a physically intimate, exclusive/private or committed companionship, (as I do in my marriage or as others do with their SO's/boyfriends/BM's/live-ins), then no, they can't be in a relationship without ever meeting...this sort of relationship requires presence in the other's daily functions/responsibilities/desires...

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I thought this would be a good place to vent a cautionary tale.

I mentioned the relationship my best friend was in, how they had only spent 48 hours face to face, and how I was leery about it. Turns out, there is probably good reason.

My friend had been keeping details from me because he knows I am uncomfortable with this type of situation and very

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He had not told me that his new found love had cancelled the past 2 times they were supposed to see each other, and constantly said he had problems with Skype and could not video chat. Well, he cancelled for a 3rd time yesterday, and went on and on about how he hated to, and how he needed to see my friend. In response, my friend offered to help him troubleshoot Skype, and the guy flipped out. He told him they needed time apart. Add to this the fact that my friend had done a cheap reverse number lookup a few months ago and found the phone nbr belonged to a different person, in a different state. He just shrugged this off. After I screamed catfish yesterday, he did it again, on a different site, and got the same results. I am about 99% sure this is a married man.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
He had a new found love who he only spent a couple of days with?

The problem is not meeting someone online. Everyone makes such a big deal out of it but it's not much different than meeting someone anywhere else. The main difference is not knowing if they are real and what they look like and the initial chemistry you have. You can figure that out real quick from the first meeting. The problem is creating a relationship or opinion based on non face to face communication.
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I thought this would be a good place to vent a cautionary tale.

I mentioned the relationship my best friend was in, how they had only spent 48 hours face to face, and how I was leery about it. Turns out, there is probably good reason.

My friend had been keeping details from me because he knows I am uncomfortable with this type of situation and very

Beware of Attachment 30760

He had not told me that his new found love had cancelled the past 2 times they were supposed to see each other, and constantly said he had problems with Skype and could not video chat. Well, he cancelled for a 3rd time yesterday, and went on and on about how he hated to, and how he needed to see my friend. In response, my friend offered to help him troubleshoot Skype, and the guy flipped out. He told him they needed time apart. Add to this the fact that my friend had done a cheap reverse number lookup a few months ago and found the phone nbr belonged to a different person, in a different state. He just shrugged this off. After I screamed catfish yesterday, he did it again, on a different site, and got the same results. I am about 99% sure this is a married man.
Originally Posted by Fifi.G
He had a new found love who he only spent a couple of days with?

The problem is not meeting someone online. Everyone makes such a big deal out of it but it's not much different than meeting someone anywhere else. The main difference is not knowing if they are real and what they look like and the initial chemistry you have. You can figure that out real quick from the first meeting. The problem is creating a relationship or opinion based on non face to face communication.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I completely agree, and said that in my previous posts, in this thread, when discussing why I was leery about the "relationship". Though I personally do not date on line. I live in a small town. No need, and I personally have no urge to and would not be comfortable with it. Thats my choice. This post was more of an update.

And this guy is married and has children. My friend found out who he really is today. What an ass.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??


Last edited by Fifi.G; 02-04-2013 at 08:23 PM.
But as (halfway jokingly) I tell my friend... What does one expect when sites geared toward your preferences are called "Grinder", etc. Lol

Where I don't need to date on line because I know everybody, and can just ask someone about what I don't know, he has to date on line. It's incredibly hard for him to meet someone in person. It's a different ball game entirely.
When I hear terms like "hipster" I think, who told cliques they could leave high school??

So, they've been physically in the same area (within 45 minutes of each other) for a couple of weeks, it seems he's at her apartment all the time, and she is ECSTATIC and keeps saying, "Everybody kept telling me he was going to be a serial killer, I'm so excited he's not!"
So, they've been physically in the same area (within 45 minutes of each other) for a couple of weeks, it seems he's at her apartment all the time, and she is ECSTATIC and keeps saying, "Everybody kept telling me he was going to be a serial killer, I'm so excited he's not!"
Originally Posted by CanItBeChristine
Oh, I hope she's going to be careful. Serial killers NEVER LOOK like they are dangerous. Until it's too late.

In other words: she hardly knows everything, having met him a few times now.
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