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Who Me? 01-31-2013 12:25 PM

Silly vent: You're not from the city!!
 
This is so silly and pointless, but it really bothers me. Drives me nuts. I know there are waaaaaaay more important things to worry about. But anyway, it's when people say they're from a city, when they're actually from a random suburb outside of the city and don't actually know the city well at all or really even visit the city more than a few times per year.

I live in Boston. IN Boston. I grew up in the suburbs about 20 miles away. I would never say I grew up "in Boston". I didn't. But I do live in Boston. I've lived here for years now. I have so many facebook friends from the suburbs, who I literally almost never see because they never come into the city, and when they do they only go to the most obnoxious touristy downtown places. But then they post all kinds of things about how cool it is to be a "Boston Girl" or are talking about how tough "us Bostonians" are, etc. It just drives me nuts! You live out in the boonies, you don't live in Boston! You're not from Boston! You barely even ever visit Boston! You have no idea how to get around the city (by foot, car, or subway). You don't know the layout of the neighborhoods, and the different defining characteristics, other than random sayings here and there. You don't know the bars and restaurants. You're from Massachusetts. Not Boston. Why is that so hard to face up to?!

For the record, I believe people do this regarding all major cities, and it's just as annoying. It's not a Boston thing....that's just my example because I live here.

curlypearl 01-31-2013 12:34 PM

:laughing3: This made me laugh. Not at you WhoMe. Just what you were saying.

I think we need a silly vent thread - for things that aren't serious enough for the say it thread. Shall I start one?

NetG 01-31-2013 01:19 PM

I find that funny because one of the largest cities in the country is Phoenix, and people never want to claim they're from Phoenix even if they're from the metro area. Instead it's "I'm from Tempe/Scottsdale/Chandler/Buckeye" and they're all considered from Phoenix in the general view of things.



It's funny to me, too, because one of my biggest meaningless annoyances is something you did in your post. "I have so many facebook friends from the suburbs, who I literally almost never see because they never come into the city, and when they do they only go to the most obnoxious touristy downtown places." Because CERTAINLY it couldn't be because you never go see them...

annabananalise 01-31-2013 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by curlypearl (Post 2111932)
:laughing3: This made me laugh. Not at you WhoMe. Just what you were saying.

I think we need a silly vent thread - for things that aren't serious enough for the say it thread. Shall I start one?

Pleeassseee do!

annabananalise 01-31-2013 01:26 PM

Also in houston people say they're from the houston area but usually clarify because houston is sooo spread out that barely anyone is really from there unless they grew up in an office building lol.

But at the same time, for the sake of ease, I usually just say I'm from Houston when people ask what part of Texas I'm from.

RedCatWaves 01-31-2013 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Who Me? (Post 2111925)
This is so silly and pointless, but it really bothers me. Drives me nuts. I know there are waaaaaaay more important things to worry about. But anyway, it's when people say they're from a city, when they're actually from a random suburb outside of the city and don't actually know the city well at all or really even visit the city more than a few times per year.

I live in Boston. IN Boston. I grew up in the suburbs about 20 miles away. I would never say I grew up "in Boston". I didn't. But I do live in Boston. I've lived here for years now. I have so many facebook friends from the suburbs, who I literally almost never see because they never come into the city, and when they do they only go to the most obnoxious touristy downtown places. But then they post all kinds of things about how cool it is to be a "Boston Girl" or are talking about how tough "us Bostonians" are, etc. It just drives me nuts! You live out in the boonies, you don't live in Boston! You're not from Boston! You barely even ever visit Boston! You have no idea how to get around the city (by foot, car, or subway). You don't know the layout of the neighborhoods, and the different defining characteristics, other than random sayings here and there. You don't know the bars and restaurants. You're from Massachusetts. Not Boston. Why is that so hard to face up to?!

For the record, I believe people do this regarding all major cities, and it's just as annoying. It's not a Boston thing....that's just my example because I live here.


You've said this, in various versions, a few times over the years. I can only think...and I really don't mean to offend here...but you kinda sound like a city snob. We Kuntry Rubes couldn't possibly know The City like a real Jen-you-wine City Dweller.

FTR, I live in suburb 40 miles west of Philadelphia, and would never say I'm "From Philly", or that I even know much about Philly, because I hardly ever go there...but I have been forced to put Philly as my location on a number of forms or sites or whatever, because dividing areas by city seems to be a popular way to sort things sometimes.

murrrcat 01-31-2013 02:12 PM

HAH. It's funny because I DO THAT. lemme 'splain

I'm from such a podunk town that when people ask where I'm from I don't even say it, I List the town that's more popular, beside my town and that's still SO PODUNK nobody even knows where that is, so I just be like "i kinda live close to atlanta" AND THAT'S IN A DIFFERENT STATE Than where I'm from.:evil4:

Sometimes when I give every surrounding town and then point to a map, people still don't know and then they're just like "do you even have stoplights there"

YES FOOL.




Podunksity.

Josephine 01-31-2013 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by NetG (Post 2111958)
It's funny to me, too, because one of my biggest meaningless annoyances is something you did in your post. "I have so many facebook friends from the suburbs, who I literally almost never see because they never come into the city, and when they do they only go to the most obnoxious touristy downtown places." Because CERTAINLY it couldn't be because you never go see them...

LOL exactly. I was thinking this too.

I'm from Atlanta. I am more specifically from Stone Mountain(been living there since I was 5) and went to college in the city and now live in the city(also went to sunday school in the city for most of my childhood). But overall I consider myself from Atlanta. Most people don't actually live in the city and the city is not very big. I don't have a problem with people living in the surrounding burbs saying they are from atlanta. Atlanta is definitely more than just downtown and the area inside the perimeter, like it or not. For people from Atlanta, I say I'm from stone mountain since they'll know what I'm talking about and I think that's on my fb too.

Atlanta(including burbs in the meto counties) is definitely different from the rest of Georgia. Also when I was living in Stone Mountain, I just lived there, went hs there and did groceries there. All social activities were in the city. Over here everyone drives 20 mile easily one way to do anything unless you live in the city(which I do now it feels like heaven to me). And that includes visiting friends in other burbs on top of meeting up in the city.

I do find it odd that bothers you. Maybe Boston is different, idk.

SCG 01-31-2013 02:22 PM

I live about 15-20 minutes outside of the city, but I still say I'm from Pittsburgh... Nobody is going to know what I'm talking about if I say I'm from my town.

And on top of that, even people FROM Pittsburgh have sometimes never heard of my town. So I still just have to say "Okay, uh... Have you ever heard of *nearby rich town that I could never afford to live in*? Yeah, it's across the river from there."

So basically, I'm a poseur no matter what. :p

Fifi.G 01-31-2013 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by murrrcat (Post 2112001)
Sometimes when I give every surrounding town and then point to a map, people still don't know and then they're just like "do you even have stoplights there"

YES FOOL.




Podunksity.


One of the towns in my county just got it's first red light 5 years ago, and it's a large area. Lol

I live fairly close to a small, but popular and fairly well/widely known city, but I never say I am from there. I sometimes have to explain that I am so many miles outside of it, so people will know/be able to visualize the area I am talking about. That's fine with me. I am not city (large or small) folk, and perfectly alright with that. If anything, I am proud of being a mountain woman ;)

Who Me? 01-31-2013 06:23 PM

To clarify, the really bothersome part is when people BRAG about being from the city that they don't live in, don't go to, and don't really know much about. Not just if they say they're from there if someone asks where they're from (although even then I'd rather they say "The Boston area" and not just Boston). It's so pointless of a pet peeve, I know!!!


In my defense, I see my family and friends out in the suburbs about 10 times more often than I see them in the city. Its expected of me to go there; they're not expected to actually step outside they're comfort zone to see me in the city, apparently.

But I will admit that in many ways I'm a "city snob". I love the city. I think it's better than the 'burbs. I fully admit it. If I liked the 'burbs, I'd live there! And if the people living in the 'burbs like it there, they should stop bragging about living in the city. That's kinda the whole pet peeve right there...

KurlyKae 01-31-2013 06:27 PM

Interesting. I grew up in NJ, in what might be considered a suburb of NYC, we never would have said we were from NY, though when I moved to PA, then later OH, there were people who announced they recognized my NY accent. Ah, close, and I was actually born there, but no, the accent and the address is Jersey.

I now live in SoCal. For convenience sake, especially on the web, I will say I live in the "LA area." I'm definitely not in LA, in fact the city I live in has a population of more than 100,000, so not even a small town, but it's just easier to say LA area, because every one has heard of Los Angeles.

RedCatWaves 01-31-2013 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Who Me? (Post 2112187)
To clarify, the really bothersome part is when people BRAG about being from the city that they don't live in, don't go to, and don't really know much about. Not just if they say they're from there if someone asks where they're from (although even then I'd rather they say "The Boston area" and not just Boston). It's so pointless of a pet peeve, I know!!!


In my defense, I see my family and friends out in the suburbs about 10 times more often than I see them in the city. Its expected of me to go there; they're not expected to actually step outside they're comfort zone to see me in the city, apparently.

But I will admit that in many ways I'm a "city snob". I love the city. I think it's better than the 'burbs. I fully admit it. If I liked the 'burbs, I'd live there! And if the people living in the 'burbs like it there, they should stop bragging about living in the city. That's kinda the whole pet peeve right there...



It's harder to visit someone in the city than vise versa...because there's no effing place to park!!!

I would like to live in the city...but I do not want to raise children in the city. The public schools are not up to my requirements, and I cannot afford private school. When my kids are grown, I am seriously thinking of moving to the city, at least for a while.

I don't know any suburbanites who brag, or even say, they live in the city.

RedCatWaves 01-31-2013 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by KurlyKae (Post 2112192)
Interesting. I grew up in NJ, in what might be considered a suburb of NYC, we never would have said we were from NY, though when I moved to PA, then later OH, there were people who announced they recognized my NY accent. Ah, close, and I was actually born there, but no, the accent and the address is Jersey.


I'm from NJ. I'm always accused of having a NY accent. It's annoying. Because there is a difference between NY and NJ accents, but people don't take the time to know the difference. It's like saying someone has a "southern accent"...which one?

LadyV69 01-31-2013 06:42 PM

People do this in New York too, whereby those from Long Island and upstate in Westchester (both areas which are suburbs of NYC) claim they're from NYC. Not all people from the suburbs do this, but a fair number of them do. Never mind that they may only work in NYC or set foot here several times a year. It doesn't rate as a major pet peeve of mine, though. If they're so embarrassed or ashamed to admit that they live in the boonies and would rather claim they live in NYC, the issue's with them, not me.

curlyarca 01-31-2013 06:42 PM

People do it because it's easier than saying whatever small town they're from. It's not personal!

I lived in Baltimore (barely) for a year and moved outside (barely) a few months ago. I only tell locals the name of my town because the next question would be "where's that," and you end up saying "near Baltimore" anyway.

curlyarca 01-31-2013 06:46 PM

Trust me, no one outside Baltimore is ashamed of where they live. And I'm saying that as someone who likes Baltimore.

Kind of surprised at some of the comments. Regional wars!

naturaldoll 01-31-2013 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by curlyarca (Post 2112211)
People do it because it's easier than saying whatever small town they're from. It's not personal!

I lived in Baltimore (barely) for a year and moved outside (barely) a few months ago. I only tell locals the name of my town because the next question would be "where's that," and you end up saying "near Baltimore" anyway.

hell I lived in brooklyn from 9-18 and moved to catonsville last year and still rep baltimore. its just easier for me to say baltimore, anything else feels wierd.

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Starmie 02-01-2013 02:30 AM

I guess it's different here as there are so few cities/towns compared with other countries but If I'm around home, in South Australia somewhere, I'll say which suburb I live in, if I'm interstate/overseas I'll say I'm from Adelaide. I think that's what most people here would do, I can't imagine that when I say Adelaide people actually think I live in the one square mile that is officially the city of Adelaide.

curlylaura 02-01-2013 03:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Starmie (Post 2112392)
I guess it's different here as there are so few cities/towns compared with other countries but If I'm around home, in South Australia somewhere, I'll say which suburb I live in, if I'm interstate/overseas I'll say I'm from Adelaide. I think that's what most people here would do, I can't imagine that when I say Adelaide people actually think I live in the one square mile that is officially the city of Adelaide.

That's what I do here in the UK.


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