I have a coworker who flirts with me; nothing inappropriate. He says he wants to marry me and we'll have a beautiful daughter one day. I just laugh it off.
However, I'm posting on here because he's already married. His wife is dying of leukemia. So it makes me uncomfortable when his says these things.
I don't know what to do. My friends say give him some sack; he's probably so distraught and delusional. He doesn't do it often
Does anyone find this odd? What should I say to him if he says this to me again?
BTW I'm not attracted to him at all; he's my dads age. Lol.
How's that not inappropriate? I think it's a little sick to flirt with someone else while your wife is dying, although people do grieve differently. Just tell him you feel uncomfortable with his flirting, especially given the situation. He needs an emotional outlet, understandably, but this isn't the way.
He Is being inappropriate...you need to walk away when he starts making comments, he'll get the hint.
That is soooo out of line. He has no respect for his wife.
If my boyfriend made "kid" comments to another woman, i would be heartbroken. And especially if I was dying!
Then i would be downright disgusted.
He Is very much Inappropriate!..
I'd say "I KNOW you're just joking, but it makes me uncomfortable when you say things like that". Give him the benefit of the doubt.
And if you don't tell him directly, and you keep laughing and joking with him, you really shouldn't be complaining about his behavior. You're an equal participant right now.
It's one thing if you're feeling intimidated or threatened - but your post makes it appear you are playing along with it, so as long as you are he can't possibly know how you truly feel.
I agree that people react differently to impending deaths, and wouldn't condemn him for this (but would tell him not to do that with me!) - I know I joke completely inappropriately and tend to just force myself to keep my mouth shut when in difficult situations. If he doesn't quit it when you tell him to, there's a problem.
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Thanks everyone for your replies. I feel better because I wasn't seeing what my friends were saying.
Also I'm NOT laughing and talking with him about marriage and kids. I wasn't clear on that part. I laugh and then turn and walk away. I never engage him in that conversation. I laugh cause at the time I didn't know what to say. And after talking to my friends I really didn't know what to say.
I will definitely tell him that it makes me uncomfortable.
I just needed to see if anyone else thought his actions were inappropriate. My friends has me confused.