Should I respond to him?

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He's still manipulative. Sexually active or not. And, for all anyone knows, he might be.
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More good points ladies. I see where you are coming from. However, keep in mind that we never slept together. He wants to wait until he's married. Who knew men like that existed huh?! Lol Shocking but true
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
Well, that's what he told you at one point...doesn't make it true, and doesn't mean it can't change. He is still manipulative and mean...why settle for that when there are men who aren't manipulative and mean.
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More good points ladies. I see where you are coming from. However, keep in mind that we never slept together. He wants to wait until he's married. Who knew men like that existed huh?! Lol Shocking but true
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
Well, that's what he told you at one point...doesn't make it true, and doesn't mean it can't change. He is still manipulative and mean...why settle for that when there are men who aren't manipulative and mean.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
You bring up a good point. I do it because I have yet to meet anything else. To be honest I am a lonely person, I'm not gonna lie. I've dealt with worse guys. Believe it or not he treated me the best so far. Not with the talking behind my back or anything like that of course, but with romance and sweet gestures that he did for me when we did date. Ugh I hope you guys don't get mad for my bringing up these points either. I'm just honestly saying what's going thru my mind right now. I had a friend do that to me in the past. I told her about an issue I had with a guy and she told me never to bring it up again if I didn't do what she said. Needless to say she ended up being even worse than me when it came to guys and I stopped hearing from her when she got her bf
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Not to be rude but may I ask how old you are?

ETA: Nevermind. Your user name explains your date of birth, right?
Not to be rude but may I ask how old you are?

ETA: Nevermind. Your user name explains your date of birth, right?
Originally Posted by Speckla
right. what is eta?
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It's sometimes used here when Simone edits a post to add a few things instead of making a new post.
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Edited to add.

It's sometimes used here when Simone edits a post to add a few things instead of making a new post.
Originally Posted by redcelticcurls
ahhhh ok. thanks
More good points ladies. I see where you are coming from. However, keep in mind that we never slept together. He wants to wait until he's married. Who knew men like that existed huh?! Lol Shocking but true
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
Well, that's what he told you at one point...doesn't make it true, and doesn't mean it can't change. He is still manipulative and mean...why settle for that when there are men who aren't manipulative and mean.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
You bring up a good point. I do it because I have yet to meet anything else. To be honest I am a lonely person, I'm not gonna lie. I've dealt with worse guys. Believe it or not he treated me the best so far. Not with the talking behind my back or anything like that of course, but with romance and sweet gestures that he did for me when we did date. Ugh I hope you guys don't get mad for my bringing up these points either. I'm just honestly saying what's going thru my mind right now. I had a friend do that to me in the past. I told her about an issue I had with a guy and she told me never to bring it up again if I didn't do what she said. Needless to say she ended up being even worse than me when it came to guys and I stopped hearing from her when she got her bf
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190

LOL...you've dealt with worse guys? Now there's a testimony for the quality of this current guy.

Frankly, I'm used to women asking for man-advice and then completely ignoring it and going back to the man who mistreated her. It's more common than not. You're free to do what you want. We'll be here to listen when he mistreats you again...because he will.
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For me, the reason for you to leave him alone is bc you said when you were dating, he was unwilling to commit to you. And he was still unwilling to commit to you after you broke up, and he was trying to have his cake and eat it too. Why do you think anything has changed?

You're way more invested in this than he is and he knows it. Not a good position to be in. Let him do his thing (it'll come back on him) and hold out for someone who really wants you.

Don't respond to the email bc it will be obvious from your response that you're still hung up on him. And if he wants to be a prick, he will use that to his advantage.

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Last edited by spiderlashes5000; 02-26-2013 at 09:11 PM.

Well, that's what he told you at one point...doesn't make it true, and doesn't mean it can't change. He is still manipulative and mean...why settle for that when there are men who aren't manipulative and mean.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
You bring up a good point. I do it because I have yet to meet anything else. To be honest I am a lonely person, I'm not gonna lie. I've dealt with worse guys. Believe it or not he treated me the best so far. Not with the talking behind my back or anything like that of course, but with romance and sweet gestures that he did for me when we did date. Ugh I hope you guys don't get mad for my bringing up these points either. I'm just honestly saying what's going thru my mind right now. I had a friend do that to me in the past. I told her about an issue I had with a guy and she told me never to bring it up again if I didn't do what she said. Needless to say she ended up being even worse than me when it came to guys and I stopped hearing from her when she got her bf
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190

LOL...you've dealt with worse guys? Now there's a testimony for the quality of this current guy.

Frankly, I'm used to women asking for man-advice and then completely ignoring it and going back to the man who mistreated her. It's more common than not. You're free to do what you want. We'll be here to listen when he mistreats you again...because he will.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
wow.
We're the same age, and agree with the previous posters. Block him and move on. There are other dudes out there that will treat you better. You sound like you don't want to be alone, not necessarily that you are interested in him, which is also the way you make him come off.

If you respond, it will come off as desperate for attention, and believe me, it's not a good look.

Go on about your life and fuhgedabout him.
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For me, the reason for you to leave him alone bc you said when you were dating, he was unwilling to commit to you. And he was still unwilling after you broke up and he was trying to have his cake and eat it too. Why do you think anything has changed?

You're way more invested in this than he is and he knows it. Not a good position to be in. Let him do his thing (it'll come back on him) and hold out for someone who really wants you.

Don't respond bc it will be obvious from your response that you're still hung up on him. And if he wants to be a prick, he will use that to his advantage.

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Ur right spiderlashes. He didn't want to commit to me when I was so good to him, and he still didnt afterwards. Hmm, definitely leaning towards ignoring him right now
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Okay you get my point. Seriously though, don't hold on to that sh*t. Move on.

I know he's comfortable because you know him, and you loved him BUT HE'S CRAP ON A TURD'S SHOE. Move on. You know you don't want him you just don't want to be lonely and since you loved him you can talk to him and have feelings and not feel alone, but will you really be un-alone then? No, he playing jedi mind tricks on you. Move on. You don't need him, you were lonely before when you were single before him, and you were fine then. Remember that, if you weren't fine before him, when you were single or when you were single the first time you were single in your life aka since birth and so fourth, remember that, remember you were single once, and you can do it again. If you can't stand to be alone, you don't need it from a man, you need to look at yourself and figure out why you feel so alone and why it bothers you. A man won't make you happy. (I sound like a self help book BUT FO' REALZ THO)

Sometimes I feel so alone, but then I just keep moving.
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We're the same age, and agree with the previous posters. Block him and move on. There are other dudes out there that will treat you better. You sound like you don't want to be alone, not necessarily that you are interested in him, which is also the way you make him come off.

If you respond, it will come off as desperate for attention, and believe me, it's not a good look.

Go on about your life and fuhgedabout him.
Originally Posted by lani13

You make a very good point when u said "You sound like you don't want to be alone, not necessarily that you are interested in him".... I hadn't really thought about that, but now u got me wondering...
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Okay you get my point. Seriously though, don't hold on to that sh*t. Move on.

I know he's comfortable because you know him, and you loved him BUT HE'S CRAP ON A TURD'S SHOE. Move on. You know you don't want him you just don't want to be lonely and since you loved him you can talk to him and have feelings and not feel alone, but will you really be un-alone then? No, he playing jedi mind tricks on you. Move on. You don't need him, you were lonely before when you were single before him, and you were fine then. Remember that, if you weren't fine before him, when you were single or when you were single the first time you were single in your life aka since birth and so fourth, remember that, remember you were single once, and you can do it again. If you can't stand to be alone, you don't need it from a man, you need to look at yourself and figure out why you feel so alone and why it bothers you. A man won't make you happy. (I sound like a self help book BUT FO' REALZ THO)

Sometimes I feel so alone, but then I just keep moving.
Originally Posted by murrrcat

Thanks murrrcat. I would like to be happy alone. Ur right. I have been feeling this way for years. I wish I knew how to be ok being single. I guess a lack of friends doesn't help much either. I'm working on it though. I fear being alone my whole life, so I cling to whatever I can get most times
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"Taking back an ex is like going to a yard sale and buying back your old crap."

Lolol

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Just read Michael Baisden's update on Facebook:
"Taking back an ex is like going to a yard sale and buying back your old crap."

Lolol

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Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
lmao

You bring up a good point. I do it because I have yet to meet anything else. To be honest I am a lonely person, I'm not gonna lie. I've dealt with worse guys. Believe it or not he treated me the best so far. Not with the talking behind my back or anything like that of course, but with romance and sweet gestures that he did for me when we did date. Ugh I hope you guys don't get mad for my bringing up these points either. I'm just honestly saying what's going thru my mind right now. I had a friend do that to me in the past. I told her about an issue I had with a guy and she told me never to bring it up again if I didn't do what she said. Needless to say she ended up being even worse than me when it came to guys and I stopped hearing from her when she got her bf
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190

LOL...you've dealt with worse guys? Now there's a testimony for the quality of this current guy.

Frankly, I'm used to women asking for man-advice and then completely ignoring it and going back to the man who mistreated her. It's more common than not. You're free to do what you want. We'll be here to listen when he mistreats you again...because he will.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
wow.
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
Well, it does happen a lot, unfortunately.
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I fear being alone my whole life, so I cling to whatever I can get most times
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
I think people can probably tell that about you on some level, which is why you end up with guys who treat you like crap (cause they know you will put up with it).

I've been alone a whole lot, I've been in good relationships and terrible ones. Being in a bad one is by far the loneliest feeling, much worse than being single. But you know that, that is why you broke up with this guy in the first place, right?

If I were you I would work on making friends and getting involved in something that I loved and not worrying about relationships for a little while.
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I fear being alone my whole life, so I cling to whatever I can get most times
Originally Posted by sKorpio1190
I think people can probably tell that about you on some level, which is why you end up with guys who treat you like crap (cause they know you will put up with it).

I've been alone a whole lot, I've been in good relationships and terrible ones. Being in a bad one is by far the loneliest feeling, much worse than being single. But you know that, that is why you broke up with this guy in the first place, right?

If I were you I would work on making friends and getting involved in something that I loved and not worrying about relationships for a little while.
Originally Posted by geeky
Thanks. And the reason I ended things was cuz he wasn't ready to commit, despite all we went through. He told me he was going to see other girls during one of our school breaks, and I hit the brakes hard. We had been dating (never outright said it was exclusive, but I blame myself for not having that made clear, which I learned from) for 7 months at that point, so I told him I wasn't going to stick around to see that. Actually, the more I think about him and this situation and the past, the less I'm tempted to reply to his email.
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