I do! And she laughs and says, "mom, you're so gross!" And then she tells her little brother and they both laugh about it.SL, please talk to you daughter about good and bad touches. That family members, friends, acquaintances are capable of doing these of these actions. Let her know that no matter what, come to you. My mom never talked to me about these things. The sad part is, when I finally told her what happened to me. She disclosed it happened to her too. O_ OAs a mother of a little girl, I'm just curious about what your mother might have been able to do or say to make you feel more comfortable coming fwd w/ this after it happened? How were you able to hide the physical and emotional wounds from the attack?I wish didn't remember. I wish didn't remember her and him holding me down, covering my mouth, while he assaulted me. I wish I didn't know the shame and guilt you can feel at age 12. I wish didn't remember the fear of telling what happened, knowing someone could, probably would get killed. I don't know where my perpetrators are. I remember what they did and their names, not their faces.
I am fine most of the time, now, but I wasn't for a long time emotionally nor physically. I didn't say anything to anyone until I was 18. Unfortunately that took a toll physically. I don't think my body has ever really recovered.
So saddened to hear all of these stories. It really hurts my heart.
I really want to make her take this seriously.
I've never been the victim of anything like this and i'm wondering if, w/ the younger kids, it happens gradually, starting w/ inappropriate looks and comments, and escalates into touching and pentration, over a period of time. Or if mostly, it's a sudde thing that comes out of nowhere and the child is physically violated.
Is the feeling afterward usually that mommy won't believe me or mommy will be mad or I don't deserve help or my rapist will hurt me if I tell or what? I want to know the right things to say to alleviate the shame/fear/guilt or whatever. And is it different for a boy vs a girl. I don't expect you to know all the answers, juana. I'm just thinking out loud. But I appreciate whatever insight you (plural) can share.
I can't really relate personally but i want to do the best I can to protect my kids.
This is so awful and a huge fear of mine.
So sorry this happened...