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Old 04-14-2013, 05:18 PM   #21
 
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Stress is always present, and will get to/come out in people one way or another, but meltdowns that force people to breakdown and leave are rare. To be frank: In my office, the ones who scream, cry and have to leave are ones who typically have a flare for that behavior. We all may hang up the phone and vent (because we can and helps release), but office outbursts are normally a rarity. Burnout is far more common, and much more quiet.


This very much applies to my workplace (though we don't work on the phone, venting is done in the office with the door shut so the patients can't hear).
I am sure it does. It is good to be able to do that, when needed. It took me 4 years to feel the need to vent, period. The number of calls, types of calls, and amount of stress have grown and became worse with each passing year. At this point it is better for me to make snarky comments to a computer screen, get it out, and move on, rather than flip out on someone. You can't stop and do yoga when slammed.
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Old 04-14-2013, 05:29 PM   #22
 
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I swear "WTH is wrong with people?" is our office mantra. I can be heard all day, every day. Lol
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I've worked in some very high stress jobs, but rarely did I see any melt downs. I think it was because we got encouragement from the managers. They wanted us to do good, because it benefited them.

I don't have a lot of stress in my current job and I'm the only employee. I do hate my job, tho'. It's because of my boss and his wife. They have melt downs at work. Their stress is self-made. They feel so entitled that any little thing that doesn't go their way exactly will put them in a tizzy. It's comical at times, but I do get tired of it and am feeling burn out. I've got my resume ready and need to start hitting the pavement.

It really makes me sad for all of us who don't like our jobs and are unhappy or stressed or burnt out. We spend so much of our time at these jobs. Thank God for weekends.
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The environment is very toxic where I work and ppl do melt down occasionally. But what is more common is gossipping and rumormongering and complaining and passive-aggressive sabotage. Sometimes I ~wish~ someone would just cry or scream and be done w/ it.
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There's been a few in the past before i came to work here. And we are taking bets who will be the first to pop. yeah, it's that deep around here. and its all because of one person. damn shame.
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I think I have more than they do. :/
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There's been a few in the past before i came to work here. And we are taking bets who will be the first to pop. yeah, it's that deep around here. and its all because of one person. damn shame.
It really irks me how one person can make so many miserable.
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There's been a few in the past before i came to work here. And we are taking bets who will be the first to pop. yeah, it's that deep around here. and its all because of one person. damn shame.
It really irks me how one person can make so many miserable.

we all wish we could leave, but the job market is so tough. one co-worker is going through cancer treatment so has to take time off. We are all waiting for her to go postal on this one person. She promised her a raise knowing she couldnt deliver and told her she needs to go to the gym after radiation therapy, because she's getting fat. really? wow lady!
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Haven't witnessed any meltdowns on my new job, but I hear that there used to be a lot of them under previous management. Still, it's an odd place with poor communication and lots of passive agressive crap, like what Spider described. And they have work-related events that not everyone is invited to and you hear about it after the fact.

I tell myself, I have a job in my field in a crappy economy, great benefits and the check lands in my checking account every other week without fail.
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I wasn't privy to it but a former supervisor shared that they had an anxiety attack so bad that they were wheeled out of the office on a stretcher.

It was quite tender that they shared it, too. This was a 'hard as nails' boss who was trying to empathize with a certain employee's 'troubles' which he THOUGHT were similar to his.

They weren't and it may have 'helped' intensify an issue that became tantamount down the line, but the intent was appreciated...
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As far as I know, seldom to never. However, I am often holed up in my office writing, and don't see alot of drama that might be going down.
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I'm the one having meltdowns in the office! But my boss has had a couple too.

In the case of our office, it has nothing to do with the workplace being toxic or people in the office being problematic. Our office is generally relaxed and we all get along really well and have lots of freedom and flexibility in out work. We have a lot of outside stressors that we don't control that are usually OK but once in a while, tensions flare (clients, Crown attorneys, judges....) and this can lead to meltdowns when you lose a case you really feel you deserved to win, or another party is being unreasonable, or something.

I love that I can come to my office, cry, curse, throw things and feel horrible and get lots of support and understanding and then get back to work and have a better day.

I should make it clear that none of us take it out on anyone else - we are venting and blowing off steam for ourselves. We are passionate about our work because we love it so much.
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Old 04-23-2013, 08:19 AM   #33
 
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^ That is exactly the case on my job. No one is taking things out n a co worker. It's simply a grumble grumble about any number of frustrating things.

I will say those who have reached their breaking point do start taking frustrations out on co workers. I have seen it, more than once, in people who have been there 20+ years. They start lashing out and trying to control their co workers every move, because they have (or feel they have) lost control otherwise. At that point we know a transfer to another department is probably drawing near. It's better for everyones health.

**It is not anything we hold against anyone (it could happen to any of us), and it is always fantastic to see them after they have settled into to a new job with less (life or death) pressure, and more regular hours. They go back to themselves.
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Old 04-23-2013, 08:46 PM   #34
 
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I have a pretty toxic boss myself. He's very emotional and you never know if he's going to blow up at you or be super calm when you mess up. If he always acted one way I could deal with it, but it's the not knowing that makes me stressed and freaked out.

Other then that, it's a more stressful place then anything. But I do WELL in stress. It's how I roll.

One coworker has had an anxiety attack when she was being trained to do my main job (and the reason I make $3/hr more then any other hourly wage employee). She found out the responsibilities and panicked.

She respects me more now, though - she GETS how hard my job is. Few people see what I do so few people know how hard my job is some days.
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Due to job stress? A lot? Almost never? Somewhere in between?

My boss left early crying a couple months ago. My friend also had to leave one day a few months ago "just to get away." A couple other department heads have cried on my boss's shoulder, I'm told. The relationship the owner has with everyone is downright abusive.

Is anyone else's workplace like this?

My workplace is like this. The owner has a really bad temper.
Some of the things he does would make your skin crawl. He recently told one of the managers to stop having lunch with people that are not other managers. He supends people of he sees them on their cell phone, or fire them. The other day he fired 4 people in one day. Mind you this is a smal company,so 4 people is A LOT.
I can barely keep myself composed at work sometimes. I cried this week.
I cry a lot there. I don't even care anymore if people see me.
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No not at all, but I think it depends where you work and also in which country. Not all corporate cultures are the same, luckily I work at a very relaxed place, very nice atmosphere
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No not really. Sometimes people bang on their desks or curse at the pc when code doesn't work. But that's even rare. I cant imagine working around toxic people/management, how horrible. I've been fortunate to always like coming in.
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I overhead my former manager warning a bunch of other managers not to join a certain gym bc their are too many...uh...Mecedonians there. i'm pretty sure she was going to say Black ppl, but then she turned around and saw me, said she would tell them later, and then said "Macedonians."

I was appalled.

And one of the other aholes asked, "Greek or Serbian?"

I just stepped right off the elevator before the doors closed and waited for a next one.

Stuff like this gives me very noncollegial types of feelings.
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Due to job stress? A lot? Almost never? Somewhere in between?

My boss left early crying a couple months ago. My friend also had to leave one day a few months ago "just to get away." A couple other department heads have cried on my boss's shoulder, I'm told. The relationship the owner has with everyone is downright abusive.

Is anyone else's workplace like this?

My workplace is like this. The owner has a really bad temper.
Some of the things he does would make your skin crawl. He recently told one of the managers to stop having lunch with people that are not other managers. He supends people of he sees them on their cell phone, or fire them. The other day he fired 4 people in one day. Mind you this is a smal company,so 4 people is A LOT.
I can barely keep myself composed at work sometimes. I cried this week.
I cry a lot there. I don't even care anymore if people see me.
What asswipes. I once had a manager who we never knew his mood when he came in, especially on Mondays. The company sold and he was the 1st to go. He was surprised with his termination and only had time to pick up his personal items and was walked to his car. Very humiliating for him. He now works in another office and not in a manager or supervisor position. He use to call me a lot like we were best buds or something. I didn't tell him what an asswipe he was as a manager, because I don't like to burn my bridges. I find there is a "boy's club" out there and I don't want to get on their bad side.
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