Feeling depressed again

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As hackneyed as this expression is, I feel your pain. It su-hucks to be depressed and down on yourself.

When all else fails me, I:

a) go to bed with a book and my dogs

b) go to sleep with my dogs

c) take a dog for a walk.

Some other stuff:

I met my best friend through work, so I didn't have to get out and meet people (which makes me nervous). Don't worry about not having many friends; it's the quality of those you do have which matters.

Having a guy isn't all it's cracked up to be. I hope you do have that experience so you can see what it's like since you're curious, but in the end, what's inside us matters more than whether someone of the opposite (or same) sex finds us desirable. Sometimes having a partner is great, and.......sometimes having a partner is damned exhausting.

Please don't feel bad about just coming home to your dog. My dogs kept me going when almost nothing else could. It was as if the only way I could feel any joy was to try to see the world through their eyes. Even now there are days when I get up because they need me to take care of them, not because I'm eager to start another morning.

Give yourself small things to look forward to. It doesn't matter how, but force kindness on yourself. If you want to try that candybar or that chocolate or that cheese, buy it. Try small goals, like "this week, Thursday night is pizza night."

Make sure you have decent socks and underwear. Somehow this helps.

If all else fails you, picture one of us in this thread holding your hand. Sometimes something small but tactile and caring really matters. It doesn't matter if you're broken; we're all broken. What matters is finding a way to like yourself.

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sKorpio - you are a valued person. People love you. People would miss you if you were dead. I am sorry you are feeling awful.

I won't say I know what you're going through. Everyone with depression is different, has a different story, has different things work for them. But I know that feeling - like you're not good enough, like you aren't pretty enough, like you aren't smart enough. Feeling like no one would care if you died. WISHING you were dead.

I was on medication for years, but in my head, I KNEW it was fake, that it was the meds making me feel ok. But it gave me the clarity to know that things CAN be better, I just have to work for it.

I started with positive affirmations. Even when I didn't feel like it, even when I didn't believe it (most of the time) I would stand in front of my mirror every day and tell myself I was smart, I was beautiful, I was loved. Every morning. Eventually.... I realized I was starting to believe myself. If I'm having a crappy day, I'll go into the washroom and repeat it and I feel better immediately.

I would go on long walks to clear my head. It's like meditation for me, I'd try to focus on what was going on around me, that I enjoyed - like the smell of wet pavement if it was raining, or the sun on my face if it was sunny.

I'm also fairly antisocial, but I would force myself to interact with my friends. I didn't make new friends, but I would make an effort not to isolate myself.

So... in short.... meditate, exercise, positive affirmations. Vent or talk to someone if you're having a bad day. Many of us have offered to help and I'm also willing to give you a sympathetic ear (well, eye).

And hug your dog. Your dog doesn't care how crappy you're feeling, they love you anyway. If you have to force yourself to get up because the dog needs you - then they've done their job.
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Thanks claudine and mojo. U gave some very nice advice and helped cheer me up today
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I'm glad.

Look: here's flowers in a truck!


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I'm glad.

Look: here's flowers in a truck!

Originally Posted by claudine19
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I'm glad I could help.
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So sorry you feel that way. I have ups and downs but I think for me it's more of a dip than a depression because I don't get that much carried away into it.

And it's not so much loneliness I'm feeling but also not being happy with the way I look (I mean, my body) and the most frustrating thing about that is that a lot of people think that I'm overreacting. Because I am underweight, skinny, instead of overweight, people think it's not right that I'm not satisfied with that and that I should get over myself, in addition, I get a lot of comments "omg you're so skinny" "do you even eat", they don't understand that saying that is actually rude, also they don't understand that being underweight can has as much problems as being overweight (not finding right clothing, health issues etc.) and besides that it is technically even harder to gain weight than to lose weight and it goes a lot slower.

Anyway, I just want you to know that there is always someone who cares and who you can talk to, because you are definetely not alone and please don't give up hope!
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Krullenbol, it is indeed very rude and people don't understand. When I was younger, I was underweight and the doctor's put me on pills which didn't work and practically accused my mother of not feeding me. Eventually my weight normalized, but I remember being very embarrassed when I was teased and harassed.

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So sorry you feel that way. I have ups and downs but I think for me it's more of a dip than a depression because I don't get that much carried away into it.

And it's not so much loneliness I'm feeling but also not being happy with the way I look (I mean, my body) and the most frustrating thing about that is that a lot of people think that I'm overreacting. Because I am underweight, skinny, instead of overweight, people think it's not right that I'm not satisfied with that and that I should get over myself, in addition, I get a lot of comments "omg you're so skinny" "do you even eat", they don't understand that saying that is actually rude, also they don't understand that being underweight can has as much problems as being overweight (not finding right clothing, health issues etc.) and besides that it is technically even harder to gain weight than to lose weight and it goes a lot slower.

Anyway, I just want you to know that there is always someone who cares and who you can talk to, because you are definetely not alone and please don't give up hope!
Originally Posted by Krullenbol
I am lonely but I also have been very uncomfortable with my looks lately. I gained weight and now I don't fit in most of my clothes so I feel very uncomfortable when I go out. I've been wearing sweat pants and jackets to hide my body. So, even though I'm not thin (I'm quite the opposite lol) I understand how you feel. I used to think I was fat and now that I actually am, I realize how silly I was for thinking that. Now I finally realize it when it's too late :-/
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@ curlypearl

Yeah, it is more or less in my family, my mom has the same body structure as me, and the same with my grandmom. Most of the time, the people that make those comments are bit overweight or either obese. I never really hear it from skinny/normal weight people...


@sKorpio1190

It is never too late You can still love yourself for who you are and you are not less beautiful if you look different than before or if you look different than anyone else. I understand it takes some time and patience for you to be happy with yourself, because even I am still on that process
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@ curlypearl

Yeah, it is more or less in my family, my mom has the same body structure as me, and the same with my grandmom. Most of the time, the people that make those comments are bit overweight or either obese. I never really hear it from skinny/normal weight people...


@sKorpio1190

It is never too late You can still love yourself for who you are and you are not less beautiful if you look different than before or if you look different than anyone else. I understand it takes some time and patience for you to be happy with yourself, because even I am still on that process
Originally Posted by Krullenbol
I'm trying my best. I bought some self help books on raising ur self esteem, so hopefully they help
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