What should I do about my friend?

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Why are you "friends" with her?
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Calling someone a slut or a whore is not just an insult to the person. Its an insult to all women. Just as calling a black person the n-word doesn't just insult that person, it insults all black people.

Only women are called sluts and whores. Men can be equally promiscuous, and no one has created a special derogatory word to pin on them. Its a word against women and its made to put women down. As a woman you should want to stand up for other women, and stand against those words.

Thats why you shouldn't be calling any women those names. It makes you stand with men who fight to degrade women and hold them down.

We as women should have come farther than that.


That is something that is learned, and I understand maybe someone hasn't told you this before. But its important information that you should take in and think about.
Originally Posted by iroc
She does a lot of things wrong and uncalled for. If she wants to insult other girls about their sex life and status with their boyfriend then why shouldn't I do the same to her?
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
Okay, then you're just as bad as her? I guess you like this type of relationship/drama. I'm not sure what type of advice you're looking for? I'm guessing you're looking for validation for calling her names, not gonna get it here lol.
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Calling someone a slut or a whore is not just an insult to the person. Its an insult to all women. Just as calling a black person the n-word doesn't just insult that person, it insults all black people.

Only women are called sluts and whores. Men can be equally promiscuous, and no one has created a special derogatory word to pin on them. Its a word against women and its made to put women down. As a woman you should want to stand up for other women, and stand against those words.

Thats why you shouldn't be calling any women those names. It makes you stand with men who fight to degrade women and hold them down.

We as women should have come farther than that.


That is something that is learned, and I understand maybe someone hasn't told you this before. But its important information that you should take in and think about.
Originally Posted by iroc
She does a lot of things wrong and uncalled for. If she wants to insult other girls about their sex life and status with their boyfriend then why shouldn't I do the same to her?
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
Okay, then you're just as bad as her? I guess you like this type of relationship/drama. I'm not sure what type of advice you're looking for? I'm guessing you're looking for validation for calling her names, not gonna get it here lol.
Originally Posted by Josephine
The whole name calling I don't really care about because it seems perfectly fine to me. You can disagree with me and all that, but I'm still going to do it.
Why are you "friends" with her?
Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian
We aren't exactly friends. She just calls me her friend and I feel awkward saying "no."
Calling someone a slut or a whore is not just an insult to the person. Its an insult to all women. Just as calling a black person the n-word doesn't just insult that person, it insults all black people.

Only women are called sluts and whores. Men can be equally promiscuous, and no one has created a special derogatory word to pin on them. Its a word against women and its made to put women down. As a woman you should want to stand up for other women, and stand against those words.

Thats why you shouldn't be calling any women those names. It makes you stand with men who fight to degrade women and hold them down.

We as women should have come farther than that.


That is something that is learned, and I understand maybe someone hasn't told you this before. But its important information that you should take in and think about.
Originally Posted by iroc
She does a lot of things wrong and uncalled for. If she wants to insult other girls about their sex life and status with their boyfriend then why shouldn't I do the same to her?
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
Okay, then you're just as bad as her? I guess you like this type of relationship/drama. I'm not sure what type of advice you're looking for? I'm guessing you're looking for validation for calling her names, not gonna get it here lol.
Originally Posted by Josephine
I don't consider this drama at all. As long as she isn't offended by me calling her names I'm not going to stop.
Doesn't matter too me anymore since her mother now knows about her daughter's relationship. I'll the advice of those who told me not to be friends with her.

Thank you to those that typed on this topic.
So you feel awkward telling her you guys aren't friends, but you're ok with calling her a whore?

Why are you posting? What are you looking for?
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I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.
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So you feel awkward telling her you guys aren't friends, but you're ok with calling her a whore?

Why are you posting? What are you looking for?
Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian
Pretty much.
I've stayed over at her house for a sleep over and there's nothing wrong with her to act like the way she does.
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
wanna bet?

i'm going to say it since no one else will...

you sound like a terrible person who isn't suited to be this girl's "friend".

i think you came here wanting us to tell you that you were right and support you in what you're doing.

you're wrong and the way you're going on in this thread makes me think you're probably one of the class bullies.

you need help as much as your "friend" does.
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Why are you "friends" with her?
Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian
We aren't exactly friends. She just calls me her friend and I feel awkward saying "no."
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
But you've had sleepovers at her house?

Hmmm
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Why are you "friends" with her?
Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian
We aren't exactly friends. She just calls me her friend and I feel awkward saying "no."
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
But you've had sleepovers at her house?

Hmmm
Originally Posted by iroc
Having sleeping overs isn't enough to consider one my friend.

We aren't exactly friends. She just calls me her friend and I feel awkward saying "no."
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
But you've had sleepovers at her house?

Hmmm
Originally Posted by iroc
Having sleeping overs isn't enough to consider one my friend.
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree
Oh.
Like, OMG iroc! How do you not know that?!?!
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I believe in manicures. I believe in overdressing. I believe in primping at leisure and wearing lipstick. I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.
Audrey Hepburn
Ummm......

You aren't her friend. You are a girl that she wants to be friends with but you are a jerk. You use her (by sleeping at her house and hanging out with her) and then make fun of her and the things she says when you hang out with her.

Leave her alone. She will figure out you suck as a person and leave you alone too.

Maybe forward her here.... we can let her know how to deal with people like you and hopefully make her feel better about herself so she won't feel the need to lie and have sex at her age.
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Ummm......

You aren't her friend. You are a girl that she wants to be friends with but you are a jerk. You use her (by sleeping at her house and hanging out with her) and then make fun of her and the things she says when you hang out with her.

Leave her alone. She will figure out you suck as a person and leave you alone too.

Maybe forward her here.... we can let her know how to deal with people like you and hopefully make her feel better about herself so she won't feel the need to lie and have sex at her age.
Originally Posted by Curlyminx
I don't use her, I only slept over at her house one time and that's it. If others consider me their friends then I have no problem. If she really thought I was a jerk then she would've stopped talking to me a long time ago.
Like, OMG iroc! How do you not know that?!?!
Originally Posted by CurlyCanadian
Like, I'm totes out of the loop. I like, don't have, like friends, and I like, don't have sleepovers, so I, like, had no idea that, like, non friends could, like, sleepover eachothers house.
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You are a jerk to her. She just might not be able to figure that out yet.

But that you are a jerk to her is the truth.

You are either a purposeful jerk, or an ignorant jerk... Either way, you are a jerk. And I don't care to figure out which.
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You are a jerk to her. She just might not be able to figure that out yet.

But that you are a jerk to her is the truth.

You are either a purposeful jerk, or an ignorant jerk... Either way, you are a jerk. And I don't care to figure out which.
Originally Posted by Curlyminx
So be it.
Ummm......

You aren't her friend. You are a girl that she wants to be friends with but you are a jerk. You use her (by sleeping at her house and hanging out with her) and then make fun of her and the things she says when you hang out with her.

Leave her alone. She will figure out you suck as a person and leave you alone too.

Maybe forward her here.... we can let her know how to deal with people like you and hopefully make her feel better about herself so she won't feel the need to lie and have sex at her age.
Originally Posted by Curlyminx
I don't use her, I only slept over at her house one time and that's it. If others consider me their friends then I have no problem. If she really thought I was a jerk then she would've stopped talking to me a long time ago.
Originally Posted by BeautyisMiree

You might be her only "friend" since you let her consider you her friend. And even if you're a jerk to her, she might feel alone and still want to be "friends" with you. It happens all the time in teen movies, friends stay friends even if the one friend is a bully and mean to the other friend.
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You are 14. I m not sure that me, at 14, would have understood what these ladies are telling you.
But everything they have told you is true. Print this thread a re-read it a few years from now.
I m not saying you are not intelligent enough or anything, it s just that life experiences change us and our views.

To me, you are honestly trying to help your friend, but you are not doing it the right way.
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