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Old 06-12-2013, 12:06 PM   #21
 
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Most men I've met love my hair. I've only heard one guy say they'd wonder how it would look straightened and that was a shocker. Exes didn't like my hair straight. Current bf has never seen it straight and thinks it'll look bad. Truth is I've been lazy to straighten it over the last couple of years but I like the change up for a day or two, then I get bored.

I've only heard one guy say he prefers straight hair and it was a friend in college. He also preferred blondes so he's that type. Naturally I don't attract those types so I don't have issues with my hair. Now my butt on the otherhand...le sigh..
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I dunno I like curly hair on girls, its sexy and definitely nice to see considering most girls I see have straight hair. My girlfriend has straight hair but when she curls it I go bananas.
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Old 06-12-2013, 12:13 PM   #23
 
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It hurts my heart that most African American men I've encountered still prefer fried-straight hair to naturally curly. Even if they like it curly, it seems they prefer it straight...even when the straight hair is limp and lifeless.
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Old 06-12-2013, 01:47 PM   #24
 
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It hurts my heart that most African American men I've encountered still prefer fried-straight hair to naturally curly. Even if they like it curly, it seems they prefer it straight...even when the straight hair is limp and lifeless.
Yes that's how my hair is when I straighten it because I do it with an iron. A blowout is better but no one does that at the salons anymore and I dont know how to do that. I find straight hair limp and lifeless in general though because i'm comparing it to my hair.

I think it's sad also because it's not natural.
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It hurts my heart that most African American men I've encountered still prefer fried-straight hair to naturally curly. Even if they like it curly, it seems they prefer it straight...even when the straight hair is limp and lifeless.
I'm not sure I agree with this entirely. I still think it's going to be determined by how flattering the hairstyle is to that particular person. I guarantee that no one is going to prefer me with straight hair because it is highly unflattering to my particular features. They wouldn't be thinking about how I'd look better with this or that type of hair, they simply wouldn't be attracted to me with flat, limp, stick-straight hair, whereas they're more likely to be attracted to me with my curls or even big, voluminous straight style--volume being the key word here. They simply wouldn't give me a second look. And, I guarantee no one was complimenting me or my hair when it was was relaxer-fried, breaking off all over, and in varying lengths from 1 inch to 6 inches--and not on purpose.

Also, I think we're painting "curly hair" with too broad a brush. There are several types of curly hair, and because a guy likes 2a curls doesn't mean he'll like 3b or 4a curls, or if he likes 4b curls that he won't like 2b curls or vice versa or any other combination.

I couldn't pull off my own natural 3c/4a curls--they weren't flattering to my features OR my baby fine hair. I look like an entirely different person with my 2a/2b curls, courtesy of BKT. Some people have features that work with an array of hair styles and curl patterns--I'm not one of them.

It goes back to what was stated upthread early on: It's all about the total package to them. Most guys couldn't care less how you achieve the finished looks they find attractive, as long as they find you attractive.

I personally don't think many people can successfully pull off the parted, "drowned-rat" look that so many are sporting today, but that's a different conversation. I'm a root-volume girl--even just a little volume--perhaps because I don't have it naturally.
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It hurts my heart that most African American men I've encountered still prefer fried-straight hair to naturally curly. Even if they like it curly, it seems they prefer it straight...even when the straight hair is limp and lifeless.
I'm not sure I agree with this entirely. I still think it's going to be determined by how flattering the hairstyle is to that particular person. I guarantee that no one is going to prefer me with straight hair because it is highly unflattering to my particular features. They wouldn't be thinking about how I'd look better with this or that type of hair, they simply wouldn't be attracted to me with flat, limp, stick-straight hair, .
I think many actually would. Just because it's straight. Even if it looked like crap.
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Old 06-13-2013, 09:11 AM   #27
 
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I've noticed last year a lot of the weaves are now 3b curly. That was nice to see.
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Old 06-13-2013, 11:14 AM   #28
 
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To answer the original question-a smart man. Or a thoughtful one.

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It hurts my heart that most African American men I've encountered still prefer fried-straight hair to naturally curly. Even if they like it curly, it seems they prefer it straight...even when the straight hair is limp and lifeless.
A lot of black men are brainwashed, unfortunately, but there are those who do like natural hair. It takes some digging, though. Playas and thugs definitely don't like it. But then, I never was into those kind of men even when I was relaxed as they tend to be shallow and can be anti-intellectual. The more artsy or nerdy types are more likely to be cool with it.
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I was asked last night by a guy from my class if my hair was naturally curly. I told him yes and he was like " I love it it's so rad!"
like I said, men that are worth talking to !
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It hurts my heart that most African American men I've encountered still prefer fried-straight hair to naturally curly. Even if they like it curly, it seems they prefer it straight...even when the straight hair is limp and lifeless.
I'm not sure I agree with this entirely. I still think it's going to be determined by how flattering the hairstyle is to that particular person. I guarantee that no one is going to prefer me with straight hair because it is highly unflattering to my particular features. They wouldn't be thinking about how I'd look better with this or that type of hair, they simply wouldn't be attracted to me with flat, limp, stick-straight hair, .
I think many actually would. Just because it's straight. Even if it looked like crap.
As cliche as this is becoming: We'll have to agree to disagree on this one.

I think many black men just get tired of feeling that our hair is restrictive to our lives and to those in our lives. Many of us don't want to do anything that will make us sweat or muss our hair; we often don't want anyone to touch our curls or elaborate hairstyles; we have to avoid the elements, water; our hair is typically high-maintenance when straightened (and sometimes when not). I think they just get tired of all that hair drama and long for the perceived simplicity and freedom straight (or straighter) hair. Whether anyone feels it is "right or wrong" to feel this way, I believe that's how many of them feel.

I personally have never met a man who was interested in straight hair at any cost. IME, men don't particularly like high-maintenance hair, even if it is straight or straighter.

I have a lot more to say on the matter--you know, me and my usual unpopular opinions--but I'll just leave it at the above. I don't really expect to change anyone's opinion.

I'm resigned to the fact that when there are multiple versions of anything, there will always be a most popular choice, a least popular choice, and everything in between. And, I'm not the least bit concerned with the ones who aren't interested in buying what I'm selling because there are plenty of others who are.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:06 AM   #31
 
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This thread reminds me of the study of kids' preferences for straight vs curly hair. Not specific to men but somewhat relevent.
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Old 06-17-2013, 01:43 PM   #32
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As for AA men, I think it's an age thing and also a socio-economic thing.

Younger and educated AA men seem to prefer natural hair IME, while older men (educated/affluent or not) and less affluent men gravitate towards straight hair.

I've also noticed AA men in the Midwest as being particularly behind the times. I think people in Midwest are pretty behind the times in general. I kid you not, I had male classmates in my graduating high school class with processes (curls, waves, conks, whatever). I graduated in 2002!!!!!!!!
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