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Old 07-13-2013, 08:08 PM   #41
 
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She's home I think, she was on Facebook. I told her that I love her and then I pressed send because I didn't know what else to say.
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Old 07-15-2013, 12:24 PM   #42
 
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Maybe ask if she wants to catch a movie or get lunch?
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Old 07-15-2013, 12:36 PM   #43
 
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I agree with Spider....I think it's great that you sent her a message on FB, but also ask if she wants to get together even if it's just to hang out at your place alone. She may decline, but keep asking periodically. Don't badger her, which I'm sure you wouldn't, but keep letting her know you are there and do want to spend time with her. She'll open up if/when she feels like it.
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Maybe ask if she wants to catch a movie or get lunch?
I just told her that I missed her and that we needed to get together before we start our senior year next month and she agreed and I'm gonna let her pick the details! Does that sound like a good idea?
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Old 07-16-2013, 08:25 AM   #45
 
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Very good idea...just give her a big hug when you see her.
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She's just avoiding the entire subject. I'm not gonna bring it up, when she's ready she'll talk
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Old 07-16-2013, 03:37 PM   #47
 
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How far away from you does she live now? Is it easy for you to go see her?
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She lives about forty minutes away, it wouldn't be a big deal to go see her because I work in a town that's halfway to there so it wouldn't be a big deal to go see her but we both work and have no cars to go see each other.
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Old 07-18-2013, 01:12 PM   #49
 
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there is not anything you can do, but be there when she needs you.

unfortunately.

and please, don't pressure her. it isn't like you can get in her head and control what she does or doesn't do, or follow her around 24/7, and when you can't have someone else do it.

and you can't do things to make her more vulnerable than she is just to keep her 'safe' and controlled by you.

just be there for her, when she needs and ASKS you, anything else is too much.
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Well she's back home and talking to another guy. I'm worried about her but there's nothing I can do
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As long as you're being supportive and encouraging her to get better, you're doing exactly what you're supposed to do. Try to see if she'll have more sleepovers with you and confide in you more. If she reverts back to any old behaviors contact her parents immediately, and make sure she is hospitalized. She wasn't able to commit the full act, and that is the best thing that could have happened.

I lost my brother in March to suicide. He was sixteen. Depression takes away too many young lives, and knowing that he took his life kills me more every day.
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As long as you're being supportive and encouraging her to get better, you're doing exactly what you're supposed to do. Try to see if she'll have more sleepovers with you and confide in you more. If she reverts back to any old behaviors contact her parents immediately, and make sure she is hospitalized. She wasn't able to commit the full act, and that is the best thing that could have happened.

I lost my brother in March to suicide. He was sixteen. Depression takes away too many young lives, and knowing that he took his life kills me more every day.
I don't trust her parents to help her very much but I told her the other night that I didn't know what she was going through and I'm not gonna pretend like I do but I am gonna be there for her every step of the way. We're hoping to hang out before school starts, maybe have a girls night: you know get a pedicure, go see a movie and then go home and veg out on Netflix and yummies
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Well that's perfect! You're doing everything right. It's sad when parents, the ones who should help you most, can't do anything about a situation.
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Casss, I am very sorry for your loss
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I can't imagine losing anyone so close to me. You're so strong! I'm so sorry for your loss.
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It's terrible. He died, and I went to hell. It hurts every day, but what's important now is helping others in his situation. Today marks exactly four months since he has passed. I really appreciate you guys being nice about it. I just want to make sure this person doesn't put herself and the hundreds of people that she has no idea love her through what I had to go through. Suicide is vicious. There were three hundred people at my brothers service. You really don't know how many lives one person can touch. Once it's done, it's done. So you have to let her know that she cannot do that.
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Old 07-23-2013, 08:25 AM   #57
 
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I'm really sorry about the loss of your brother, too, Casss.
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