How do you fund a baby shower?

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  • 1 Post By Fifi.G
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I hate that this has to be a big consideration for me, but I need to throw my SIL a baby shower and I'm worried about how well it can come together on my really thin budget. She's due in early February.

She moved from WA to CA when she married my brother last year, so for the most part we share the same pool of acquaintances here. Her lifelong friends and probably even her family aren't going to be a part of this, but knowing them, they will definitely throw one for her up there.

If I do it within what's reasonable for my budget it would be a really stoic atmosphere, not as festive as the baby showers her and I have gone to over the last year. I don't want to throw her something that isn't as sweet and thoughtful as what we've seen together though . That would be sad.

Suggestions would be really appreciated!
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It's sweet you want to throw her a shower, and I bet you can throw a very special one, on tight purse strings. Don't try to make anything as good, or better as showers you have seen in the past. That does not matter. Just make it personal, heart felt, and thoughtful. That means so much more.

I would think of some of her favorite things, or try to find out what some of her favorite toys/childhood memories are. Look up crafts for baby showers after you have an idea. See what you can swing, and go from there. If any close member of the guest list (you know well) is an excellent baker, ask them to make a cake or cup cakes rather than bringing a gift. Some people love an opportunity to bake and decorate a cake, and I have seen many beautiful homemade ones. It will come together, and if friends/family are there, it will always be great.
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There are lots of games online that you can print out for free. Also having a diaper raffle (everyone who brings a pack of diapers gets a ticket) is a good way to get a new mom prepared. Can you have it after lunch and make it a potluck where guests bring a snack to share? Dollar stores these days have tons of party supplies that won't cost an arm and a leg. Honestly it can be done on a small budget. There really is no need for elaborate balloons and centerpieces, etc. The gathering to welcome a new baby is enough.
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A co-worker and I threw my supervisor and his wife a baby shower with hardly any money. Pintrest is your friend! Make it a potluck. Make the decorations or personalize cheap decorations. Having a theme helps. If she doesn't have one, think of a cute theme she will think is funny. It's easier and cheaper to do funny than classy! We did a Superman theme because my supervisor is really into comic books and they were having a boy. I bought capes for like a dollar, personalized it with the Superman logo (but with the baby's initial instead of an S) and the parents wore them the entire shower. They thought out was hilarious! Make sure you have a treat or goodie bag guests can take home. And something personalized that mom can keep for the baby book. We did "I wish" cards which were basically letters to the baby that they can read with the baby when he gets older. Some were funny and some were sentimental.

A good party is more about who is there and the atmosphere that's created.

Have fun with it! And enlist help with any crafting and cooking you might do! Cutting out tiny logos and twist tying mini bags of popcorn at 2am all alone is not fun! :-)
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The dollar store is your friend! Favors can be made in bottles (sometimes you can get these 2 or 3 for $1), they have baby shower plates, napkins, decorations, etc.

Dollar Store Mom Frugal Fun – Crafts for Kids | Be the Best Mom Ever – On a Budget! and Dollar Store Crafts » About are great places for ideas for crafts, decor, and party favors/ideas. Games can be close to free from the interwebs.

Have everyone bring a white onesie and have the guests decorate them. This will be fun and it will take some time (the waiting around and need for games, etc will be solved). The outlay would be in craft supplies but you can also ask around and have crafters bring their own stuff to share

You could also email those you know and say that you want to give her a great shower but need help and ask for volunteers (someone volunteers to bring the cake, one for drinks, etc) we've done this at different showers.

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First of all, no one hosts a baby shower alone - at least not where I live. That's like, a five person job. It sounds like you have been to a lot of showers together. Call some of those mutual friends and ask them to cohost.
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Make use of cheap decorations. I am throwing a party next month and I making a big impact by running streamers from the ceiling so they form a tent. In the middle, I am hanging parasols. This would be great for a shower

Skip the things unneccessary things like favors.

Make the food single. Pick a theme. Like a waffle bar or an ice cream sundae bar. Something simple

Keep the drinks simple. Make kool-aid or country Time, squeeze and slice a fresh lemon or to and blend a cup full of strawberries and add it to the mix. This strawberry lemonade is a big hit

Pinterest. Pinterest. Pinterest.

Check out sites like HWTM (hostess with the mostess for more ideas)
What is your budget?

What is it that you want to do that you don't think you can afford? What's the cost prohibitive part?

At minimum, you should take up a collection for the cake.

Can your parents chip in?
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First of all, no one hosts a baby shower alone - at least not where I live. That's like, a five person job. It sounds like you have been to a lot of showers together. Call some of those mutual friends and ask them to cohost.
Originally Posted by CGNYC
This. Enlist the help of friends and/or parents to bring food and help with the decorations. I would rather do a potluck type of thing than ask anyone for money.

If you need to cut corners, start with the stupid games that everyone hates anyway. From there, scrimp on the decorations because they'll just get thrown away. In fact, I'd just buy a couple cheap bouquets from the farmer's market and call it a day. If you have the shower mid-afternoon, you won't need to provide a full meal, just cake and a few appetizers.
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Lots of good suggestions already! You can definitely do this.

My SIL and a friend hosted my shower and I think it was low cost. They had it at a relative's house (because it was a bigger venue - we all lived in apartments). It was a late afternoon "appies and dessert" potluck. Decorations were from the dollar store. Sheet cake from Costco. Everything was perfect and I had a great time . Make sure you have lots of help setting up and it will be great!


I want to thank you all for your input here. I hadn't responded but I definitely read the posts, and there's a lot of valuable ideas in here. I really appreciate it I'll hopefully be searching out this thread in the not too distant future.

On a really crappy note, my SIL learned that the baby no longer has a heartbeat during her third ultrasound this last Monday. She was nearing the end of the first trimester.

It's been rough as you can imagine but providentially her mom, her best friend, and her sister (as a surprise) were planning on coming down this week anyway. They got in yesterday so she has a good support network surrounding her right now.
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I'm so sorry to hear that. (((Hugs))) to her and the family.
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