My Son In Law Attempted Suicide...

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Lotsa, I'm so sorry you're going through all of this.
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Hope you are okay, Lotsa. (((hugs)))

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Thinking of you ((((Lotsa))))
Sorry you're going through this. You need and deserve someone more supportive.
The apartment complex said they would put a noise complaint on my upstair neighbor's door this morning and when she comes into the office they will offer to move her to another apartment. Jim didn't call the non emergency # so I called a few minutes ago and was told there was nothing they could do since a crime hasn't been committed. So frustrating.

Jim and I did a lot of talking last night. He asked if he could move out after he gets back from his business trip on Wednesday. I told him OK. We actually had a very good night together. Did our usual evening walk holding hands and doing small talk. Cooked dinner together. Kissed a lot. He even asked me if I'd go back to Vegas with him soon. He said he loved me so much. I told him that I feel he needs time alone to grow. He knows that I won't be waiting in the shadows. I have to live my own life for myself.

My oldest daughter, the one who never talks to me, left me a vm last night. She said she wanted to visit her sister and knew I was helping out and wanted to make sure I was OK and if I needed anything. I don't trust her. This is the child who didn't even call me when my parents passed away. I think she may be trying to get more info out of me. My daughter has told everyone else that she is in a facility to get off of a sleep aid she had been taking for the past year and can only do it under supervision. I will call my SIL later and see what he thinks is going on.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Have you guys talked yet?

I hope things go ok!



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Last edited by spiderlashes5000; 09-20-2013 at 11:31 AM.
I'm surprised you are handling it so well. Maybe that is the best way to go only IF you want him in your life still? I wish I would've handled my situation better sometimes. But I was pissed so I didn't. And I don't know if it would've really changed anything.

What are you going to do as far as your relationship with him?
wow!! i'm pissed at him
Originally Posted by scrills
Right..like I love you and love doing fun **** with you but don't wanna deal with your 'issues'.
The apartment complex said they would put a noise complaint on my upstair neighbor's door this morning and when she comes into the office they will offer to move her to another apartment. Jim didn't call the non emergency # so I called a few minutes ago and was told there was nothing they could do since a crime hasn't been committed. So frustrating.

Jim and I did a lot of talking last night. He asked if he could move out after he gets back from his business trip on Wednesday. I told him OK. We actually had a very good night together. Did our usual evening walk holding hands and doing small talk. Cooked dinner together. Kissed a lot. He even asked me if I'd go back to Vegas with him soon. He said he loved me so much. I told him that I feel he needs time alone to grow. He knows that I won't be waiting in the shadows. I have to live my own life for myself.

My oldest daughter, the one who never talks to me, left me a vm last night. She said she wanted to visit her sister and knew I was helping out and wanted to make sure I was OK and if I needed anything. I don't trust her. This is the child who didn't even call me when my parents passed away. I think she may be trying to get more info out of me. My daughter has told everyone else that she is in a facility to get off of a sleep aid she had been taking for the past year and can only do it under supervision. I will call my SIL later and see what he thinks is going on.
Originally Posted by Lotsawaves
So in asking if he could move out, was he ending the engagement?

I wish he would have at least tried to "suffer thru" until your daughter was out of the woods. pffft lightweight.

So sorry.

Yes, we are all very impressed by how well you're holding it down and holding it together! When it rains, it pours. But have faith that God is in control and working it all out together for you.

Your daughters don't get along w/ each other? I wonder why she didn't tell her sister the whole story about needing treatment.
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I'm just living moment by moment with Jim. He isn't my main priority right now. The sisters have had a rocky relationship. Up and down. I'm just trusting in God and doing the best I can. Got to go make chicken 'n dumplings for the grandchildren for tonite. Their request. I probaby won't post until Monday. A lot can happen in a few days.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Okay, Lotsa, it's Monday - just checking on you
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PerriP, you made me smile and chuckle this morning. Thx...I needed that.

So Jim and I grilled out for my SIL and the kids on Saturday. It was nice. Sunday morning Jim left. We held each other all night long. No sex, which wasn't what I wanted and I'm sure he knew that. I've never been a good-bye sex person. I feel it can be very demeaning for a woman. He kept kissing me at the door and having trouble leaving. Kept saying over and over how much he loved me. I finally told him that I want him to do what he feels is best for him, BUT I need a mature man who has both feet in the house and not one foot out the door. I told him if he decides to move out when he gets back that there will be no hard feelings (yea, right) but don't think that if he decides he wants to come back that I will want that. I have to think about me and what is best for me also and this wishy washy relationship isn't what I want.

Sunday afternoon I watched my granddaughter while my SIL took my grandson to a Scout event to earn a swimming badge. I was told before hand that he thought she had head lice. He said she kept scratching her head and he thinks he saw some critters on her scalp. Keep in mind this man on top of everything else is a hypochondriac, I told him that I thought she was using too much shampoo and not rinsing her hair well. I picked her up early and we went to the drugstore and got the lice treatment. I didn't see any critters on her scalp, but I did the treatment. She then baked a cake (with a little help) and decorated it. They then went to their hair appointments and I met them back at their house around 6 with everything for the meal for that night. All I heard when he came into the house was that even the hairdresser saw the lice. How could I have not seen it? I told him I was surprised that after seeing she had lice that the hairdresser did her hair. He just said they she needed to be retreated. I told him that IF she does have the head lice you don't retreat for 2 weeks. I pointed to the package and told him he could do it and there were instructions in it. I then picked up my purse and said I was tired and I was going home. He looked at me with fear in his eyes and said how am I suppose to cook this pasta. I told him the water is boiling and the instructions are on the box.

I felt bad leaving, especially becuz of the kids, but I'm exhausted. Also, earlier he was ragging on some of their friends who know what is going on and they are both disappointed that none of them are bringing meals over during the week or offering to help out with the kids. I told both of them that their friends have jobs and children that they are trying to take care of. Me included. It's not like my daughter was in an accident, had surgery, etc.

Plus my older daughter called me on Saturday and talked to me about my Renee's cocaine habit. She knew more about it then me. My daughter called me later and was upset that her sister wasn't able to visit her on Sunday, because it was planned. I told her I talked to her on Saturday and I think she said her daughter was in a play on Sunday so couldn't come. Thru our conversation I told her that her sister talked to me about her addiction. My daughter was upset that I told her sister, which I didn't. She was freaking out and I just told her that I feel it's important to not tell anymore lies.

Yes, it's Monday...I'm at work and wishing I was on a cruise instead.

ETA: I'm so sorry this is so long.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
Lotsa, I wish you were on a cruise right now. You need a break from all this madness
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I'm proud of you for telling him to read the box !

I wish you were on a cruise, too.
And just in case you needed a cruising buddy, I'd be happy to go with you
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Where should we go PerriP? I'm thinking somewhere tropical.
From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
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Wash: Yes To Carrots -Condition: Yes to Cucumber, Nature's Gate Jojoba, One C - Stylers: Deva volumizing foam, Deva UDG B'Leave In, Foxy Curls Hi-Def Curl spray
Same here.....No stress, beautiful weather, nice beach and the sound of the waves.
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From Michael Berg:

Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."

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